To hear what this source wisdom is saying is one thing, to put it into practice is quite another. That is very bad news, because there's nothing we can do about the problem if it's not us. Sometimes owning up to our dissociated and denied self-experience obstructs how we need …

For example, all their friends have an iPhone 10. Of course, we all understand the appeal of gossip. It's human to enjoy the surprise at a sudden disclosure, the impact of a scandalous revelation. But as forcefully as I can, I'm telling you: gossip has absolutely no place among friends …

If your requests are just useless, that shows quite a large and unusual failing in that person. He saw the bigger picture and wanted to take action, but again, Americans rejected punitive action, especially in the form of taxation. Reduction in sugar intake not only improves individual health but would …

I am asking questions. Look - look. We're both flaming now but don't forget: I love you, your happiness is the crucial thing, this negative rush we're stuck in will only last five minutes. How 'bout we shut up for a sec, get in a big hug and a kiss, then …

I remember watching a woman preach, practical and modest in the way I understood but also carefully dissecting a complicated bit of Scripture. I looked around like, Oh, my word! These folks are taking her seriously and no one is going up in flames, and I am so happy my …

She synthesised the information and came up with an innovative design. Her clients were delighted with the course and she was given a lot of praise and recognition for her work. This made her feel that all the effort had been worthwhile, even though her colleagues and clients had no …

Up the ladder went Seth. Up the ladder with a very small bucket of paint balanced on one arm and a two-inch trim brush in the other--bounding to the top rung like the overwrought lunatic that he was. I, standing at the base, held the ladder steady and shouted up …

At last, and certainly for the first time in her life, Eleanor felt safely and securely held and soothed. She felt seen, she felt known, she felt felt. Souvestre demonstrated what looks in retrospect like a certain amount of primary maternal preoccupation. (The mother is fascinated by the baby. ) It …

Making decisions is, for many people, a cause of serious stress. If you want to make quick, clear and effective decisions, decisions you can stand fully behind, you must first determine where a decision will lead you and at which goal you want to direct your energy. You remove a …

But to be honest, at some stage in my life I lost touch a little with the real value of these rituals. Although I could always appreciate the beauty of lighting candles on a Friday night, standing next to my mum as she marked the beginning of the Sabbath with …

"Walk! I can't walk home from school! That would take forever!" the Lamberts' son, Will, practically shouted into his cell phone the first time the issue came up. Thinking, even when thinking about something may be difficult. Making every effort to see things clearly, whether or not this comes easily …

Its opinion is strong and difficult to ignore. To get to the top, to complete the journey, we must silence that voice, pluck it out of our minds, and let it fall to the depths of oblivion at the bottom of the cold, dark well where it belongs. Only then …

Both men and women in the study ate more in response to larger portions. Fewer than one half of the men and women reported they noticed a difference in the portion sizes they were given. Researchers suggest that people have the expectation that the amount of food served to them …

Looking in the mirror and facing our standards and goals by looking in the eye would help weight loss. In this way, it is easier to stop eating and remember why you want to lose weight. The Disease Control Center in the United States has revealed that simply climbing up …

Building upon Saint Ignatius' model, I argue that, drawing from other teachings both in our Christian tradition and in research in positive psychology (a branch of psychology that studies the habits and thinking patterns of emotionally healthy, happy people) can further clarify what consolations and desolations look like. Specifically, consolations …

"I wasn't high or anything," he strategically added. Unfortunately, the more he attempted to control the opinions of others, the more turned off to him they became, and the more they talked trash about him! What situations attended this increase in your experience of stress/anxiety? (Who was present? What …

Instead she must adapt a false self in order to cope with her world. This is a coping mechanism or facade. The compulsive drive to feel whole, complete, adequate, and euphoric in any form comes from the innate emptiness or void inside. The pursuit of inner peace or wholeness takes …

The answer from the adults was no answer at all. We love to hate it, but it would be a mistake to underestimate the role that exercise plays in helping to upgrade the body's ability to be an effective anti-stress "surge protector." According to researchers at the Mayo Clinic, exercise …

Brain freeze may be new to you, but it's a significant problem if you have it. Let's go through these problems and, of course, some strategies for coping with them. That was slow and laborious. Then I realized I could use the "find and replace" tool in Microsoft Word. I …

