The anxious brain

As I will explain more fully later, taking part in any kind of art program, including the nonvisual arts of music, dance, and theater, can improve your health, your outlook, and your resilience. Important implications flow from these two studies, both for private citizens and for those responsible for supporting …

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Make one nonverbal change

Awareness of this pattern is the path to liberation from it. We all desire to minimize our stress and suffering; we desire peace. We try to find the solution to the problem we see as the cause of stress. We try to avoid situations that are stressful. We attempt to …

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You are in charge of your own behaviour

How many of us go pop! in response to the jagged threats of narcissism, bullying, or passive-aggressive behavior? How many of us try and set appropriate boundaries in life? Reflecting back on this year, I am horrified at what I permitted inside the confines of my personal bubble: negative nonsense …

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Outside the family

If you have a particular urge for a food, you are probably not hungry, but you are simply greedy. If, on the contrary, you eat the first food on your way, then you are probably really hungry. Find another way to fulfill your emotional needs and eat only when you …

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How to overcome a fear of failure

A sixteenth-century philosopher who laid the foundations of scientific inquiry, Bacon advises us to clear our minds of certain preconceptions that can destroy our ability to think objectively. Within the general structure of my life I also have some schedules. Life goes better if I stick to a schedule. This …

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Face your problems head-on

Unable to meet their own needs and incapable of meeting each other's, the couple, (possibly your parents), look outside themselves to a third possible alternative, what about a baby! A baby would give them a joint focus, something to create together, and a tangible way to partner that is as …

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Discover your rainbow

But where do the "I cant's" originate? How do they become imprinted? When do we internalize them as our own? Why do we do this? These are good questions and deserve a thoughtful response, but first it is essential that the issue of loyalty be addressed. Your parents brought you …

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Create a mindset for change

We can also create such an environment as well if needed. Impulsivity means you're more willing to take risks and have a bias for action, act now while the opportunity is hot instead of getting into analysis paralysis. Many entrepreneurs have ADD i.e. Paul Orfalea who founded Kinko's, JetBlue …

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Current state of the field

And if we are closely involved with them, it's helpful if they know about and understand our ADD problems, although we need to use some care in who and what we tell. We can let others know what kinds of things are helpful to us and what kinds of things …

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How to worry constructively

And here's what most of us don't see and understand - it's all just a mirage. It's not real. The people you're watching who appear to have these flawless lives are painting a picture of what they WANT you to see - not what's 100% accurate and true about themselves. Athletes, musicians …

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Short attention span and inattention

One antidepressant made my eyes dilate to such an extent that my vision became blurred. I was then put on another that caused such terrible stomach upset, that I'll trust you'd rather not know the details. Another medication, one that was supposedly tailor-made for anxiety, produced the side effect of …

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What can i do for you?

This also includes whole grains, such as barley, whole wheat, and oats. Fiber plays an important role in regulating your digestive system and helping you feel fuller so you have fewer cravings. Chocolate lovers, rejoice--indulge and feel good. You may be pleased to know that eating chocolate really can make …

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How can i escape fear by embracing it?

Fernando Gomez-Pinilla, professor of neuropsychology at the University of Southern California, who has long studied the effects of nutrition on the brain says, "Food is like a pharmaceutical compound that affects the brain. The more balanced you make your meals, the more balanced will be your brain function-ing." Consider choosing …

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Increase your intake of antioxidants

Keep in mind that emotional discipline starts first thing in the morning, when you wake up. That is when you create the opportunity to set the standard for your day, by saying, I am happy, I am blessed, I am joyful, I am alive, and nothing will stop me from …

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Cultivate gratitude and positive expectations

There's an emotional cost, as well, a kind of hardening of your psychological arteries. As we saw when the locus of control is out of whack, negative internal dialogue will cause you to overlook vital information that could otherwise be so incredibly powerful. You don't even recognize positive alternatives anymore …

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Identify your qualities

It made the reading come alive. Daffy was on time this morning; sometimes he arrives a little late for his talks. His shirttail was tucked into his pants; often it has come out and is flopping loose. However, three buttons on the front of his shirt were unbuttoned and there …

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One issue at a time and know what you want to happen

In other words, the promise of what they are going to be delivered doesn't matter so much as how they feel in the moment--and with those who used the reality distortion field, they make them feel loved, validated, energized. It's not a complicated technique, and anyone can do it with …

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Fight, flight or freeze

The experience of pain is like a complex symphony; every pain experience is unique and each person's brain will play a different "pain song" when it processes danger messages. After the pain signals have traveled to the different areas of the brain, the brain automatically decides how best to interpret …

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Use behavioral principles to your advantage

They are especially important when you are trying to manage a mood disorder. The basic steps include maintaining a regular pattern of sleep, a healthy diet, and regular physical exercise; taking prescribed medications; keeping up social contacts; and having a routine and structure to your day. The steps are your …

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Avoiding cliches

Increasing your activity level for one day is a great start, but the most powerful benefits will come from consistency. Once you get moving, how do you keep moving, day after day, week after week? Here are five ways to reap the long-term benefits of a more active lifestyle: Keep …

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I don't have the energy or the commitment

Life not only feels better but actually goes better, and I function better, when I'm achieving my goals than when I'm not. Knowing our goals helps us be organized, and we need to ask ourselves if the things we're doing are leading us towards our goals. One way to help …

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Wiping away the memories of failure

Forgiveness isn't about letting someone "off the hook." The first and most powerful objection we encounter in ourselves is the mistaken idea that to forgive means looking the other way while somebody "gets away" with something. We see forgiveness as an undeserved get-out-of-jail-free card. That seems wrong somehow, because we …

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How do you feel pain?

Why are you not asking what you need to do to get a raise and then doing it better than what they expect!? Why are you not proving you're better at your job than everyone else?! Why are you not on hiring websites and in the newspaper classifieds every single …

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#VALUE!

Your mind automatically absorbs all incoming information and as it finds a home, it primes and programs your mind. Your thinking, emotions, words, actions, and habits automatically and directly reflect what you're allowing to enter your mind. Yes, I said allowing. You have a choice. No one is forcing you …

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Is this really my problem?

The reason is that over time more dentin--the hard inner tissue--is built up between the outer enamel of a tooth and its central nerve. The added insulation diminishes sensitivity. The bad news, though, is that our gums recede over time, exposing roots a different way. Your brain is smaller. As …

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Keep an open mind

Too hard can induce pain. The clothes you wear for meditation should be loose and soft. If they restrict blood flow or put pressure on nerves, the result will be pain and/or that tingling numbness that we normally refer to as our "legs going to sleep." If you are …

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Be bold and aware of your thoughts

You're worried about it. Worry forces you to think about little else over the weekend other than getting to see a doctor on Monday. It's annoying that you can think of little else, but the fact that you are so preoccupied makes it likely you'll go and see the doctor …

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Overloaded and overwhelmed

Keeps your bones strong and joints healthy. Helps you maintain a healthy weight. Helps you maintain your independence well into your later years.1 Constantly fighting your emotions can be like playing an exhausting game of tug-of-war with a monster. What might happen if you just put down the rope …

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When aha moments become defining moments

That you're only working for yourself because you think you're too good to have a normal job like everyone else. You will hear it all. There will always be an opinion lurking around the corner and it will come from a person who's inexperienced, unmotivated, and all talk and no …

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