Counter this by finding and acknowledging strengths in the person (such as their high level of inter-personal skills). Rather than looking at their behavior as a problem of someone with BPD, see that they are in fact very reasonable and expected responses for someone suffering from this disorder. Acknowledge that …

That's okay. The goal here is simply to help them to understand how these situations make you feel and react. As you know, the challenges of BPD mean you are easily drawn into arguments, conflict and dramas. Ensure your partner understands the way your anger can creep up on you …

It's much easier to smoke or drink than to go to psychotherapy or exercise. The former will make the depression gloomier and allow you to develop the condition, while the latter will allow you to recover. If you find yourself engaging in any type of substance abuse or you change …

Second, a good hug stimulates pressure receptors under your skin, which leads to a chain of events including increased activity of the vagus nerve, a key component of the parasympathetic nervous system, which relaxes you. It also triggers the brain to release oxytocin, and this mood-enhancing, bond-forming chemical--the key to …

You don't want to make the mistake of Bridget Jones in Bridget Jones's Diary. She was so unprepared for hot sex with Daniel Cleaver that it took forever for him to remove her shapewear knickers. Nothing helps you get in the mood like drop-dead sexy lingerie. Every woman needs at …

And then there are the fragrances that scream OL. To get the word on how to choose a Y&H scent and the newer way to wear it, I talked scents with Yves de Chiris, a renowned fragrance creator responsible for some of the biggest launches of our time, whose …

Not just the goal you are pursuing and what you achieve, but when you use what you have and achieved to bring joy to others as well. What do you have? I hope that you have learned some important truths and those have enriched your life in some way or …

You really do need at least one perfect black dress. It's your evening basic -- a blank canvas that you can accessorize up and down a zillion different ways and wear over and over and over again. Make sure to buy one in all-season fabric for the most versatility (you can't …

Goals (and Problems) Stepping-Stones Years ago, one of us (Jeff) was hiking in the deep woods of Oregon with a friend. We came to a rushing stream that was not on our map and cut across our trail. We were several days into the hike with several more to go …

Use this game with people you know to test it and have a good laugh. Up until then it was a mystery, since the blood-brain barrier keeps the brain so protected and isolated. But just as an aquarium needs a filter to remove accumulated toxins, so the brain needs a …

So guess what happened when they noticed that negative superlatives work 30% better to get readers attention than positive ones, or that average click-through rates on negative headlines skyrocket and are a whopping 63% higher than that of positive headlines? But slowing down, whether through self-care rituals like taking a …

Ultimately, you will find it easy to make decisions without procrastinating. The best thing you can do if you are having money problems is to develop prosperity thinking. There are two prosperity affirmations I have used for many years that work well for me. They will work for you, too …

Breathe this feeling down into your chest, your arms, and your hands. Breathe it in through your chest and abdomen and into your lower belly, and breathe it out and down into your legs and feet. Breathe this delightful feeling into every part of your body and fill yourself with …

This website and campaign was set up by a non-profit called the Autistic Self Advocacy Network. This is a perfect example of the social engineering tactic known as the Overton Window. This concept64 is used to shift the public consciousness to accept as normal more and more bizarre ideas gradually …

When you can get these behaviors, relationships, and agreements out in front of you, you can begin to observe and individuate from them. In this protected space, you can see yourself not as an unwitting victim of your behaviors or the situations in your life, but as an upright individual …

Practice 2: Defining Your Boundary Creating Your Healthy Personal Space Having a defined sense of your boundaries means that you know what's important to you and where you begin and end. Being well-defined in relation to your anxiety can mean that you know how you work best, how to say …

Discarding items into the trash seems especially hard for most people who hoard, harder than recycling them or giving them away, perhaps because of feelings of guilt about waste and concerns that the objects have meaning and value and shouldn't just be tossed into the trash. Unfortunately, such sentiments lead …

This means that 1 in every 40 adults suffers from problematic hoarding, with an even higher frequency among older adults. This remarkably high prevalence rate raises the question of why HD is so common and whether Western consumerism and marketing might play a role in excessive accumulation of objects and …

John Harvard bequeathed a copy to his newly founded college in 1638, and Adam Smith, Benjamin Franklin, and Thomas Jefferson all had copies in their personal libraries. But Epictetus's manual appears in unexpected places throughout history. Shakespeare has Hamlet declaim, There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes …

