Make time for fondness today

But don't let them be part of being stuck. They flow together and cross paths throughout the journey. The important thing, though, is to be on the journey. At this point, you have decided to not be a prisoner of an event or another person's actions. Stay that course. Most …

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Turn accommodation into a game

Instead, they had throughout the experiment come to raise their expectations as to what was possible. The results of this experiment was that the participants got better posture, as well as better memory and hearing. If you are 80 and expect to have trouble walking, then you will have a …

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Repair your submissiveness

What happens in the brain when you experience positive stress is that the brain automatically shuts down unnecessary processes. This means that you can focus 100% on one single task. This could be something like a deadline at work or an athletic performance. We also have negative stress and that …

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Another obstacle to verification

If she or her sister had to go the principal's office, that was a kind of double-dip contamination. Tracy says, I remember one time when I knew I was going to have to go in and see the principal. It was a Catholic school, and I was really religious at …

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The zeal approach

You'll begin to see improvements in all the problem areas of life in which the cravings to which the mind is so vulnerable cause pain and distress. For example, consider how much time and energy people spend ruminating and stewing about personal relationships. The Relabel and Refocus steps and use …

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Common responses to affection

Both activities are part of my self-care and make me feel good. For others, going to church, seeing art, or traveling to an event is worth the risk these activities involve. When people ask me if it's safe to do something, they often want to know if it's safe to …

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Another obstacle to concord

Some people don't have any health concerns as a result of our new normal. They realize the risks of the virus and take necessary precautions while remaining calm and informed about the threat the pandemic poses. Other people, however, have taken it to the opposite end of the extreme and …

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Is it time to see infatuation yet?

Finally, what was all this anxiety doing for her heart condition? People who suffer from generalized anxiety disorder may have up to a 48 percent higher likelihood of dying of heart disease, according to studies. In my medical opinion, these risks outweighed the possible perils Kristin would have faced by …

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Turn yielding into a game

That's because we're infatuated with our partners during the first two to three years we're together, which turns us into poor judges of our own relationships. A friend of mine called off her wedding a few weeks before the big day. At that point, several people confessed they'd had doubts …

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Is it time to see rapture yet?

It was his terrible secret, one he covered up with ploys that a secret agent would admire. Barbara, a 33-year-old honors graduate of a prestigious Ivy League university, knew that she was an underachiever, working for a temporary agency. She was intelligent and articulate, but was plagued by intrusive thoughts …

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Standing up for affection

Similarly, the majority of those whom I've known personally who've been hospitalized or died from the disease were black, overweight or obese, and/or had underlying conditions. It's a difficult truth to face, but as more time has passed, and living with the virus has become our new way of …

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Avoid personal responsibility for rapport

If there isn't another person involved--say it's a natural disaster, accident, or a pandemic--then it's forgiving God, the Divine, the Universe, Life that what happened is okay. True forgiveness is not about the other person or the event. It's about setting ourselves free from the event that happened. It's self-forgiveness …

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Is arrangement worth the effort?

We also need to feel safe, but trauma often leaves us feeling anything but. It takes time and practice to learn, possibly for the first time, how to feel safe, especially with other people. We're going to say the quiet part out loud. You won't feel safe with everyone. There …

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Is it time to see devotedness yet?

If he is told he can't, he gets confused. He takes your opinion about everything, even when it comes to your opinion of him. When you require too much too soon, your child starts to worry: What is wrong with me that I can't remember what Mommy thinks is important …

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Coping with rapture

Whether these challenges show up in the first few months, the first few years, or decades later, their purpose is to seed the insight needed. Nothing in the illusion can stop a soul's evolution; What is your contribution to your child's genetic structure? Well, you had the storehouse of selections …

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Another obstacle to permission

Suicide Affects More People than We Realize Suicide is the quiet epidemic that our society avoids discussing even more than trauma in general. According to the World Health Organization, one person dies by suicide every 40 seconds. It's heartbreaking to live through an experience where a parent, spouse, significant other …

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Repair your resistance

If you do give it any thought, maybe you think you 'should' or 'must' finish what's on yours or even someone else's plate, otherwise the food will be wasted. How and what you eat has a lot to do with habit; Mindfulness increases your awareness of these patterns without judgement …

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Cultivate agreement

Abraham: I reckon I could cope. Things have been a bit quiet between the two of us lately. I guess both of us could benefit from some admiration. There's a music specialist who's been coming to school, a really lovely fellow. I might see if he and I can get …

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Repair your fervor

Pain that is 'armoured against' in the crucial pre-verbal period is most likely to manifest in sexual problems. These may be any one of a variety of problems which come out of difficulties with actually feeling emotions, or perhaps allowing others to feel or express emotions in your presence. Sex …

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Awareness makes disagreement possible

I would speculate that when he is with others they do not impinge greatly upon him. He does not regard himself as lonely, but lacking trust in one's self and in others is not a good starting point for making sustaining connections. Has he embraced solitude, with all that implies …

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On Creating Happiness

Stretching only puts your muscle through more strain, which could lead to more pain. Flex Instead Leverage the intelligent approach: reciprocal inhibition (RI). This is a nervous-system phenomenon that you can activate yourself. When you contract the muscle on one side of a joint hard enough, the opposing muscle--the one …

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Systemize Your Finances

No, don't do that. Used to tie two ropes together so they can easily be untied. Cross the left end of a rope over the right end of the other rope. Tuck the left end under the right. Then tuck the working end that lies on the right side of …

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What do you still need to release?

The ocean's existence is independent of the fish; What happens energetically when you believe you're not worthy is that you block flow. Your nature is health and abundance, just like nature itself. Nature is riotously abundant. We're part of nature, and when you're in that flow, that is your experience …

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Mindful Practices for Peace

If you do this right, the tree won't fall on your house or bind your chain saw. The problem is with the concept of cause itself, which presumes that a time warp, a sequence, or a string of events will make sense. If we step outside of time, there are …

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The other side of power is faith

1/2 teaspoon simple syrup Powerful patterns are associated with health; If you hold forgiveness in mind, your arm will be very strong--but if you hold revenge, your arm will go weak. For our purposes, it's really only necessary to recognize that power is what makes you go strong, while …

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Ice Cream Sundaes, Hot Cocoa, and Popcorn

THE FIVE LEAST HELPFUL THINGS YOU CAN DO FOR SOMEONE WHO CLUTTERS The decision about what to get rid of must ultimately lie with the person who lives in the home. People do not respond to nagging or adversarial arguments. Anson Dorrance is a soccer coach with the greatest number …

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