Love is actually my life purpose

Assuming they had reached Asia, they referred to the inhabitants they encountered as Indians. I chose to use Native Americans as it appears to be the term most commonly accepted among Indigenous people, though I recognize that it is not uniformly accepted. Jim Crow laws were laws that enforced racial …

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Waves of conceptualization

A group will distrust a leader whom they feel is subtly manipulating them to reach his goals. There is also good reason for the leader to be sensitive to resistance to his planning and to be willing to discard his plans should the group decide to reject them. Getting Members …

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Afraid of the financial implications of getting a divorce

Like negative emotions, positive emotions each come with telltale physical signs to help you recognize them. When we experience negative emotions, it's easy to feel the full impact on our bodies, minds, and behaviors. We can identify the familiar weight of sadness bearing down or the tears stinging the back …

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Lack of Vision

For example, maybe you lack the energy to clean your house or go grocery shopping, but that doesn't mean you're lazy. Few people are. More likely, if you consider yourself lazy, you just don't have energy reserves to draw on because you're so busy surviving, or you've devoted all your …

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Discipline Over Motivation

Which path you choose depends on the usefulness of the iceberg. EMBRACE THE ICEBERG (WHILE SHAVING OFF THE TROUBLE SPOTS) Some icebergs reflect what we like about ourselves and want to keep, like I should always be there for the people I love. Those core values are worth keeping. It …

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What are we missing?

If someone turns you down for a social event, you leap to the interpretation that they don't like you, not even considering that they may have had previous plans. You may be easily triggered, reacting in ways that seem inappropriate or out of proportion. You may get lost in ruminations …

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Love is actually special

Together, the first two barriers (not belonging in our own bodies or in the world) undermine our abilities to belong to each other--in partnerships, families, groups, and communities. I experienced this, intimately, in my own family. I vividly remember the day my mother bought my bat mitzvah dress. I awoke …

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Come into My Office

You can instantaneously cut off the sympathetic nervous system by shifting your mind from threat to treat. That doesn't mean, of course, that escapism is a long-term fix. If you're facing a crisis in your job and spend the entire day dreaming about a vacation on the beach, that isn't …

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Body connection

What makes one person bounce back from adversity and another crumble? The answer to that is thinking styles. One of the most important ingredients in resilience is controlling your emotions and behaviors, and that means controlling your thoughts. As we shall see, how we think has a profound influence on …

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The Spiritual Purpose of Empaths

But that's beside the point. Am I jealous? I don't think so. If it was jealousy, there'd be some feeling of anger or hate, but there isn't. As I read these stories they seemed to have one thing in common. They all had a sense of patience. For example, I …

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The short answer is no

They assist in setting up a vibrational energy field around you; Most important, they remind you of who you are, your truest self. Affirmations are something you work with. They also work on and with you, your thoughts, emotions, and consciousness. This basic rest pose is a simple restorative pose …

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College Counseling

That is okay. Take a couple of deep breaths and realize that there is another simple way to separate out the information. You can write out each category on separate sheets of paper. Colored paper works just fine if you already have it close by. Remember to Breathe Breath is …

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Afraid of overspending

In fact, they add to the murkiness that hides below the surface of this game. The game begins when someone is financially wronged (or thinks she has been), and believes she can do nothing to set things right. She begins to tell other people about the financial injury and the …

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Building Good Habits

Try this out a few times each week for at least four weeks. At the end of the month, notice if your thought patterns have changed. The Pain Interview Good for: chronic pain, headaches, joint pain, nerve pain, stress relief This exercise is designed as an interview with your pain …

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Turning Honesty into Health as a Habit

Are you salivating? This is the biological response to an imaginary thought, and shows you that we can think our way into changing our body. The example of the lemon is from Elmer Green, Ph. He is a firm believer that people have the power to find pain relief by …

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Managing Anger in an Intimate Relationship

The person often makes several subtle and unconscious adjustments to maintain equilibrium, respond to changes in light and sound intensity, acclimatize to changes in temperature, etc Thus, the peripheral nervous system relays information to and from the brain relating to the environment. It is responsible for producing sensations and reactions …

