But rather than sympathize with her children's feelings of loss, or experience her own guilt or grief, she criticized them for expecting too much. She seemed unaware that she had changed the terms and saw it as a problem within them that they clung to old expectations. Her in-the-moment emotional …

Some styles seem to naturally appear more powerful than others. The mobiliser style, with underlying preferences for initiating communication and directing language, comes across as confident, decisive, and assertive. Their command and control' style and drive to get things done fits our stereotype of a leader. <a href='https://maps …

They put together an action plan and implemented changes in how they interacted with their teams. This led to improved employee engagement scores in the subsequent employee opinion survey from 72% to 86%, at a time when the organisation's overall score went down, and they were delighted with this result …

Appreciate them. Did you identify with any of Bowlby's descriptions of attachment: secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized? What feelings of recognition arose as I described them? What memories? What images from the past? All the avocados are perfect. Hooray! Success! Your judge is happy and makes you feel good. But …

What situations cause you stress and how could you alleviate them? This outward behaviour sends messages to the people you are communicating with, so it is worth spending a little time considering what message you might be sending. For example, if you appear quiet and laid back, the receiver of …

Without awareness, this underlying experience is hard to identify. But if you can pause and explore what underpins your thinking, you can better address the root of the problem rather than its symptoms. Because we are good at lists. Before you laugh, tell me you haven't had at least one …

Why do you think ballplayers yell and scream when they win a championship? Tiger Woods pumps his fist, Lance Armstrong raises his arms in his yellow jersey, Terrell Owens does a dance in the end zone, and LeBron James slaps the backboard and hollas after a nasty dunk. Even Donald …

A tennis match, a guided tour of a natural park or city, a bike ride or bowling. On average, the most sedentary people make between 2000 and 3000 steps per day. By adding 2000 steps daily, you could manage to maintain your current weight and stop weight gain. Add more …

Alternatively, we could also indulge in self-destructive, sinful habits to make ourselves feel better in the face of hardships. In our coaching session, Tim uncovered and disclosed his feelings of anger, hurt, frustration, and hopelessness. We unearthed the initial incident and started to repair the damage from the past so …

It's not so difficult, but it is required. It's okay if you're skeptical. Consider opening up your mental door of possibilities. This is your journey into the workings of your inner self. The journey that will enable you to start understanding you and what it takes to make changes that …

Nevertheless, your choice of the first guiding virtue to work on will depend on what type of perfectionist you are. For example, if you are an achievement perfectionist, then adopting and working on unconditional self-acceptance as your guiding virtue can help you overcome the self-destructive tendency to belittle yourself when …

Some of these findings also indicate that volunteers who devote a considerable amount of time to volunteer activities (about 100 hours per year) are most likely to exhibit positive health outcomes. I ran the samples. One day I got a very high number. I thought they'd found a really rich …

I don't allow myself to put them anywhere else, not "just for now," not "just this time," not "because I'm busy." No. On the front table. I do not leave them in my jacket pocket. I do not lay them on my desk or on the bureau top. I put …

They are the cornerstones of your script of life, creating boundaries and barriers to who you can become and what you do. Remember this: money doesn't necessarily define success. Success can be measured by self-fulfillment, awareness, emotional intelligence, and education. I've always felt that as long as I could support …

After your basic needs are met (food, shelter, safety) and you have a little left over as a cushion, extra material wealth has little to no effect on life satisfaction or happiness. First, you may welcome the information. It may feel like relief. It fits with the gut feeling you've …

Another variable is age of onset--the age at which you first experience your depressive symptoms. The earlier the age of onset for unipolar or bipolar depression increases the probability of a return of depressive illness. Severity and length of depression, sometimes called "chronicity," will heighten the odds for relapse and …

Reaction formation made her seem overly kindly when on the inside she was boiling with rage. Her perceptions of others were tinged with distrust, a mild form of compromised reality testing that left her bereft and with little hope for a better life. Farther down the gradient are defenses that …

One day, there you were! All of the choosing was done for you. Even as you grew up, you probably didn't have any idea that life offered anything other than what you were living. You simply became part of a long chain, its links consisting of your parents, your grandparents …

Knowing that we pay more attention to anecdotes, I thought they would be the best way to get the main points across. Of course, the conclusions reached here are backed by rigorous scientific investigation. The problem is, when we rely purely on anecdotal information in our everyday decision making, we …

That's the way I feel when I'm sitting too long, antsy. It is strange that I'm less antsy when we are sitting outside, or in a restaurant, or when we're on vacation. Why? When we're sitting in the house, I feel the office calling me, with all of the things …

