Encourage them to try

They hear an idea and they hold on to it until it becomes dead; But true Zen never stops, never congeals into such truths. That is why everyone must constantly be pushed to the abyss, starting over and feeling their utter worthlessness as a student. Without suffering and doubts, the …

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Help them set life goals

Ramachandran took up the offer, and from the moment he saw Gregory's house he knew he had found his mentor--it was like something out of Sherlock Holmes, full of Victorian instruments, fossils, and skeletons. Gregory was precisely the kind of eccentric Ramachandran could identify with. Soon he was commuting to …

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Give them your time

Create an action plan to stop the violence in case it takes place. Help your child learn how to express their own feelings, especially when they are angry. Let them know that it is okay for them to have those kinds of feelings and teach them the appropriate ways for …

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Overscheduling your children

If your child's car broke down and she called to ask you to give her a ride, your first pragmatic question would be Where are you? Without knowing where she is, after all, how could you possibly go get her? You could, of course, spend time berating her about how …

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Not contributing to the greater good

In order to connect more deeply with all the healing elements within and around you, you may want to stop walking from time to time and simply breathe. The more you make yourself available to these elements, the more you are refreshed and healed. Sometimes it feels like we are …

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Wasting time on nonproductive activities

As we saw in article 2, our sympathetic nervous system rules during the day, gearing us up for challenging and perhaps stressful activities. Say, May I accept things as they are. May I remain undisturbed by changing events. Rhythmic breathing will give you energy, help you relax, and enhance concentration …

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Being a pessimist

Certain emotions can be scary because they are a way for you to announce to yourself that what you are feeling is important, that it matters and that it could change everything. You leave the office feeling frustrated and confused. Like Sasha, Celeste, and Margarita, you know that something's wrong …

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Faulty circadian rhythms

You merely list the value of your assets on one side of a piece of paper and the total of what you owe, or liabilities, on the other side. Then, by subtracting your liabilities from your assets you come up with the number which constitutes your financial net worth. Now …

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A Chakra-Based Technique

When I sell it I can even make more profit! And it's true. Everybody benefits from the increase in capital. The company gets to sell two bottles at a time, Johnny saves a trip and some costs, and he can keep some of the savings or pass them on to …

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The Quintessential Safe Place

If you snore, get tested and treated. You didn't think I was going to let you off the hook with exercise, did you? In addition to a healthy diet and proper sleep, regular exercise is one of the best things you can do for your health. Another well-known gesture is …

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When the Critical Voice Is in Charge

This is money you'll use to buy, fix, manufacture, or sell. The key is to engage in commerce, even if only on a part-time basis. I believe that everyone in this country should engage in some form of capitalism. Here, we believe that capital belongs in the hands of the …

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The Effects of Trauma

Will you stop procrastinating entirely? Probably not. Can you reduce the instances of procrastination in your life? Most certainly. Not surprisingly, hearing the metronome by itself didn't make the dogs salivate. Then he began the learning process, which he calls conditioning. He played the metronome just before the dogs were …

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Letting go of judgement

And no matter who you are, there are three self-imposed limitations you have to contend with. Let me tell you about them. The first limitation is procrastination. Procrastination is especially dangerous because of its accumulating nature: When we put off doing some minor task, it doesn't seem to be all …

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Laying Our Authentic Selves Bare

For a moment, experience the sensation of any part of your body that is in contact with the chair or with the floor, and perhaps with any clothes that you are wearing. Take two deep breaths to centre yourself, then close your eyes. From an awareness of your breath, move …

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Eating out - healthiest cuisines

Life's an adventure. Daily routines can take a toll on the team to stay motivated. This is where a leader can encourage and create challenges to improve motivation. Tish noticed that her employees were losing motivation as the month went on. A lot of projects needed to be finished and …

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More effort isn't the answer

Once, you are comfortable with the idea of being around big dogs, your anxiety will reduce, and you will feel at ease around a bigger breed of dogs. Once it gets to the gut, sucralose goes largely unrecognized in the body as food; that's why it has no calories. The …

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The Role of Temperament

Remember, your safe person has heard you take the initiative to ask for the truth. There exists no concrete wall of denial to break through. The more rigorous you are with your own self-examination, the better it goes for you. And the converse is true: the more you minimize your …

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Catch Light to Boost Energy .

