Plan for the unexpected

Instead she must adapt a false self in order to cope with her world. This is a coping mechanism or facade. The compulsive drive to feel whole, complete, adequate, and euphoric in any form comes from the innate emptiness or void inside. The pursuit of inner peace or wholeness takes …

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Acknowledge your choices

The answer from the adults was no answer at all. We love to hate it, but it would be a mistake to underestimate the role that exercise plays in helping to upgrade the body's ability to be an effective anti-stress "surge protector." According to researchers at the Mayo Clinic, exercise …

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Select healthy coping skills

Brain freeze may be new to you, but it's a significant problem if you have it. Let's go through these problems and, of course, some strategies for coping with them. That was slow and laborious. Then I realized I could use the "find and replace" tool in Microsoft Word. I …

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Dealing with someone who is not cooperating

For example, I have had students as well as clients who were afraid to try to succeed because they feared that they would fail, which was worse than actually trying and failing. They never excelled in anything because they never even tried to do so, despite their often strong potential …

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What are your communication challenges?

This respect avoids damning the world as a whole just because it has some negative aspects. Instead, you appreciate that an imperfect world, where there are bad or undesirable things, can still be a good place. So, for example, despite the existence of poverty, sickness, and death, you do not …

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Why we resist self-care

He drew a breath and said, "You're bigger than those stacks of papers, David. Just do it!" My neighbor's words made me feel worse. The two of us batted the topic back and forth like a tennis ball. He would say, "You have power over these things." Then I'd reply …

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Challenge yourself with an adventurous outing

People don't evaluate how they got there; they're just there. That passive approach is what I call the Popeye theory of life management: "I am what I am." It's an approach that asks no questions, seeks no answers, and leaves you stuck right where you are. It's an attitude that …

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Mixed emotions boast benefits

Tack your next one-week vacation onto a three-day weekend to stretch it to a little more than a week--but just a little. Sadly, no matter how long a vacation may be, its impact after you return to work is likely to be minimal. The same study found that on the …

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How to change a habit

That might make a difference in whether a person would do better with varenicline or bupropion or with a nicotine patch. Research is under way here as well. We know that cortical controls are weakened by the chronic use of many substances, resulting in the diminution of executive functioning, including …

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Why talk about stress when you have pain?

It's what made him who he is today. There's a big difference between helplessly riding out a panic attack and not allowing one to hold you back, and the same is true with procrastination. While you might not like your procrastinating ways, there could be those times when you just …

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See the good and filter out the bad

The extremely elevated mood of bipolar disorder affects your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, which can interfere with the quality of your life. The form on page 44 provides examples of common thoughts, feelings, and behaviors related to elevated mood. Check off those you can relate to and share this information …

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Argue better

Your heart may race. Your stomach may tighten. Or the opposite--you may feel tension glide off of you or your breathing may become calm. This kind of dissociation from your body can make it very difficult to identify what your body is telling you or to determine where you feel …

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Many procrastinators are perfectionists

It's to survive. It's to maintain and continually improve your standard of living and your place in the world. You don't want to see your competitors lose and go out of business and you don't want to take food out of their mouths, but if you don't defend yourself in …

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Meditation techniques you can use

Let each and every one of us imagine that our minds are free from greed, anger, aversion, jealousy, and fear. Let the thought of loving friendliness embrace us and envelop us. Let every cell, every drop of blood, every atom, every molecule of our entire bodies and minds be charged …

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What have i learnt in life?

