Change your outlook

You know those days where all you want to do is lie in bed and binge watch Netflix? How about those times when you want to drink a whole bottle of wine, or eat an entire chocolate brownie tray, or fire off a nasty email to a co-worker, or scream …

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Pleasure Now, Pleasure Later

What makes you think you have what it takes to make that kind of impact on the world? However, there must still be a clear plan about when or how you are going to use it. Rule #6: If it needs to be fixed in some way, it doesn't come …

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Love is supposed to free me from pain

I asked him what things he had a hard time parting with, and he showed me a notearticle from two grades prior that was so tattered that the cardboard had worn through the outside covering. He shared that he had liked his teacher that year and earned the best grades …

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Toy Story and Game Theory

It meant that I was able to let go when I most needed it, so I would be able to get by on other occasions. As Mark Twain famously said, 'Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear -- not absence of fear'. Let's work your fear through a little process …

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Empowerment, voice, and choice

Data from the Centers for Disease Control suggest that nearly 13 percent of Americans reported experiencing worsening confusion or memory loss after age sixty, but most--fully 81 percent--had not consulted with a health care provider about their cognitive issues. So, how can mediation help us stay more motivated in life …

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Collaboration and mutuality

It is generally believed that these three forms represent the earth (Brahma), water (Vishnu), and Agni (Shiva). Powerful yet widely misunderstood, mother Kali is the goddess of death, time, and holocaust. Despite her immense destructive power, she can be a strong mother-figure and a symbol of kindness-love. Kali is claimed …

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Smelling the bullshit

The words I want to meditate on are the meditator, the thing of meditation. Intellectual thought and, therefore, the process of thought becomes one. Some have had opportunities some of us can only imagine; As human beings, it's natural for us to judge and assume, but herein lies our own …

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I know and love myself

It acts like a big reset button on my brain and lets the less significant issues (that are a disproportionate brain drain) melt away. Professional sports require constant stress from athletes both physically and mentally, so advanced muscle relaxation techniques can help athletes optimize optimal performance and functioning in their …

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That really set you back, didn't it?

Purpose also puts a damper on depression, which can be common in one's later years and is a huge risk factor in itself for memory decline, stroke, and dementia. I should add that ikigai is a word heard a lot in Japan, especially in Okinawa, where certain populations have incredibly …

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Develop Honest Bias

The puzzle becomes grander and larger, showing more and more of its meaning. By the time you place the last piece, you have gathered the information to complete a full memory. Given this analogy, you can see that in order for memory to work properly, the right pieces of the …

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What are you grateful for?

If Rachel hadn't been the best little girl in the world at her job, she would have wound up getting canned just for being herself. I've heard many people of color express a similar outlook on overwork. You'd also be out for blood if they hurt anyone or killed your …

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Love is actually for everyone

Aunt Jane did that a lot when she got nervous. Jane, take the pot roast out at five o'clock. He didn't listen. Six months later he quit his job, broke his lease, and hightailed it back to Boston. The moral of the story? If you love something--sports, music, hiking, theater …

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Incompatible people

When we become lax with our boundaries, our identity can merge with the identities of others, and we feel a bit lost and untethered. We're not sure where our choices begin or end, who we are, or what we genuinely like, love, or dislike. That just means you have even …

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Constructive Thinking

Honestly, that doesn't sound bad, but it might freak out my husband, Patrick. I paused here to explain that defining the future requires incredible attention to detail. Distribute your weight evenly between your two feet. Now shift your weight alternately on your left and then on your right foot, so …

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How would you explain who you are?

You need to treat yourself with love, and when you treat yourself with love, you will not beat yourself up for the mistakes you make in life. Mostly, People who are harsh on themselves lack love for themselves. Law of Attraction This law states that whatever you think and focus …

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Other Pastimes

But really when I think about it, God can't stop the evil in the world. He must have been present. I'm still alive, fairly normal, and not mentally insane. He protected my spirit, kept me whole, and led me to recovery. God had to have been there protecting me and …

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Environmental Assistance

It doesn't matter if I trust him, I trust myself. If I have a feeling, an intuition, or something doesn't feel right, today I make sure I say it. Before, it was about not trusting me, not just him. I would be too quiet. It's not okay now not to …

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How Emotions Affect Your Life

And, don't worry, this calendar didn't look like this at 5am when I planned my day (see Daily Planning as an event at 4:30 am). On November 13th, I had one client cancel their meeting and I added five action items throughout the day. There were also some action …

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What if I started a business?

