Harmful Messages and Pressures to Forgive

Like a merry-go-round needs just the right center point to spin around effectively--bringing joy and laughter to everyone who rides it--life does, too. Life needs God at the center. What I didn't realize was that when I made myself the center, life lost its balance, spun wildly out of control …

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Succeed To Make Your Dreams Come True

This is awareness, and every moment of awareness is a moment of being alive and healing. However, beware of people who constantly use the phrase I did the best I could as an excuse not to be responsible for their actions and who make no effort to be mindful and …

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The shame of wanting to be loved

There is comfort in knowing that when we are hungry, wherever we may be, we have something uniquely delicious prepared just for us waiting and ready in our cooler or the company fridge or wherever. It gives us roots of sorts in our day, and anchors us in healthy goodness …

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Working with you and for you

We don't carry snacks or water, don't plan lunch, and cavalierly figure that we will simply grab something when we get hungry. But what if we're not close to anything healthy when we get hungry? Each neuron has an axon, a long, rope-like structure that sends electrical signals from the …

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Getting Outside

Our strong desire and physical urge is to return to the equilibrium that we know. If we are in the habit of treating ourselves to a handful of cookies every night after dinner, there is a vacancy in our world--an electrical socket that has been unplugged. The core tenet of …

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Happiness frightens me

If we get acid indigestion every time after we eat pizza, then it's probably safe to say that pizza causes this effect on our system. Or if a basket of chips and salsa make us feel greasy, then that's the effect of chips and salsa. COURAGE: LET ME COUNT THE …

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Mastering the way you help is not an accident

Prebiotics are often overlooked but are necessary for probiotics to work. There is lots of evidence around both prebiotic and probiotic use in improving gut microbiome and this is having a positive impact on digestion, inflammatory bowel disease and immune health in athletes, but with regard to brain function it …

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I am perfect the way I am

They had, as you might imagine, a huge tolerance for differences. The following summer I worked in a camp with regular kids and watched girls of the same age make themselves miserable for some failure they felt regarding their size or skin or hair, or lack of athleticism in some …

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How To Succeed And Influence People

Later, she said that she probably would have won the race if she simply decided to walk instead of run. So for the last fifty yards, she continued to fall, rise, step, and fall, over and over again. If the body is stuck in preparation mode, the mind believes that …

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Your Emotional Guidance System

In the spring of 1965, he and his team faced the most feared team in track--the University of Southern California Trojans. There was little doubt that the mile belonged to the Trojans. Schools can easily foster emotional intelligence by teaching kids to feel, name, and process their emotions in a …

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Express Yourself

We don't speak openly about shame--because we're ashamed to. My mother-in-law, Kathleen, told me that sitting among her family one evening, she posed this question to the group: If you left the room, what would be the very worst thing that the rest of us might say about you--the thing …

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Feet Body Language

How did they let grown-ups know they needed help? In order to continue strengthening your self-discipline, a person must have a clear vision of what goals they are trying to accomplish. They must also have an understanding of what success means to them. If a person doesn't know where they're …

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Where to Go from Here

Once you know who your people are, tell them that they made the list and let them know that you're going to be leaning on them. Are these two separate conversations? Did Gina's boyfriend break the lamp on her head while she was eating doughnuts? Did he cause her pain …

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What are personal circumstances?

Relational trauma heals by doing relational work. It means that it is a thinking system that uses knowledge about feelings, sensations, goals, and actions that remind oneself, for example, why the marshmallow shouldn't be eaten. The cool system is very reflective, while the hot system is more emotional and impulsive …

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What if the boundaries I set hurt the other person?

Some people feel like they are putting themselves under a microscope or like the spotlight is suddenly on them, and that can feel emotionally overwhelming. Taking your time and focusing on this being a marathon experience, rather than a sprint, is a great way to prepare yourself for what lies …

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The Zero-Point Position

I let each child have a turn to feel their sensations while sitting on the ball and then return to their seats to continue coloring. Much to my surprise, not one child asked for help because they didn't understand the assignment or couldn't find their sensations. I wish that I …

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Changing Reality - the Magnet

The nuclear family is itself under extreme stress, as indicated by high divorce rates. This void is filled by the peer group . Kids were never meant to nurture one another or to be role models for one another, Dr Neufeld says. They are not up to the task. It's the …

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Take the trip

I prefer the Belgau Balance Board because it is easy to adjust the angle on the underside of the board to allow for a gentle, progressive challenge. And because there are so many gradations it can be used with kindergarten through high school age. Exercises to Improve Balance Reflexes Start …

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The Role of Music

There will be inconveniences in life, and you will be setting yourself up for a very difficult life if there is never anybody you can call to help you out. If we do not talk about an issue, it will continue to fester inside of us and influence what we …

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Did It Work?

