Financial independence

It might seem counterintuitive, but pretending a person was perfect at his or her funeral often makes the family feel worse, not better--as if the funeral were a kind of theater piece that they were knowingly a part of. Of course, this truth-telling has to be done artfully in the …

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The problem of my life is my boss is too hard on me

Well, you know me, she began, I always start with the literature--Robin Fox, David Schneider, Kath Weston, Helen Fisher. Over the years, Bell has been the source of some epic reading lists. From there, she continued, I would want to remind your client that relationships, kinship, marriage, and even love …

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I receive daily kindnesses

Dealing with disagreements when they arise provides everyone with the opportunity to convey their needs and for expectations to be renegotiated with clarity and compassion and a shared willingness to listen and to hear, not just awaiting a turn to speak. He would say things like, Why don't you kids …

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Let's get everyone involved to support you

I've attended meetings where I've been bored witless and left not really grasping what the meeting was even about. The good meetings were always few and far between. Remember, going about pleasing people will only fulfill their goals, without any consideration for you. Even if you genuinely care about helping …

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Postgraduate Participation

Or it might come as a reassurance saying that if you need them, they will do their best to be there. So, gratitude not only helps us build a sustainably happier life through better hormone production, it also forges the long-lasting relationships needed to set our own rock-solid stage (see …

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Shareholder Meetings

The reality she thought she knew wasn't real at all. Some thing had altered her reality and it had control over who she met and what she saw. It had the power. In her nightmare, AR was the tool that was altering that reality. This was made even more frightening …

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What does it sound like?

To explain this better, let me introduce you to a friend and collaborator who knows a lot about the ways the future gets imagined. The Lab Where Worlds Collide The campus of the University of Southern California is in downtown Los Angeles. The school is known for many things, but …

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Love is supposed to be fulfilling

Those who settle for lackluster will bring you down to their level, if you let them. Good bosses will always hire people of excellence. Excellence is so rare. I'm really coming in hot with all of these great quotes, but Steve Jobs plainly states that, Some people just aren't used …

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The Ruler Of Your Own Kingdom

Daily Planning and Time Blocking So, we have a list of goals and interests, correct? We also understand that it's important to be fruitful, then multiply? We're on the right track. You ain't a grand master yet, though. We've only accomplished the easiest parts of converting your apathetic life into …

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How did they get so cute and so smart?

Your city may have local classes you can pay to join and get started learning Italian. If you need a classroom setting to learn better, then this will be your best bet. If there isn't one currently, who's to say you can't start your own? What if you connected with …

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The courage to have an open heart

I went back to work eight weeks after the baby came. I remember the utter exhaustion of sleeping for three hours, going to work, then running home to nurse, cook meals, and start the routine all over again. Every night my husband would drag me out of one of our …

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Declutter Your Brain

Lots of people work hard. Lots of people slave day-in and day-out at their jobs and never seem to advance to better opportunities. Andrew Carnegie treasured his education and continued to build up the bottomless chest of wisdom. This is also important when trying to save the world. He started …

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Neuroplasticity

What shocked him was the gulf between this and their cardiopulmonary health, which he found languishing in the fortieth percentile. He then dug deeper and evaluated their heart and lung health separately, something few people even consider doing. Frank discovered that many players' lungs were lagging far behind their hearts …

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Returning to the Jungle

What if I wanted to be a New York Times best-selling author? You get onto this list by selling 9,000 copies in the 1st week of the release. Based on 9,000 people buying this article, how many of those 1st week buyers would actually stick to anything in …

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I'm OK just the way I am

For example, right here in section 1094b and 1095a in my reprint, I've underlined them. His first sentence starts with Now, the second says, and further. This remark was designed to understand the feeling and to clarify the idea expressed by Mr C in such a way that he realized …

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It's you against the problem, not each other

This includes the world around you, outside of your home. It involves an engagement with your community, social life, clubs, activities--whatever you do that is rewarding and that connects you with people you enjoy being with. On Level Three, we get all kinds of the positives we're looking to load …

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PART III The Freedom Plan

I feel that what I do contributes to something larger than myself: my organization, my industry, my community, my nation, or humanity. What's Your Contribution? Only about 30 percent of people naturally make it to a Level Three connection. Why do you think so few engage with their jobs in …