In his original work published in 1996, he directed 48 individuals with moderate to severe coronary artery disease to make lifestyle changes. They were put on a 10 percent fat vegetarian diet, encouraged to do moderate aerobic exercise, and were given stress management training and smoking cessation counseling. Over one …

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The Daily Dinner Meeting

Canned beans are very useful in a busy household, however. Canned foods do have salt in them as a preservative, which is the negative. Salt restriction is most important for people with heart failure, and some restriction is necessary if they have high blood pressure. Most people, though, can tolerate …

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I drink too much coffee

It is important to note that in studies, the same level of inflammation was not noted when people drank sour milk or ate yogurt. In fact, a negative relationship was found; Likely, they do not have the same effect on the body as other milk products. If you have to …

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Making Lemonade--Their Office

They are more equipped to handle the entry of a pathogen. Between these cells are tight junctions, like a barricade that prevents infections from getting through. But if those junctions break and an intruder gets in, immune cells (the T and B cells) arrive, which are active immune fighters. These …

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Yes, I do feel very frustrated

It is not unusual to want some degree of separation to sort out your thoughts and feelings. Best facilitated by a therapist or counselor, together you and your partner agree to a separation for a specific amount of time. Then you will come back together to renegotiate the terms of …

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On the Power of Suggestion

I had an active lifestyle in sports and could pursue anything that my heart desires. So, whenever I read lessons given by Dr Jordan Peterson in 12 Rules for Life or in Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People, it intuitively makes sense. To those who didn't have …

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The La-La Song

Obsession has a negative stigma tied to it. It's included in many clinical disorders, the most commonly known being obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). People look in disgust at the straight A student who complains about a 96 on their exam. They see someone who constantly slaves over their work, and …

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I Did Not Choose This

Just as there is a distinction between the social drinker and the alcoholic, there is a distinction between the person who has one affair and the person who repeatedly has affairs even when a job or marriage may be in jeopardy. Not everyone who has affairs, participates in unsafe sex …

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Momentous Moments

Not powerful enough? I've had seven knockouts in my last ten fights! It wasn't until Andy invited the fighters up to his Cal State lab for testing that he was able to convince them that he was correct. He had them jump on a force plate that recorded their power …

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Be the captain

Yet, there are many ways people can thrive in relationships, including polyamory, that get left out of this normativity. And of course, people can thrive without primary relationships too. Later, as you will read, I learned I was wrong. It's an older term that originated in the medical and psychological …

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How to Help Build Better Brains

In an environment where we can initiate and manage online and offline social connections, social media not only serves as a means of entertainment and socializing, but it also serves attachment functions. In this article, you'll learn about the origins of attachment theory, the three main categories of attachment (secure …

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What would you do in each situation?

It was a bit hard for me and my friends to roll with his social gaffes when we first met him, as he inadvertently insulted several people, much to his partner's chagrin. Over time we've come to accept that it's simply part of his makeup. When he says or does …

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Can you be more specific?

In our modern age, scholars continue to shape and influence this work by viewing body liberation through the lens of anti-Blackness, striving to stop the cyclical machine of anti-Black death. Rachel Cargle, Tressie McMillan Cottom, Brienne Colston, Da'Shaun Harrison, Samantha Irby, Myles E. Johnson, Kiese Laymon, Ijeoma Oluo, Ilya Parker …

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What's important is that you make the leap

Furthermore, because group-centered leadership fosters active participation on the part of group members, interaction among members increases, thus making it likely that they will learn how they affect others and how they function as members of a democratic group. We shall again draw upon some of the statements obtained through …

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