Sanskrit has been useful every day of my life, enhancing my teaching, coaching and ordinary living. The real remedy to Clotishness is to put insight into action. That said, it's smart to have a sense of why people act like a Clot in the first place. The unconscious reason is …

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Ramp Up Your Evening Meta-Stat Setting

Aham is a sense or feeling of existence. The goal of drive can be to miss its mark, making it a powerful underlying force to sustain bad behavior and block awareness of anxiety. For instance, when Erica's fiance cancelled their engagement she became what she calls a serial dater. Erica …

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I do my thing and you do your thing

. Unfortunately, it will never reach its intended audience. . People often believe they have no choice or have to do something because some loud part of them insists it's so. In the midst of such racket, quiet intuitive feelings from the center are easily overlooked. But with practice, one can learn …

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Above the horizon

If you have a moment right now, read the poem over several times. Maybe read it aloud once or twice. Can you feel it? But I ask you, who is Thee in the poem--the Thee in whom Emily wishes to moor? Is Emily talking about a parent, or a lover …

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To help you sleep

They also suggested flagging' that she was going to say something important by starting assertively with a phrase such asI have a very good idea-would you like to hear it? ' This case illustrates that you can't change other people's behaviour - you can only change your own, but by changing …

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Balancing the seesaw

we are not in touch with what we really desire, what is deeply satisfying. If we sit down and really think about this, we often discover that what we really want it is not what we usually think we want, or that which we have simply accepted. If we ask …

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Body language

In a series of studies, they found that cardiorespiratory endurance--how fit our heart, lungs, blood, and muscles are--has a positive effect on our brain function, and that better cardiorespiratory fitness is related to better outcomes in people with neurodegenerative disorders. They have also shown that 6 months of exercise training …

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Staying healthy keeps you out of the hospital

The next time you find yourself struggling with uncertainty, revisit these questions to help you think productively about the future, and see if your new perspective has an impact on your emotional state, your assessment of threat, and your beliefs about your ability to cope. Most people find that responding …

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You have the right to ask for help

Thus, if we had an innate mental body image, I would expect that, in a limited number of cases, subjects with standard bodies might have an utterly bizarre body image and not just a modulation of the standard body image (Figure 21). This is not the case. Travelling mindfully on …

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Keep your mind sharp

In some cases, for example, the core has a whole separate house of her own, not just a study in the main house. If a patient already has a safe place, I often suggest that she lift it into the new Safe Place. One patient created a whole amusement park …

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Compare less - appreciate more

Simply plunk down and unwind with some tea or coffee. In the struggle for survival, nearly every form of life has its mimics--right down to some of the most primitive pathogens. By adopting certain critical features of useful hormones or nutrients, these clever bacteria and viruses can gain entry into …

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Agree where you can

But, these are not your life. Just parts of it. You are an expert on one thing in the Universe. YOU. Who else, after all, could you ask if you want to find out what makes you happy? So what does make you happy? The things that you have come …

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Why is meditation important?

Note that each of these thoughts is a particular type of desolation (to use Saint Ignatius' term), because each one makes it more difficult to draw near to God or to cooperate with his grace. These thoughts make it harder to pursue meaningful, intimate, and virtuous responses to our problems …

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It's ok to ask for time

The person who catastrophizes lives in a perpetual state of "But what if? What if?" When feelings are not dealt with, they become bottled up and create a blockage, both personally and interpersonally. This, in turn, isolates you from yourself and your world. The fastest and surest way to become …

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Stand up for what you believe

My first experience with brain freeze was on my first test in college. It was a chemistry test, the first test in my life that I had any doubt about. I wrote my name on the answer sheet, looked at the questions, didn't have a clue, and froze. My brain …

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