Remember that this is validation coming from outside of yourself and that you do not need validation from outside of yourself because you can validate yourself. Then, begin to identify what you truly believe about what you were originally judging, such as a behavior or a feeling, and start affirming …

The struggle that she has to deal with is an internal one. It is not your job to fix your parent. Most of the time a narcissistic mother is not going to be aware of the way that she is making people feel or of the things that she is …

Do you think it would be helpful to understand better why you have eating binges? Of course, Dr Matt. I get like a zombie when I do it. I really have no idea what's going on. It's like I pop back in' and half the time I can't even remember …

How about Felicia's binge eating? Eating too much in one sitting clearly has delayed health benefits that only show up months or years following the binge. Not everyone who exhibits disordered eating will suffer the social or physical consequences of such eating. Many times, the negative consequences of binge eating …

So just because someone might want space, that doesn't mean the person doesn't want to be understood. There is an anthropological theory that supports why we want others to get what we're communicating. In evaluating differences between Neanderthal and Homo sapiens brains, researchers discovered that Neanderthal brains had a larger …

Sit and breathe in a continuous flow, without interruption or pause. You need to be careful with this exercise and do it only for a short period of time. The inhale leads directly to the exhale, without stopping or holding the breath in, and vice versa. Puff the cheeks and …

In each case, the choice will have an effect on our long-term future. Emotions can influence us to make decisions that feel good at the moment but that will ultimately affect us adversely in the future. For instance, making a conscious decision to stay in and study instead of going …

Meditation has been proven to quiet the mind and bring peace and balance to the person that is using it. The list for improving your brain and your health are endless. Find something that works for you and continue to do it. If after time that doesn't seem to work …

Doing this will lead to alternative results and thinking ahead to see how each decision will end and weighing the options. Leo owns a catering company, and he needs to hire another employee but, isn't sure where to create the money for one. He starts to ask himself where he …

She then puts in place a plan to eat right and exercise. The goals will not work unless you act upon the goal. Create a plan to put in place so that you will reach that goal. When Sandy reached a 30-pound weight loss, she celebrated by buying herself a …

Others may need to use TENS for a while to treat their pain. It appears to be safe and free of side effects. A successful TENS treatment can wean someone off pain medication, improve mood, and eliminate pain-related depression. When we treat pain, folks who couldn't exercise can now go …

Lord knows, I've tried. Once I was managing a group of uninspired salespeople. Feeling challenged, I said, I'm going to make them successful if it kills me. Guess what? it just was, and he just was, and his relationship with his dad just was. Until it was gone, Jake did …

I said, Then you'll have to forget it. There isn't any more time. Where would you find any? Listen, my friend, when the clock strikes midnight, that's it! If, and when, the infant's groan produces no reaction from others in her world, the contractions strengthen, and the discomfort increase causes …

Most of the associations are created at a subconscious level and are therefore almost impossible to resist since we may not even be aware that the association is happening. There will be times, of course, where that new world is rocked by unforeseen circumstances and events, but you will be …

However, when a narcissist becomes a bit too physical and performs the murder, the rape, or some other crimes with cold blood, that person can already be categorized as a malignant or aggressive narcissist. After spending 10 minutes with Todd, she was convinced that he was her soul mate. They …

Third, we can use my 28-day plan to protect our immune systems as well, since many experts believe that environmental toxins of all types are also disrupting our immune systems. It's about crossing over--in more ways than one. Angie used a wheelchair, propelling herself forward with her feet. One hand …

adding kara to aham means that we experience a limit on our feeling of existence. our Clottery to the past and present contexts in which it was born may be scary at first, but in so doing, we can experience a broader emotional life. self-talk impacts how we see and …

Frequency is how often you practice. This state is referred to as the depressive position. If we can reach this position in which we accept gray areas in our lives, each other, and ourselves, we can think differently about our hostility. For example, if being a Clot is your way …

As one phase undergoes dissolution, it leaves the space for something new to arise: a new awareness, a new consciousness, a new foundation. I once struggled to not blow up a much-cherished, multi-year project with colleagues I cared for deeply (and still do! . ) Since I didn't want to lose their …

They may not realize how meaningful the Sanskrit words are. The downside of this advice is that persistently anticipating these types of people, and rigorously protecting ourselves from their notorious behavior, leads to a state of constant anxiety. This may trigger our own Clotish behavior, as we preemptively overprotect ourselves …

Be deferential, err on the far side of polite, offer to help, assume you should leave your well-cleaned shoes by the door and most definitely turn off your phone. Our insurance must pay for it, whether or not it was a preexisting condition. As a country, we need to stop …

