Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable

You might find this is not the case! But it is surprisingly easy to clear the path. Not that any of us will get to the point where we have no bias or are completely devoid of unhelpful ways of thinking - not unless we've come from that far away planet …

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Dropping the need for pedestals

They also increase your bad cholesterol level (LDL) while damaging your good cholesterol (HDL). In my opinion, the only safe dose of trans fats is zero. When you get your annual physical, your doctor will check routine labs. And it is always more pleasant to communicate with a positive-minded person …

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Helping overweight kids

The narcissists do not like to take responsibility for their negative emotions, and transfer the blame to others. We all have mental models that serve as our framework for understanding the world around us. Mental models shape our behavior and thought processes equipping us to solve problems, identify opportunities, generate …

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Snacking - making it healthy

The Universe, God, Buddha, was helping you get what you needed. It is interesting and notorious that, just as a smile, even if forced, leaves a positive emotional imprint, crossing arms, even if it is done for cold or comfort, transmits a negative emotion. For example: you may be talking …

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Vegetarian and vegan diets

Understand the needs and let the employees express their ideas and concerns. Maintain a straight posture, with your back straight and your head high (which will also allow you to see yourself a few inches higher), but without looking too arrogant. Try to offer a relaxed image. While walking, try …

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Building Face-to-Face Social Skills

Thus, their apparent strengths were accompanied by select areas of vulnerability. Recent reviews of the burgeoning literature on resilience in childhood and adolescence (Glantz & Sloboda, 1999 Luthar, Cicchetti, & Becker, 2000 Masten, 1999) underscore the need for greater operational precision and consistency in defining resilience as well as in specifying protective …

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Right Carbs, Right Times

Now clean it up, so the pole is smooth and perfectly prepared. 15 each person's concept of me is their most contemporary, up-to-date record of everything they've been through and everything that's been done to them. It's their reaction to all the people who hurt, scared, loved, and cared for …

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Seek Ideal Fluid Intake

The choice is simple, but the consequences are profound. Basically, our defenses are put into play in important relationships again and again. Our feelings then become enacted indefinitely. In new relationships and amongst strangers, we replay the unresolved conflicts and relationship dynamics that caused us to install our defenses in …

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Stop the Stress Response

The next faculty of the mind, the Buddhi or the Intellect, shines brightly with the light of intelligence. He stated: Because of the unknown quantity in me which reminded Dora of Herr K. , she took her revenge on me as she wanted to take her revenge on him - Thus she …

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Bartering your time

Plus an accounting of every penny she spent in the last years of her life. ) Yes, my mother would have been a terrific queen. Beloved by her subjects, I'm sure--as she was beloved by so many who knew her. Who could aspire to more than that? She was there for …

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Getting on my nerves

' When I put myself in the shoes of the person on the other side of my arguing and thought about how they might receive my unrelenting debate, it gave me pause. Let your frazzled brainwaves settle, and just be. Give yourself some love. And then some more. There is no …

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Point out common ground

Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. We sometimes walk in unusual environments that are unstable underfoot, such as while on a boat at sea, or inside an aeroplane in turbulence. Walking while the ground moves - something deeply unnatural and unsettling - can demonstrate how the vestibular system …

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Be a broken record

Better late than never, of course! Unfortunately, it has taken some of these students a decade or more to learn this lesson. Because I don't know why Julia didn't respond to my text and whether or not she is annoyed by texts like that, I will make a point of …

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Do you take ownership of your stress?

Now he's trying to find a direction. The second quality that consolations will always point toward is intimacy. Research in positive psychology points out that happy, peaceful people work hard to make their relationships as strong and healthy as they reasonably can (Seligman, 2004). Our Catholic tradition agrees that strong …

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Surround yourself with positive and like-minded people

You experience unpleasant physiological, psychological, and/or emotional symptoms. You experience trauma at the thought or reality of separating from your addiction. You become angry, justify your right to have or use it, and act out to preserve your right to do what you want. If you had to flee …

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Implementing your plan

Not if we have ADD. That was on the notes home from school, "Johnny needs to try harder." Then we had to deal with the reaction from home. "Why don't you try harder?" (the underlying meaning of Wilton's "You can do better." ) This had a significant effect on us, on …

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Someone who makes me feel good about myself

If you value the relationship more, you may let go of the attempt to make her stop smoking. These choices are not easy, but you can approach them assertively. This negative self-talk is very damaging and we do it a lot. It just keeps eroding our morale, damaging our self-esteem …

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Boosting self esteem

Are they accurate? Professor Stephen Schnaars of Baruch College analyzed the forecasts published between 1959 and 1989 in sources like the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and Business Week, and found that they were wrong about 80 percent of the time. The predictions of major think tanks fair …

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Maybe i'm not meant to do it

And master it. Your bottomless discipline will transform into greater elements in all areas of your life. To maintain bottomless discipline in every level in your life, be aware that discipline is not easy. It takes practice, practice, and practice--every day. Then your discipline will start becoming easier because it …

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Using coping imagery to reduce anxiety

Emphasize Activities That Promote Social Connection: The question to ask yourself is: What types of interactions, with what people, promote feelings of connection? This is important to identify, especially if you're experiencing depression. Feeling isolated and thinking no one gets you can make you feel more stuck and overwhelmed, potentially …

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You're either the lender or the borrower

When those needs are at odds with your being your authentic self, you must prevail. By avoiding the feed, I'm much more likely to use social media mindfully while still allowing time to connect with others proactively. Just as companies like Facebook and LinkedIn implement behavioral design to keep us …

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Would resting be better for me?

Linking superstitious beliefs and behaviors to coincidental events occurs because of a process that psychologists call operant conditioning. Skinner, the foremost proponent of operant conditioning and author of the famous article "Superstition in the Pigeon," convincingly demonstrated that coincidence develops superstitious behavior. Skinner put pigeons into separate cages and had …

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Awareness makes changing behavior possible

The jury is in: He's an idiot. No more questions. If the label, instead, is "I'm a loser," then you hold that label, "loser," in front of you every day. You may exhibit numerous "winner"-type behaviors, but your label will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. I guarantee that if you …

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Sharing news of success with the other

At the time, going to the gym couldn't have been easier--the fully equipped facility was located in my apartment complex. I couldn't blame my no-shows on traffic, nor could I blame it on membership dues, because membership was free for residents. Even taking a long walk would be better than …

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What can i do about thoughts?

But we are holding a tension here. How do we adapt the teaching of mindfulness to a context that is distinct from the origins of this belief system and way of learning (the dharma)? Can it be successfully modified and still maintain its Buddhist historical and ethical roots, and does …

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Achieve one goal at a time step-by-step

The greater the task, the greater the benefit. As procrastinators, we're quick to think that the greater the task, the greater the cost. We developed that way of thinking because we felt we had too much at stake to lose. We fear that dealing with tasks means losing our free …

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Coping with low-intensity triggers

I believe that you have a special place in the order of life, a particular role to fill. And yes, it is one filled with vision, passion, and power. So hang on and get ready to get way more consciously into your own life. Don't feel selfish or egotistical because …

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