Avoiding cliches

Increasing your activity level for one day is a great start, but the most powerful benefits will come from consistency. Once you get moving, how do you keep moving, day after day, week after week? Here are five ways to reap the long-term benefits of a more active lifestyle: Keep …

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I don't have the energy or the commitment

Life not only feels better but actually goes better, and I function better, when I'm achieving my goals than when I'm not. Knowing our goals helps us be organized, and we need to ask ourselves if the things we're doing are leading us towards our goals. One way to help …

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Wiping away the memories of failure

Forgiveness isn't about letting someone "off the hook." The first and most powerful objection we encounter in ourselves is the mistaken idea that to forgive means looking the other way while somebody "gets away" with something. We see forgiveness as an undeserved get-out-of-jail-free card. That seems wrong somehow, because we …

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How do you feel pain?

Why are you not asking what you need to do to get a raise and then doing it better than what they expect!? Why are you not proving you're better at your job than everyone else?! Why are you not on hiring websites and in the newspaper classifieds every single …

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#VALUE!

Your mind automatically absorbs all incoming information and as it finds a home, it primes and programs your mind. Your thinking, emotions, words, actions, and habits automatically and directly reflect what you're allowing to enter your mind. Yes, I said allowing. You have a choice. No one is forcing you …

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Is this really my problem?

The reason is that over time more dentin--the hard inner tissue--is built up between the outer enamel of a tooth and its central nerve. The added insulation diminishes sensitivity. The bad news, though, is that our gums recede over time, exposing roots a different way. Your brain is smaller. As …

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Keep an open mind

Too hard can induce pain. The clothes you wear for meditation should be loose and soft. If they restrict blood flow or put pressure on nerves, the result will be pain and/or that tingling numbness that we normally refer to as our "legs going to sleep." If you are …

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Be bold and aware of your thoughts

You're worried about it. Worry forces you to think about little else over the weekend other than getting to see a doctor on Monday. It's annoying that you can think of little else, but the fact that you are so preoccupied makes it likely you'll go and see the doctor …

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Overloaded and overwhelmed

Keeps your bones strong and joints healthy. Helps you maintain a healthy weight. Helps you maintain your independence well into your later years.1 Constantly fighting your emotions can be like playing an exhausting game of tug-of-war with a monster. What might happen if you just put down the rope …

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When aha moments become defining moments

That you're only working for yourself because you think you're too good to have a normal job like everyone else. You will hear it all. There will always be an opinion lurking around the corner and it will come from a person who's inexperienced, unmotivated, and all talk and no …

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What is learned helplessness?

Yes, I did, good. What if it doesn't work this time... And so on. This is one form of anxiety disorder that is most prevalent among children and is associated with a particular stage of developmental psychology. As most experts in child psychology have long recognized, children go through a …

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Tips for building and maintaining trust

The intensity depends on how much effort you are putting into it. To estimate the intensity of your physical activity, use the Talking Test. If you are able to talk while exercising, that is a moderate activity. If you are out of breath, that is a vigorous activity. Or you …

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A life in such perfect conflict

In a separate study, subjects read a fake news article that either described the benefits of happiness or did not mention it. Participants then watched a happy or sad film clip. Those who were prompted to value happiness reported feeling worse after watching the happy film than those who did …

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What made you feel loved as a child?

You find out your commute is longer than you thought, or the supervisor who hired you left the company. The baby may be colicky, or your two-year-old may be sulking that she now has to share the attention. Things can go from high to hard pretty quickly. As we discussed …

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Developing the willingness to change

We need more time to sort through the data from an increasing number of countries and states to know which substances can be relatively safely and effectively legalized, and for what ages and with what regulatory controls. But this is not to say that we should continue the romance with …

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Tips for when you have difficulty enjoying

New studies show that drinking lemonade can improve performance, but not for the reason Baumeister believed. The bump in performance had nothing to do with the sugar in the drink and everything to do with the thoughts in our heads. In a study conducted by the Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck …

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Reconsider what a reasonable goal is to you

This is why counseling can be so important for health care professionals and even family members trying to take care of loved ones in need. For reasons that are still unclear, young people seem to be particularly vulnerable to depression. According to statistics released by the National Institute of Mental …

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Take responsibility and make clear `i' statements

The problem with medication is that you end up having to take more and more and the effects wear off more quickly. My professional work then became principally in public health, first as the New York City mental health commissioner for five years, and now for over ten years as …

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Jumping to conclusions

Worried that someone will call you on your bravado? If you're honest and confident in your own presence, the worst that can happen is someone else will develop a problem with you - it's not your issue. They have a problem and you cannot solve it. They need to do that …

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Mental toughness and emotional resilience

It's important to note that research on St John's wort for treating major depression, cyclothymia, or any of the bipolar disorders is limited. St John's wort impacts the neurotransmitter systems of serotonin, dopamine, and gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA). Side effects are generally well tolerated and include gastrointestinal distress, allergy to the …

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Willingly admit your mistakes

Even if you hear a story from someone you trust, that person may have heard it from someone who isn't trustworthy. Also, a story's immediacy is usually enhanced to make it more entertaining and believable--an event that happened to someone in your friend's office is often relayed as happening to …

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