I eat whatever I want

Gaslighting The tactic used by manipulators aimed at making their victim doubt their own thoughts and feelings is called Gaslighting. This term is often used by mental health professionals to describe the manipulative behavior to convince the victim into thinking their thoughts and feelings are off base and not in …

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Social obligations

Your arrival is quite an inconvenience, the man said. So, what's new? Michael mumbled. For starters, make sure that you have learned more about the individual that you are going to manipulate. Make sure that you have understood them fully. By understanding your target, you can formulate an approach that …

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The Caring Brain

For starters, carry out an evaluation and learn more about how you may invoke some guilt in the victim. Ensure that the person feels bad for a variety of reasons. If you are targeting your parents, make sure that you have showcased that their parenting skills were wanting and that …

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Wanting it to go away

I don't love it when I feel sad or lonely or scared. But now I also understand that I am having these feelings for a reason. They are telling me something that I need to hear. Sadly, our always-on culture in the twenty-first century often gets in the way of …

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We all choose to be mad

The introvert is also known as the convert. This individual will often use statements such as they cry since other people are stupid. That often makes them sad. When we have unresolved trauma, it becomes locked in our body and impacts our present experience. I'm sure you've been in a …

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I love mountains

Avoid working with your phone on silent mode and within reach, something I see many clients do in the belief that this is the nearest they can possibly get to turning their devices off. Turn your phone off and put it out of sight, ideally in a drawer in another …

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This is too big to keep to yourself

The root issue was still there, unaddressed. I still felt uncomfortable in my body based on my nervous system's reaction. The other tricky thing about talk therapy is that, by nature, it requires you to keep telling your story over and over and over. This is an example of time …

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Four Corners of Productivity

Once he even went so far as to remove the light bulb in the basement. Nearly immediately after he would say those hurtful things, he would forget what he had said--even though the boys' feelings would be hurt for hours. This propensity to use words to completely demoralize an opponent …

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Love is actually scary

Again, Pride and Prejudice offers the best lessons in the world on the importance of nunchi when seeking a potential mate. After all, both pride and prejudice are inhibitors to judgment. The pride of the title refers to the initial snobbery of Mr Darcy, who deems the Bennet family to …

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Creating Space and Calm

Approach the loudest person. Approach the person surrounded by the most people. Correct answer: trick question. All the answers are wrong, as you do not have nearly enough information. In the absence of context, all five answers represent unfounded assumptions about who the decision maker is, and are not nunchi-based …

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The Villagers

This parable demonstrates that the light is always more powerful than the darkness. Light has substance and presence; What is not, cannot be more powerful than what is. We must devour the ghosts and demons that have haunted us. I refer not to the spooks that stalk our physical houses …

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On Finding Your Passion

He didn't appear to understand. That is to say, the practitioner could be ready and skilled to deliver psychosocially competent care, but the delivery system would not be ready to provide the incentives to support such care--indeed, the system may even offer active disincentives. Increasingly, as Helen McNaughton reports in …

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Love is supposed to be confusing

It really is absurd. Similarly, patience can help your clients move beyond their own immediate desires, and instead, carefully consider and wait for a desired outcome. Virtues can also provide meaning by serving a motivational function. They can orient your clients' lives around an intention or purpose. A prime example …

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The Alchemy of Gender

I felt a desperate desire to save him--a danger sign in therapy. I could affirm his suffering but not his fierce self-punishment, which I insisted had to cease. Near the end of the year, I realized he was having difficulty telling me that he had begun again to exact his …

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While They Were Sleeping

As Penny was getting older, she was competing with younger women for roles and felt that larger breasts might give her an edge, so she started saving money to get a breast enlargement. She saw a recommended doctor, and the first thing he did was give her a breast exam …

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Stop whining

It made him realize that he was still engaged in negative thinking--this discovery was one of the many gifts the relationship gave him. He got to see things differently and shine a light on some of his issues. His partner's response was a reflection not of the wound, but of …

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On Over-thinking

Ads that said, You could be enough, if only you could be seen driving this kind of car, wearing these kinds of clothes, living in this kind of house, hanging out with these kinds of people. If only you belonged. It took me a long time to realize that I …

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Connecting With Others

A man needs a castle like he needs meaning and purpose. He can live without each, but to give some proof that he's here for a reason - and proof to himself, not anyone else - some kind of responsibility over others is a must. Finances are a simple way to measure …

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Know Your Style

The baby picks up on this disconnection and learns not to expect too much from the mother in terms of emotional connectedness. She may even begin to mirror the mother's behavior. As an adult, however, she is likely to continue to search for that connection with a mother figure. At …

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Inner Work = Outer Change

I was about to receive magic for Christmas, and I never saw it coming. The year I turned nine also happened to be the year I was obsessed with baseball. Not because I was good at it by any stretch, but I had found an old glove in one of …

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The courage to have an open mind

People vary in the resources available to them to resist or rework the cultural meanings of illness. Those meanings present a problem to patient, family, and practitioner every bit as difficult as the lesion itself. A final aspect of this type of illness meaning deserves mention. The cultural meanings of …

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Afraid of not being able to pay my bills

It means that our thinking shapes our experience of the loss. She continued, David, since you say we each experience grief differently, let's explore why. I told Louise about my friend whose husband had died suddenly from a brain bleed. But Louise surprised me when she didn't ask about the …

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What is stopping you from asking?

Whenever you are dazzled, grabbed, arrested, compelled, wandering, lost, late, or blind to your own reason, you can suspect that an archetype is present and has something important to tell you. It is imperative that you slow down, breathe, recognize its presence, and listen carefully. Recognizing Their Presence Perhaps your …

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My feelings are considered by others

This led to the next step in my healing process. It is difficult to tell someone that God loves them if you don't believe it yourself. Wanting to believe in what I told these women, I found myself thrown back in front of God's mirror of truth. I knew that …

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What if robots had feelings?

Considered together with additional evidence linking imbalances in the gut to memory and cognitive impairments, this research holds fascinating promise for better understanding and treating many neurological diseases--including multiple sclerosis. Research has shown that fully one-third of the molecules in our bloodstream comprise the breakdown products of our own gut …

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