Explain your personal concept of the heart

The musical comedian Bo Burnham (whose career started on YouTube) describes this phenomenon very well: Don't take advice from guys like me who've gotten very lucky. Taylor Swift telling you to follow your dreams is like a lottery winner saying 'Liquidize your assets! A trip to his village 25 kilometres …

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Expect Nothing, Accept Everything

And those final words are usually both terse and perfect--the distillate of an entire life. These sorts of questions are a part of being fearless with those who are dying. You can ask these sorts of questions even if you are not going to formally eulogize them at their funeral …

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On Believing And Focusing On The Good

It's not easy to sit back and watch our loved ones encounter struggles or experience pain. When things get really bad, there are always ways out. Sometimes people are in abusive relationships and have a strong fear that if they leave, they will be harmed. I'm mostly referring to choices …

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To replace bad with good

Yes, that was a dark time, Greg said, adjusting his jacket. It was the Cold War. When we compare the highlights reel of the people in our feeds (because that's pretty much what social media is) to our reality, it's skewed well out of our favor. The comparison between carefully …

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Sit with me

I said, not exactly sure what had just transpired. Okay, futurist, bye. If our childhood included trauma, neglect, and pain, then boundaries have been obliterated from the beginning. Having to teach what we've not been taught can feel like walking on sand: unsure of our footing, scared of making mistakes …

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Disruption of current life

If you still have fears around being assertive, start small, where it is easiest; The next key skill is learning. That's right, Susan agreed. At first, it was scary to even contemplate a different kind of future, because the corporate salary has given us everything. Everything but purpose, that is …

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Why Alchemy Now?

Yet I chose to divorce after a couple of years of us working a recovery program. Not letting him back into my life in a committed relationship had nothing to do with forgiving or not forgiving him, it had to do with boundaries. I found we had too little foundation …

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Anger Management

I don't feel ashamed or weird about it, because that's what I want to do. This is what's important to my life. Determining Your Goals - Your F6 Goals In order to be less apathetic about our lives and other people, we first need to know what we actually care about …

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We can include each other

We should have been coached in how to think like that. Or until we could be more civil with each other, it should have been left with saying their parents had some problems and were angry with each other but that we were trying to work it out. Then our …

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On Moderation

He needed to go to hell and back to become an inspirational figure. Great teachers from the past and the present came from various unfortunate places. Dale Carnegie pursued a failing acting career before becoming a public speaker and best-selling author. After Dale performed a road show, he arrived back …

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I am renewed every day

Do what you're told. And most important, never talk outside of home. We didn't air our dirty laundry, whatever it was. Combine that with the idea that we were only to show good feelings, which of course meant to suppress anything that wasn't a happy face. Don't feel. My sister …

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Planning Is Everything

When I work with skiers, I tell them to focus on the feeling of speed and fluidity, not a specific metric. If I'm stopping to look at what my heart rate monitor is telling me, it's not doing me any good. Now, if I'm recording my heart rate over the …

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How to Practice Stoicism

His behavior is an endless vicious cycle that has nothing to do with you. Multiple Manifestations of Addiction Addicted people often have histories of trauma, and the more profoundly they have been abused, the more likely they will have multiple addictive disorders. Some people have several forms of addiction operating …

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Do you badly want to be free?

Wait for your smart water bottle to tell you when to drink. Can't decide if you're just a bit sore or too fatigued to train? Let your heart rate monitor make the call. Let's look at just how far the senses versus sensors seesaw has tipped toward technology, and what …

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What old ways do you find yourself battling?

We do this with extreme sports, too, liking or retweeting a video of Jeremy Jones carving his way down an impossibly steep mountainside, Paige Alms escaping from the curl of a giant wave just before it swallows her, or Danny MacAskill doing flips over centuries-old stone walls in the Scottish …

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Can you describe your authentic self?

TRANSFORMING CRAVINGS AND ADDICTIVE BEHAVIORS When we get curious about our cravings, we notice that our urges are made up of bodily sensations--we may sense tightness, for instance, or restlessness--and that these sensations come and go. These are transient pieces of experience that we can manage from moment to moment …

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I believe that positive change is possible for me

Seeing pictures of my ex-boyfriend's girlfriend on social media never takes me to a good place. I constantly compare myself to her in every way--looks, career, kids, finances, and friends. You name it, and I've compared it! Do you frequently compare yourself to others in real life or on social …

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The Keys to Your Laboratory

An example of polarized thinking is, I'm a complete failure, while my sister is a complete success or He's perfect at everything he does, and I'm a total klutz or I'm unlucky all the time, while my best friend is always lucky. In a nutshell, black-and-white thinking oversimplifies the fact …

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How to Handle Yourself When Other People Challenge You

Our experience has corroborated the theoretical principle that self-evaluation is the most desirable mode of appraisal in a student-centered course. The greater the freedom to use self-evaluation in such a situation, the more obviously favorable have been the results. Students experience the task of self-appraisal as one more opportunity for …

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Take the ball and run

Iceberg Belief: I need to be at work. Ice Breaker: Do I really need' to be at work, or do Ichoose' to be at work? I need to keep a job, but I don't always have to be the first one to arrive and the last to leave. Iceberg …

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What could you do to disengage further?

She sees me and does a double take. If the two of us are heading into the same bathroom, clearly, one of us is getting it wrong. She looks for the signage, confirming that she really did see a stick figure with a skirt. Yes, she is in the right …

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Exaggerated startle response

A minimalist home and lifestyle helps us put our focus on people, instead of on the stuff they have. There is more energy and space for people and relationships to flourish. We do not create connections that are satisfying around possessions but on shared experiences. I'm not saying that possessions …

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Love is supposed to be beautiful

Now, what options for creating an abundant future do you have at your place of work? Do any of them include matching funds? That is like free money. Begin to claim your share! Your mind will wander during this exercise, but just bring your attention back to the positive feeling …

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Putting Myself in Their Shoes

I guess I expected change to be registered in a series of Aha's! I get along quite happily with Mother, and manage to do some sort of justice to both of us without feeling abused or dominated. I file things with scarcely a whimper [a task at which she had …

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We Avoid Pain

When you are ready to come back and reintegrate, gently stretch your body and open your eyes, take your left hand and touch your right forearm, then elbow. Take your right hand and touch your left elbow, then forearm. Touch your toes and the floor with both hands. Take some …

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She is so mean

High-impact exercises can build bone while low-impact exercises can keep bones strong as well. Cancer Prevention Regular physical exercise has been scientifically proven to help prevent certain cancers. Extensive studies have been conducted regarding breast and colorectal cancers, showing that the more we exercise, the lower our cancer risk. Even …

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