This increased rate of published research on hoarding has continued in the past few years. In Dr Randy Frost and Dr Tamara Hartl's seminal 1996 paper on the compulsive hoarding syndrome, the authors proposed an explanation as to why people hoarded objects in their homes. Remarkably, the information they provided …

People, who had the biggest influence on your life while growing up, are called parental figures. The messages they imparted on you were stored in your subconscious mind. They now dictate your behavior; These behaviors you repeat, some of them negative, are then also imprinted on your children in certain …

Dumped on you Immediately his already irritated, negative and tired mom started screaming: Jimmy! What have you done! You clumsy boy, you are good for nothing! Can't even dry a plate without breaking it! You are a real failure! Who do you think is going to buy me a new …

In the process, you handle your everyday stress too. When you go through the programme, go slow. If you're just starting out, learn each exercise bit by bit. Maybe do one or two exercises in each category. Pay attention to form, feel every exercise that you perform. The mind-muscle connection …

You will appear more confident, reducing your chance of becoming a victim. HOW TO BECOME MORE AWARE What do you do if you have a hard time staying plugged in? Is there a way to exercise your mind and train it to be more aware? Luckily, there is. PLAY MEMORY …

Next, I asked ELSIE to fill out the chart with other situations when she recalled feeling angry, sad, and anxious. I asked her to refer to the chart in session and at home whenever she was having difficulty lLENNYling how she was feeling. RATING THE INTENSITY OF EMOTION At times …

When we're still, right now, wondrous things can be noticed. And yes, I suppose it's ancient in a way, since it always is, though it is ageless. Either way, it is incredible. What was your goal in fear chasing? In the way of time, I wasn't aiming for some particular …

Additionally, parents that exhibit anxious behaviours themselves risk their behaviour rubbing off on the child who will likely grow up to demonstrate similar anxious behaviours. Stressful events that occur in childhood cause a child to have a greater risk of developing an anxiety disorder. If a child experiences or witnesses …

You will probably adjust the lighting first as this makes the most profound difference to a space. The dimmer and darker the better. You might be arranging battery-operated tea lights around the room or lighting candles at home. You might have a string of fairy lights to put up. Then …

Allowing the conflict resolution process to unfold in a logical and incremental way means moving from contentious and tightly held positions to a process with more give-and-take between the parties. An intrinsic aspect of genuine give-and-take is gradually taking more risk to show all the elements of one's position and …

This is, of course, nonsense. As long as you have gone through steps one through three, it is safe to let the worry go. You've done what you can. Now it is time to move on to some other project or topic. Not only will this help you, it will …

I have seen Qigong students expand the circumference of their field three times the size by the end of a session. This technique is one of the fastest ways I know to open and unblock energy channels and make your aura bright and vibrant again. It also increases the amount …

It becomes like a dance. Attack and defend. Defend and attack. Welcome to the big struggle. It is a struggle of varying dimensions. It is a struggle to get the other person's attention, or a struggle to justify why providing that attention is so difficult; Forces of distraction intensify all …

SUBTLE BODIES Subtle energy and subtle energy bodies are terms used to speak about the aura, aura layers, and energies that we cannot physically feel or see but can sense. You are continuously perceiving subtle energy around you on a daily basis and are reacting to it before your conscious …

The energy channels called acupuncture meridians, nadis, and major and minor chakras are located within the structure of the etheric layer. They are part of the structure that allows the flow of life force energy, called chi in Traditional Chinese Medicine, to be distributed throughout the entire aura and physical …

You don't even remember that just two days ago we had a conversation about how much work around the house I am left with having to do, and you don't even remember that in that conversation you said to me from now on, every night, before you got up from …

It's kind of exciting to buy some chocolate, but it is only a circumstantial fix to my existential crisis. I'd gone away thinking I was going to change the world. Back in London, nobody knows what I've done or understands its value. My parents aren't sure how to engage with …

When asked if this was part of her job, she replied, That's not part of my job. But that's part of me. From this study and subsequent research, Wrzesniewski and her colleagues created the phrase job crafting to describe what employees do to redesign their own jobs in ways that …

Now, try thinking of a past positive event. You'll probably find that it's much harder for the mind to do, because of how our minds have been conditioned toward negativity by friends, family and society. It's much the same way when we try to see the future the way we …

A key question is whether anything can be done to make your cellular energy furnaces work better. Fortunately, the answer is a resounding yes! High-dose B vitamins, magnesium, and malic acid are especially important. These are already included in the Energy Revitalization System vitamin powder. Ribose is also critical and …