There's a big difference between getting up for two twenty-minute intervals to feed a baby each night for the first six months, and having your sleep interrupted every hour or two for eighteen months with an average of four hours of sleep a night. While the impossible-parenting value of the …

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Pain, Pain, Go Away

What's it like to be strong like a big old oak tree? With roots in your feet and your leaves waving free? Or you can be like a river that flows clean and free From high in the mountains right down to the sea. Your breath can flow through you …

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Allowing Improved Relationships

This approach relies on representing every player in the system so the situation will be presented in a broader perspective. The stakeholders will feel safe in expressing their genuine opinion, so the outcome may be more creative and systemic. Whenever stakeholders try to define a problem or find solutions, their …

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Setting Your Intentions

We must make sure our inner peace is protected because our spiritual ancestors are constantly at work, putting us in environments and around people that represent who we were meant to be and what our true purpose is. Make sure that you are setting yourself up for success by being …

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The Key to the Qi

However, she realizes that she needs to set limits with her friend about the gym so that she doesn't reject her. Haley decides that she'll stick to her gym schedule and not count on Michelle to show up. She tells Michelle that to keep herself healthy she needs to go …

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The seized opportunity renders joy

You'll be invulnerable to love and kindness and intimacy and support too. Thoughts are stacking up in my mind, like planes waiting to land. But here comes the emergency crash one: `But if I get it wrong. The pain, the fear, the shame of this unfurls from deep within my …

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Expanding and Customizing Your Energy

My God, man! What were you thinking of, the man is a legend! Surgeons think the bald area is important because it represents a point where infection can move from abdomen to thorax; This communication is surprisingly vital, for the liver has to be directed in its development by part …

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I am in love with who I am

In fact, the spleen is the most important organ for platelets in the body: it houses up to a third of the platelets, and removes the abnormal ones from circulation. When disorders of platelets are present the spleen is invariably involved; If the spleen cleans the blood of platelets, and …

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The Concept of Not-Doing

At its other end it wraps tightly around the aorta (heart) and inserts into the vertebra of the back. This invisible ligament is why the Chinese have a connection between Small Intestine and Heart. Spleen Yang - The Pancreas The broth that comes out under the direction of the invisible ligament …

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Edge of a Cliff

Category II has female nouns, water, fire, and combat object names; Category III contains only edible plant nouns; Category IV is like A remaining class in which all remaining words are put together. This grammatical classification of nouns involves a coherent view of the world, including primitive myths. For example …

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On the Improve

You don't want to know all that I learned in school. COPING WITH STRUCTURE All told, I got a good high school diploma without really having to make an effort. After graduating, I proceeded on to military service. My father had described the drill in the military as extremely taxing …

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Say Hello, Wave Goodbye

If you feel depressed, you're living in the past. If you feel at peace, you're living in the present. One thing I'll admit is that at times in my life, I've either been anxious (thinking about the future) or melancholic (about not living and loving right in the past). At …

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Inside the Keeper's Pantry

Look at the Godfather he was dominant, so it's not about being extravagant or tough dominance is just meaning what you say and being humble enough to state the position where you see yourself in life and stand by it. Being dominant isn't being a thug or being ripped. It's …

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Encouraging Individuality

Now, try to feel every bit of your body. Notice any points of tension and just make a note of them. I want you to start relaxing your muscles from the top of your head to your toes. Tense the crown of your head and release the tension, pushing it …

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Performance in a Social Context

Or, if you have been blessed with this knowledge, how has it helped you through the years? What do you think God's response will be to the excuses that you have made along the way? We are deeply influenced by our backgrounds and the various stressors of life, but we …

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