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Avoid Over-Planning

The activity of the leader developed in the direction of sensitive recognition of the attitudes and ideas expressed by the members of the group. This involved an understanding of the needs of the members of the group, and a positive judgment to avoid participation when the interaction between the group …

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Love is actually conditional

Many of us had a hard time getting rid of this dependence. Some never did. As for me, I waddled along for the first three or four weeks rather confused and sometimes indifferent. Later I began reading and thinking about this and that in therapy. Instead, look for strategies to …

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I am willing to love my body and feed it with care

These statements seem to attest to the fact that group members need to feel that others listen to their contributions and try to understand. Without this feeling, they feel threatened, they tend to hold back and retreat from the group, or they make renewed efforts to get their individual point …

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Nobody is going to like you if you keep misbehaving

Or consider the People of Color who have experienced trauma resulting from abusive police practices or know others who have. Or consider the fat people who are denied routine health care, like access to life-saving transplants or gender-affirming surgeries; Or consider the communities that face higher risk of cancer because …

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The Great Communicators

You begin to feel that, to put it callously, you were married for financial reasons and other reasons. You begin to wonder, especially when I need a good deal of emotional support and I find that I don't get it, due to circumstances. Leader: It's really very disturbing to have …

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I don't like what she's doing

How many of you would feel at least a little anxious if your significant other confronted you with that same workaholic accusation? Anxiety produces butterflies in the stomach, tingling fingers, cold feet, a dry mouth, and rapid heartbeat. Your thought feed looks something like: This isn't good. Something's got to …

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Love is supposed to be conditional

The change is modest but important. Would other therapies show a greater degree of personality change? Unfortunately, this question cannot be answered at the present time because thus far only client-centered therapists have exposed their work to objective study of outcomes. It is probable, however, that with any therapy it …

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Preparation for Launch

When she turned fifty, she found herself wondering who she really was. Penny began to find herself when she started to focus on her main complaint: No one ever listens to me! Now she listens to herself first, without waiting for permission from anyone. Just yesterday she said no, thank …

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Following Our Emotions

Warm and glowing and happy and relaxed. It's a real vascular relaxation. My skin has that characteristic smooth, soft feeling, all over my body, too. Of all things to happen! To drop all the elaborate analysis, think through the simplest problems in human relationships like a small child spelling out …

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Love is actually perfect

Now begin to use it and work with it. Notice your body sensations and emotions. Now see yourself in your everyday life experiencing and enjoying it. Hold it close to you. When you are ready, see yourself walk back up the stairs. Now notice you are sitting in your seat …

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I am generous with strangers

Children and teens, in particular, are over-exposed to this kind of bullying purely due to the availability of technology. The majority of teens now do their homework through a computer or even their smartphone. This leads to multitasking, which is detrimental to learning and memorizing. When they are looking at …

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You get to make your life

He'd wanted reform. Instead he was facing a complete break from the church he loved and had surrendered his life to. What followed was a rapid series of councils--with his monastic order, with church officials, with German officials--and lots of written arguments from all sides about his views. When Luther …

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Settle it and move on

Did you get a positive or negative result? At that point in a third segment, work out the enthusiastic response to I) the procedures/steps and ii) the result. In the last segment, make the last inference in asking yourself: Where did the (passionate) response originate from - the procedure or …

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Walk, Don't Run (and Don't Drive)

I ran and none of the scrawny kids could take me down. I was like the stone at the beginning of Raiders of the Lost Ark: unstoppable and spherical. I saw the try line. Many people are quite disconnected from their bodies these days. In a culture that celebrates mind …

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On Training Your Subconscious Mind

After reading those words, Michael closed his eyes and tensed his body, preparing for the dizziness he had felt before. This time he was ready. At first, nothing happened, but just as he was about to relax, he opened his eyes to see his fingers literally sliding through the ivory …

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Reinsulating the Wires

Each week, Kathy had a different assignment. For as much as Kathy was making progress, I couldn't push her back into her body, and these sensory items were able to accomplish that in a non-threatening way. I did a lot of work on Kathy's brain stem, which is where fight …

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