There is a definite goal. But there is no timetable. What you are doing is digging your way deeper and deeper through layers of illusion toward realization of the supreme truth of existence. The process itself is fascinating and fulfilling. It can be enjoyed for its own sake. There is …

They all turned out to be too high, no surprise given what I saw clinically. But his pulse was strong and regular. In a quiet single room surrounded by his family, he took several high doses of Librium and some fluids and began to settle down. I concluded that Tom …

The more data points you have, the more reliable your observations will be. Engage and code your emotional state. Rinse and repeat. Take note of any observations. If a behavior repeatedly leads to HP or LP states, even for a few seconds or minutes, then you may intuitively decide that …

Ironically enough, even positive stressful events such as the birth of a new baby or a wedding can have the same effect on the body's cortisol levels. As you can see in the section on postpartum depression, new mothers can be particularly vulnerable to symptoms of depression though, in most …

list did not have a line drawn through them. That's just how life goes sometimes. list, this makes it much easier to come back to. In addition, when a task doesn't have a line struck through it, that task clearly stands out from the pack. list? Well, he's had a …

Not only does being part of a larger movement provide young people with a sense of belonging but the friends they make in these communities can also provide them with emotional support. As we can see, simply being a part of the goth or emo scenes don't necessarily mean that …

Good for you! So take a look at your social connections with friends, family, coworkers, neighbors, and groups. Some of these relationships may not qualify as healthy and therefore will not be consistent sources of happiness and fulfillment--in fact, they can significantly detract from your happiness and fulfillment. Healthy relationships …

We're not in denial--we know there is something going on that needs to be solved. Maybe we even understand that the matter is serious. It's on our to-do list . it just never gets done. The reasons we procrastinate are many and can vary by person. It's possible that some people …

I won't quarrel with that. But the secondary gain of educating the public is far more valuable. One of the greatest ways we make sense of the world is by hearing the stories of others. Through their narratives, we measure and reframe our internal thoughts and feelings, learn that we're …

It is also possible, and in fact not at all uncommon, that a successful person may attribute a great deal of positive characteristics to someone whose influence at the time was entirely negative or destructive, yet the person accommodated or adapted that negative experience in a healthful and positive way …

We'll discuss this topic in part five. Different communication channels have different uses. Rather than use every technology as an always-on channel, use the best tools for the job. Get in and get out. Group chat is great for replacing in-person meetings but terrible if it becomes an all-day affair …

Its effects have in recent studies been likened to those of smoking and obesity combined. Centenarians living in Blue Zones' around the world, those living happily and healthily into old age, are invariably living in community. <a href='http://major.majz.com/t10-Aim-for-a-voice-and-tone-for-your-website-that-s-conversational-friendly-and-respectful.htm#p12'>(Blue Zones' are areas around …

I'm talking about knowing the essentials that will make you an expert on the opposite sex. There are universal rules to becoming likeable to the opposite sex, and once you know what they are you can decode a person's desire right off the bat. To some, it's known as their …

Fentanyl, a commonly used, legal opioid anesthetic, is fifty to a hundred times more powerful than morphine--which explains why it is so often present in the blood of people who die of accidental drug overdoses. They never knew what hit them. Ingesting high doses of a drug, another way of …

Sometimes, though, we need an even more explicit way to signal our request for interruption-free time, particularly when we're working from home. Using the same principles to block unwanted external triggers, my wife bought a hard-to-miss headpiece on Amazon for just a few dollars. She calls it the "concentration crown …

People with this condition fear being with others and may avoid being around people or being seen eating in public or being in any situation where the person feels he or she is going to be evaluated in any way. Panic disorder is another way of describing a condition where …

In reality, they had no control over the light since the researchers were dictating whether or not to turn the light on. When asked to rate the level of control they felt they had over the light, the nondepressed subjects overestimated how much control they had, while the depressed students …

Practicing this approach to clarity enables me to have full access to my mind, body, and spirit. It allows me to have many special and insightful moments. Recently he and another researcher, Josh Davis, articulated four steps to having more aha moments. Their conclusions, which closely align with my own …

It just pops out of the deep mind, and you say, "Ah ha!" and the whole thing is solved. This sort of intuition can only occur when you disengage the logic circuits from the problem and give the deep mind the opportunity to cook up the solution. The conscious mind …

(The teacher pauses to allow participants time to set up and settle.) Once you have found a position that is comfortable, allowing the eyes to close, or equally softening the gaze, looking down toward the floor in front of you. Have you thought about how to discipline your tongue? The …