For example, I have had students as well as clients who were afraid to try to succeed because they feared that they would fail, which was worse than actually trying and failing. They never excelled in anything because they never even tried to do so, despite their often strong potential …

I do it while I'm brushing my teeth. The book says it may take six to twelve months to see results. I've been doing it for about six months and can't say I've seen any improvement in my ADD, but my balancing is definitely better. That can't be a bad …

This respect avoids damning the world as a whole just because it has some negative aspects. Instead, you appreciate that an imperfect world, where there are bad or undesirable things, can still be a good place. So, for example, despite the existence of poverty, sickness, and death, you do not …

He drew a breath and said, "You're bigger than those stacks of papers, David. Just do it!" My neighbor's words made me feel worse. The two of us batted the topic back and forth like a tennis ball. He would say, "You have power over these things." Then I'd reply …

People don't evaluate how they got there; they're just there. That passive approach is what I call the Popeye theory of life management: "I am what I am." It's an approach that asks no questions, seeks no answers, and leaves you stuck right where you are. It's an attitude that …

Tack your next one-week vacation onto a three-day weekend to stretch it to a little more than a week--but just a little. Sadly, no matter how long a vacation may be, its impact after you return to work is likely to be minimal. The same study found that on the …

That might make a difference in whether a person would do better with varenicline or bupropion or with a nicotine patch. Research is under way here as well. We know that cortical controls are weakened by the chronic use of many substances, resulting in the diminution of executive functioning, including …

It's what made him who he is today. There's a big difference between helplessly riding out a panic attack and not allowing one to hold you back, and the same is true with procrastination. While you might not like your procrastinating ways, there could be those times when you just …

The extremely elevated mood of bipolar disorder affects your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, which can interfere with the quality of your life. The form on page 44 provides examples of common thoughts, feelings, and behaviors related to elevated mood. Check off those you can relate to and share this information …

Your heart may race. Your stomach may tighten. Or the opposite--you may feel tension glide off of you or your breathing may become calm. This kind of dissociation from your body can make it very difficult to identify what your body is telling you or to determine where you feel …

Again, it takes time. Maybe you can pick one problem to start with. Once you are on top of it, it will make a difference in your life. Please forgive me; I know that I talk about my personal victory over the lost keys a lot, but I'm so impressed …

It's to survive. It's to maintain and continually improve your standard of living and your place in the world. You don't want to see your competitors lose and go out of business and you don't want to take food out of their mouths, but if you don't defend yourself in …

Let each and every one of us imagine that our minds are free from greed, anger, aversion, jealousy, and fear. Let the thought of loving friendliness embrace us and envelop us. Let every cell, every drop of blood, every atom, every molecule of our entire bodies and minds be charged …

We wrap mistakes up in "I'm an idiot and I'm not good enough." Instead of learning from the pain and welcoming it, we push it away find things to numb it or make it go away - like avoidance, complaining, blaming, drugs, drinking, denial, etc. We're not asking ourselves, "What sequence …

What are our weak areas? What could catch us off guard? How can we prepare against flanking in this particular situation? What weak areas are we overlooking?" The more they train and prepare, the less shocking and stressful the actual fight is for them. They're better able to keep their …

You will question yourself. You will be in a lot of pain. But the only person that'll be patting you on the back and telling you "It'll be ok" will be YOU. No one will be there when you're in pain and in tears. No one will be there to …

I've come off my medication twice, gradually discontinuing dosages with the help of my doctor, only to discover that my depression recurred. If your health professionals or therapists have never heard of discontinuation syndrome, shake a finger at them, and then drag them to the nearest computer. Other avenues that …

Enlist the help of fitness apps. Downloading a fitness app on your phone or purchasing an activity tracker isn't necessary (so don't put off your fitness goals until you have one) but can be motivating for some people. If counting steps or reaching activity goals by using an app or …

Human beings are social animals. We are born and hard wired to live in groups of between 50 and 100 people. Our memories are actually formed based on the number of people that tend to exist in an average person's social life. Why do you think you feel so much …

If you make your bed every morning you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride and it will encourage you to do another task and another and another. By the end of the day, that one task completed will …

We miss reality. We enter a world of fantasy. Here is another example: You are sitting in meditation and a sound strikes your ear. It is just an indistinct noise, sort of a muffled crunch; it could be anything. What happens next will probably be something like this. "What was …