We wrap mistakes up in "I'm an idiot and I'm not good enough." Instead of learning from the pain and welcoming it, we push it away find things to numb it or make it go away - like avoidance, complaining, blaming, drugs, drinking, denial, etc. We're not asking ourselves, "What sequence …

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Learn to appreciate yourself

You will question yourself. You will be in a lot of pain. But the only person that'll be patting you on the back and telling you "It'll be ok" will be YOU. No one will be there when you're in pain and in tears. No one will be there to …

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The thing to fear is fear itself

I've come off my medication twice, gradually discontinuing dosages with the help of my doctor, only to discover that my depression recurred. If your health professionals or therapists have never heard of discontinuation syndrome, shake a finger at them, and then drag them to the nearest computer. Other avenues that …

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Hooks and pauses

Enlist the help of fitness apps. Downloading a fitness app on your phone or purchasing an activity tracker isn't necessary (so don't put off your fitness goals until you have one) but can be motivating for some people. If counting steps or reaching activity goals by using an app or …

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Likeability is a learned trait

Human beings are social animals. We are born and hard wired to live in groups of between 50 and 100 people. Our memories are actually formed based on the number of people that tend to exist in an average person's social life. Why do you think you feel so much …

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If your pain flares up, stay calm

If you make your bed every morning you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride and it will encourage you to do another task and another and another. By the end of the day, that one task completed will …

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Conversational scenarios

We miss reality. We enter a world of fantasy. Here is another example: You are sitting in meditation and a sound strikes your ear. It is just an indistinct noise, sort of a muffled crunch; it could be anything. What happens next will probably be something like this. "What was …

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Individual personality

Your brain and body can't tell the difference between something you vividly imagine and something that's real. That's why your mouth waters when you imagine biting into a slice of chocolate cake. You can use this to your advantage if you're feeling nervous about doing something for the first time …

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Things to do when under provoking situationds

I began my psychological schooling in a behavioral and social learning theory undergraduate program. I completed cognitive and psychodynamic studies in my doctoral program, and, finally, psychoanalytic training in post-doctoral training. I strongly believe that each of these psychotherapies offers tremendous benefits for dealing with depression. My practice style comes …

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Why body language matters

Polygrapher A found X to be guilty, B found Y to be guilty, and C found Z to be guilty. Research has shown that lie detector tests are quite unreliable--they're open to a lot of subjective interpretation. If a polygrapher has a preconceived notion of who's guilty, he can interpret …

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What patterns are you noticing?

Instead, think about what you can do to overcome or prevent the things that are holding you back. Thinking about details is nothing more than doing your job. If you're a writer, your job is to write the best book you possibly can. If you're a designer, your job is …

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Being likable by not being unlikable

If location tracking is a priority, a GPS-enabled wristwatch like the GizmoWatch keeps track of kids through an app on parents' phones but only allows incoming and outgoing calls to and from select numbers. To investigate these expectations further, Chapman and Chapman gave undergraduate students thirty cards.8 Each card …

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Only 3% of us actually have our act together

It can be a touch, a sound, a sight, a taste, and a smell, in particular, is very powerful. What follows will illustrate some powerful examples through word and experience. Experience of my own. I sometimes relate this event on the speaking circuit, while reading it ensure your tongue is …

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Be messy--in creative places

Know yourself. For instance, I'm currently in a great writing flow. I don't feel the need to leave my city. I have a set routine every day, and it works very well for me. I feel happy, and I enjoy my life a lot. When I go away for even …

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Try not to "compare and despair"

To enjoy and reap its benefits, individuals don't have to be athletes--just physically active people. In short, Sarah has entered a cycle of avoidance that perpetuates and exacerbates (meaning worsens) the symptoms of panic and anxiety over time. At each stage of this cycle, she tried to avoid the possibility …

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Help yourself to manage stress

So many worshipers made the pilgrimage that the stain was eventually moved above ground to a permanent shrine in order to accommodate the crowds. In 1978 a New Mexico housewife thought that she saw the face of Jesus Christ in a burned tortilla. Thousands came to see her tortilla. Other …

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Taking a broader view of thoughts

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What am i able to do?

Those who were stigmatized were assigned the most undesirable category in the community.2 Though modern use of the word stigma no longer involves physical markings, a person with mental illness carries an indelible mark of shame nonetheless. This happens because society views mental illness as menacing, deviant, and unpredictable …

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