Speak up to be heard

Add a deadbolt to the door. Mount hinges (with non-removable pins) on the outside, so the door swings out instead of in. This will make it more difficult to kick in. And don't forget the peephole! Whatever room you choose, the goal is to put as many barricades as possible …

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From transaction to transformation

Look for the UL stamp on the base of the slow cooker or on its packaging. Always follow the manufacturer's safety recommendations outlined in the owner's manual. Never use your slow cooker with an extension cord. Clear the counter top around the slow cooker when in use. Make sure your …

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Drink what you need to

It's impossible not to be subtly drawn in one direction or another, and it's likely to be on the side of sentiment or logic, but what counts is the effort to be as neutral as possible considering the position. Note, however, that the object of trying to remain impartial is …

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Living with certainty

I visited many places of worship and listened to many scientific lectures. Everywhere, there were different words. Every word was beautiful. Which word to pick to point to the Ineffable? I determined first, that any word for the Ineffable could work, though it would not quite capture the full essence …

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Hope is contagious

By the time he returned to Harvard, Leary was convinced that hallucinogens were a force for good. He started the Harvard Psilocybin Project to determine the conditions under which psilocybin can be used to broaden and deepen human experience--and also began to publicly promote the use of psychedelics. But Leary's …

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Lack of positive human contact or community

A study of the most cited individuals within a given period placed Freud seventh behind the Bible, Plato, Aristotle, Marx, Lenin, and Shakespeare. Whatever Freud's legacy should be, no introductory psychology course would be complete without mentioning his immense influence on the early development of the field. But Freud's impact …

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Soft, embracing

And on the cycle runs. So what is to be done? We have a four-step plan that allows you to eliminate 90 percent of toxic worry from your life without the use of medication. Here it is. Step one is the most important. It is to connect with a person …

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Like the lead balloon of disappointment

They can be excellent storytellers, poets, and speakers with others' concepts but may lack their own ideas. THIRD-EYE CHAKRA The third-eye chakra is located in the center of the head, level with or just above the eyebrows. It shares its center with the crown chakra. The color of this chakra …

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Always consider the source

One of the most satisfying aspects of group therapy is in helping such shy avoiders re-orient themselves towards affiliation. The challenge is usually getting them to attend. I have had patients who hid in their vehicles in the car park for the length of the session but, with further encouragement …

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Is he so domineering you feel suffocated?

The bland, secular overtones of the term contribute to a limited capacity for personal improvement and help to stigmatise any negative emotion. While it is social anxiety that is most closely related to shame, I want to examine how a culture allergic to negative emotions overlaps with other aspects of …

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No more wearables

They explored the subject from the perspectives of anthropology, biology, moral philosophy, psychology, and theology, drawing on their own research and examining the evidence that an attitude of gratitude creates blessings. In his article, Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier, Dr Robert Emmons, a professor …

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Who are we reaching?

Yet it would be naive to act as if emotions were just an individual affair, disconnected from the complexities of social conditions, outer relationships, and situational contexts. Perhaps the true power of parts work is that it helps us see what's alive in others more clearly as a result of …

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Being Appreciated

The main difference between humans and most other primates is that we have a far more developed neocortex than they do. Ever wonder why dogs have much more expressive personalities and even something resembling a sense of humor when compared to cats? This is due, in part, to dogs having …

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Channel Pain into a Cause

I did exactly what she told me to . It is my forty-eigth birthday today, my mother Lucy's seventy-second: I'm exactly two-thirds of the way to her and closing. The fatal neurological calendar that Lewis and I cooked up should extend its scope beyond the diagnostic moment: indicate the age at …

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Focus on What You Did Right Today

The value of this type of therapy was testified to by a study led by Dr Marian Tanofsky Kraff at the Uniformed Services University of the Health Sciences and the National Institutes of Health. The researchers worked with overweight girls, who reported that they binged and lost control over their …

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I know better now

In beating two world-class sides, Barcelona and Bayern Munich, on their way to the Final, he knew the imperative of the underdog was maximizing every ounce of potential from each player. In wars, it isn't the side with the most soldiers that wins, rather the side that uses its soldiers …

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Greet the day with hope and comfort too

Over two years he was told that he's a miracle by a cathedral of medics and therapists. But gratitude doesn't last; The shortfall, the denial and lack of awareness of it in him, and the denial and hyper-awareness in the rest of the family, meant that things would fall apart …

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The things you've forgotten, that took you away

For some people, hearing and listening to inner voices has proved to be positive and motivating. Competitive athletes often talk aloud to themselves to get psyched up for a game, and it is not uncommon for someone to sort through mundane tasks--like what needs to be bought at the supermarket …

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The snow comes tumbling from the sky

And there are times when frustration or loneliness or fatigue still lead me to the chocolate in the cupboard. I make a choice. Most of the time, I choose to acknowledge what I am feeling and allow myself to go ahead and feel whatever is bothering me. Every pastor is …

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You get the blessing from above

If you can become aware of this or any other repetitive negative voice (or any pattern of negative or disabling thoughts regularly running in the background of your mind), you may find its effect diminishing as your ability to be in the right mind easily and naturally increases. Moreover, over …

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Did you get it down in your soul?

There were no exceptions, no second chances, no getting clean at forty or finding new love at sixty. You have only one shot, and it's downhill from there. To reinforce that message, hourglasses were common in these staircases. The socially constructed nuances--the unspoken rules--associated with the socio-economic class in which …

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I begin to realise

More generally, as someone in Level 3 he will simply be more likely to avoid ending up in a suboptimal or disastrous mind and more likely to end up in the right mind. This is because he is aware of both having different selves in the first place and the …

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Experience the long cold wintry years

Take some quiet moments to intuitively sense where the person's heart is hurting or closed. It was a deal-clincher for me. Caroline North McIlvanney's copy-editing and attention to detail was nothing short of genius and her helpful suggestions greatly appreciated. I would also like to thank Josh Benn, Patsy Irwin …

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Trust what I say and do what you're told

Two of these students would become famous later in their own right: Pathabhi Jois and his wife's older brother, B. According to Krishnamacharya's children in the Breath of the Gods7, the young men and boys were taught a vigorous style of yoga to enhance their speed and strength. Feel yourself …

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Like a river when we said hello

School drop-off was no longer an issue. Alex was now happy going to school and teacher reports indicated that he had started partaking in many everyday class activities, which he had not done before. The shifts and changes I'd seen in Alex and his play in the therapy room were …

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When there was darkness all around instead

Olga, his wife, recalled that he suddenly sat up in bed and announced that he was dying. The doctor was called, gave an injection of camphor and ordered champagne. It was traditional for doctors to give champagne to a dying medical colleague. Chekov took a glass, smiled and drained it …

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