(Steve, your story does not add up. But he waited to express these thoughts until he could blend them with some more generous ones. He ultimately said he understood that she was trying to please him, and that he should have complimented her at the time, but that he also …

This provides a positive future vision, something that you can move towards, rather than something you are moving away from - focus on the gain rather than the pain. Meaning is also carried by the emphasis placed on different words, and the pace of your speech. Depending on where you put …

Situations don't care at all. Breathing in and out through the nose, do a minute or so of kapalabhati pranayama. This means breathing sharp, rapid breaths using your abdominal muscles, focusing on the exhales, and allowing the inhales to be passive or reflexive. Follow this exercise with one or two …

Consequently, conscious experience is populated with unfamiliar properties or emptied of familiar ones. Sometimes, the subtraction of a property may result in the perception of a different combination of existing ones. It is pitiful that such circumstances have often been interpreted in terms of mental entities rather than in terms …

Many of our greatest minds understood this. Renowned painter Salvador Dali advised, "Have no fear of perfection, you'll never reach it." Philosopher Immanuel Kant noted, "Out of the crooked timber of humanity, no straight thing was ever made." If these great icons understood that perfection is not possible, why do …

Once his workout partner went on an extended business trip to Germany for several weeks.guess how many times John worked out. It was somewhere less than twice. Without a workout partner, his discipline isn't strong. There really is power in working out with other people: a friend, a family …

As a bonus, the fibers are very beneficial to prevent constipation, which can round your belly. There is a scientific explanation for the popularity of low-carbohydrate diets: large amounts of carbohydrate from white flour and added sugar can wreak havoc on your blood sugar level (the amount of sugar in …

The sixteenth-century political philosopher Thomas Hobbes says to treat others with the same dignity with which you would want to be treated. Hobbes puts his own spin on the golden rule: "Do not that to another which you would not have done to yourself" (Hobbes, 1939, 172). In disrespecting others …

At least I didn't have to call my wife for help. It's always a moral victory and a personal triumph when I can find something without needing my wife's help. Premature Invalidators can be protective in nature, keeping you from trying new things so you won't be disappointed. On the …

Not being able to see didn't help either. The vision problem has nothing to do with ADD, unless there's some brain damage affecting both, which I doubt. With no fine motor coordination nor ability to see, I couldn't play baseball or basketball, but I could play in the line, somewhat …

The only problem was, I couldn't do it. I couldn't decide what temperature the bouncing dial was reading. That flustered me and I couldn't keep up. We all got pretty frustrated, as well as hot. The engineers uneasily decided to let me try the driving while one of them did …

Yes, you do have a say in your life. Remember, No excuses. Find a way. Believe for a miracle. Press on till you win. Don't quit! What is your relationship with your health and money? Explain. What is your level of discipline over your health, and finances? Are you more …

That is, the participants have to be "blind" to the treatment they receive. Are these controls tight enough? Not yet! Studies have found that if the person giving out the pills knows who gets the drug and who gets the placebo, he can give subtle clues, even unknowingly, that tell …

This shame fed his discouragement and demoralization and they fed the shame, in a vicious cycle. The sense of shame fed his sneakiness and his evasions, and motivated his hiding the truth from himself as well as from others. Shame is not technically a part of ADD itself, but usually …

Given the enormous influence others have on our actions, how can we manage distraction around those with whom we want to spend uninterrupted quality time? How do we change our tendencies toward distraction when those around us haven't changed theirs? Essayist and investor Paul Graham writes that societies tend to …

Most of us do, and for good reason. The health benefits of massages are varied and well documented. For starters, studies have shown that massages reduce cortisol--the stress hormone--by 31 percent, while at the same time increasing mood-boosting hormones like dopamine and serotonin by as much as a third. The …

They would be either confrontational (playing a police officer interrogating a suspect) or collaborative. Before taking part in the role playing, the subjects chose which type of music they preferred to listen to for a given scenario--tunes aimed at making them feel angry, happy, or neutral. There are two levels …

This altered gene activity, in turn, affects the normal functioning of your brain. In summary, negative stimulation changes gene activity which results in dysfunction of the neural network in your brain. When that happens during a vulnerable period, the brain does not work well, and the result is depression. Depression …

The devil is in the details and the details accumulate to big problems if they're missed. Getting out of bed on time is a good decision, but you also have to decide to turn around and make your bed, pick up your clothes, etc. Making your bed is a good …