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Establish Your Core Values

Sometimes people think that the way to discover where their emotions lodge is to pay close attention to all of their body sensations all of the time. This is doable, but it will take a lot of energy to be constantly on red alert. Checking in with yourself five times …

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You will be weak

Finally, supervisors in these high units gave little close supervision to the work being done, but tended to place the responsibility upon the worker. Other industrial studies (62, 116, 126, 207), though less objective in nature, bear out the two that have been cited. Various industries, in this country and …

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I am full of goodness

Two years later Counseling and Psychotherapy: Newer Concepts in Practice (166)4 was published. In that volume a presentation was given of the practice of those principles in the counseling field which were aimed at releasing the integrative capacities of the individual. It may be of service to the reader …

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Steps to Take Control of Your Anger

Be of good courage, therefore, and cast these dreadful thoughts out of your mind. Whenever the devil pesters you with these thoughts, at once seek out the company of men, drink more, joke and jest, or engage in some other form of merriment. This advice may not be easy to …

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I have a hard time sticking to a diet

If you begin to get negative thoughts, try to get rid of them immediately with a positive thought, even if it is something silly. Also, act in a positive way. People will see that you are happy and positive and they respond very well to that. If you smile more …

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On Taking Risks

Studies have even shown that death from all causes can be delayed by regular physical activity. How Much Exercise Is the Right Amount? In 2007, the American Heart Association and the American College of Sports Medicine released guidelines to help both physicians and patients decide which activities people should undertake …

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On Near-Death Experiences

The training utilized breathing practices, meditation techniques, and poses in various combinations over different time periods. Adiponectin is a hormone generated by fat tissue. It is key to the metabolism of fat and glucose. Visceral fat, or belly fat, surrounds our internal organs. Excessive visceral fat is linked to an …

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We all choose to be fearful

Kundalini yoga uses more meditation, chanting, and breathing along with poses. A challenging type of yoga now commonly practiced in the United States is ashtanga yoga, which features constant movement and breathing techniques. Through movement, heat is generated, which is felt to be vital to yogic practice. Bikram yoga is …

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Might is right

When it comes to brainwashing, cult leaders are prominently known for repeating various lies as well as distortions until when a member finds it challenging to tell the difference between the actual cult life as well as the reality. When it comes to paranoia, most of the time, there is …

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I vow to enjoy the process of time

A year later, Emily now comes into my office, takes off her shoes, and jumps up on what I refer to as my touch table. When I ask her if she wants to talk or sit for a few minutes first, Emily's response is always the same: No, I just …

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Do as I say

Hype is the progeny of insecurity. It is only when you do not feel fully confident in yourself or what you are doing that you need other people to do it with you to justify your behavior. When you proceed from inner confidence, you need no outer validation; You are …

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Strengths and Weaknesses: They're Both Okay!

The author Washington Irving likely received a lot of praise but that didn't stop Charles Dickens from telling him, What pleasure I have had in seeing and talking with you, I will not attempt to say. I shall never forget it as long as I live. Put it in writing …

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Do you have people who love you?

Already Home The most powerful prayer begins with Thank you. Many of us bring God long lists of things we want (and that is fine, as it affirms that we can have what we want and there is a higher power that can deliver it). But there is an even …

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What is your greatest fear?

He's thinking short-term. If you suspect this is the case, appeal to that. Put down your sword and drop your but we'll get fired whining. Offer to do Darren's portion of the payroll project for him--seriously--to get him to agree with you. Can you really manage the workload of two …

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Where Awareness Comes from, and the Case for?

There are similar videos from China and Germany. It's pretty amazing to watch, and it can only happen in a culture that values collectivism and not just individualism. In some cultures--those that place individualism at a premium--the path of life would not be possible. A significant proportion of the drivers …

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Don't Let Life Pin You Down

Viewing the patient as a colleague and therapy as a collaboration would, I believe, greatly improve the quality of the patient-doctor relationship. Watch a spider weave her web. Wonder at the beauty of small things around you that aren't manmade. Sit quietly by a river, stream, waterfall, or the sea …

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Love is supposed to be special

It simplified the more complex traditional Indian meditation practice. Shame at how the nurse and doctor look at you. Shame because you are not normal, not like others; But the clinic nurses and doctors seem so insensitive to how you feel. Sometimes they keep talking while I'm standing naked in …

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