Different Sensations - Different Thoughts

At times we would be surrounded by hundreds of deer. There is a real gentleness about the deer. All it's really doing is deepening the effect she's already had on you, which means that she's still getting away with stuff. Of course, there's also a really good chance that she …

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How to Check if Rapport is Installed

While long-range goals may not be urgent, they are important, and if you aren't careful, the important can easily be pushed aside by the urgent. Then he looks at his calendar for the week. But in life, you are the judge of your boundaries and whether they've been violated. No …

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Speak Like You Really Mean It

Sure, I can console myself by thinking that hindsight is perfect. I can console myself by saying that I had no way of knowing how those opportunities would turn out. When my niece tells me another child at school is being a jerk, I ask. When my friend says she …

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I choose joyous and loving thoughts

In this case, this unforgiven parent continues to have such an effect on your life that it's literally threatening future generations. I could go on and on with examples, but I think the point is clear: as long as you harbor anger and resentment, as long as you keep carrying …

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Rapport in Practice

Not anything. Good seeds boost you up. Bad ones tear you down. And I'm no longer being torn because she showed me what true friendship was. This isn't to say that good seeds always feel good when they're planted. Some of the best seeds you can get come in the …

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Is there a health without water?

You keep your old number, use a normal SIM card, and get three weeks of use per battery charge. As His Royal Highness Prince Charles says so well in his article Harmony: A New Way Of Looking At Our World, the planet has fallen out of harmony with the natural …

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Interchangeability of well-being, fitness and health

We were cranky and tired and often joked to each other about wishing we could just run away to the woods. Who hasn't found peace and inspiration walking through a forest, diving into ocean waves, or experiencing the simple pleasures of a park filled with songbirds? We need no PhD …

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Selecting an Empowering Environment

In 1966, that figure reached six million, and a year later, in 1967, Time magazine was touting the pill as revolutionary. By 1990, 80% of American women born since the end of World War II had been on the pill at some point in their lives. In 1993, The Economist …

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Dealing With Awkward Silences

This is what we'll be analyzing in this article, among many other things. Japanese people love the convenience of cities and the way they offer anything a consumer could possibly want, from Kobe meat (the best in the world) to cat cafes, but this culture's fascination with nature is pervasive …

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Your Choices Add Up

If you want proof, as well as a few quick wins, carry on turning the articles . Ignaz Semmelweis was a Hungarian medic, circa a lot of years ago, who had the bonkers idea that washing your hands before performing surgery would stop people dying. So, if you had a fever …

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Take the Focus Off the Human Encounter

Over 800 years ago, the Persian poet Rumi said, The art of knowing is knowing what to ignore. <a href='http://www.ticketea.com/echo_view/?referer=http://http://eurofixings.co.uk'>Rarely</a> has ancient wisdom seemed more applicable to the modern world. <a href='http://sim.usal.es/go …

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Your partner makes you feel worthless

Alcoholism eventually killed his father despite the best efforts he and his family made to interrupt this very vicious circle. As a clinical psychologist, Prochaska, along with his colleague Carlo DiClemente, sought out smokers who had successfully quit on their own to better understand the mechanisms of change. People initially …

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Being asked to stop seeing family and friends

I asked the girl's name and we were introduced. Then the girl's mother asked if my husband and I had any children. I was very pleased with the response that emerged, since I'm never quite sure what's going to come out. I have no pat answer; But this time I …

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Being alone and off a device is difficult.

Of course, that didn't stop some from jumping to the wrong conclusions, but at least we tried, through the journal, the newspaper interview and, of course, the airwaves, where my colleagues at CHFI told listeners of Lauren's sudden and inexplicable passing. As we drove up to the house, we saw …

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We think bad thoughts about ourselves

How she and so many other Armed Forces wives in the same predicament didn't end up stuck in the bottom of a martini shaker is beyond me. But she knew that between parenting and her job as a registered nurse, she had no time for that kind of escape--or, really …

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We feel inadequate

I will continue to love the Beatles for the rest of my days. I will play the Beatles for my children and their children and their children. The Beatles are a true legacy that needs to be recognized by more people today. If you wish to understand the psychological and …

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Encourage them to try

They hear an idea and they hold on to it until it becomes dead; But true Zen never stops, never congeals into such truths. That is why everyone must constantly be pushed to the abyss, starting over and feeling their utter worthlessness as a student. Without suffering and doubts, the …

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Help them set life goals

Ramachandran took up the offer, and from the moment he saw Gregory's house he knew he had found his mentor--it was like something out of Sherlock Holmes, full of Victorian instruments, fossils, and skeletons. Gregory was precisely the kind of eccentric Ramachandran could identify with. Soon he was commuting to …

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Give them your time

Create an action plan to stop the violence in case it takes place. Help your child learn how to express their own feelings, especially when they are angry. Let them know that it is okay for them to have those kinds of feelings and teach them the appropriate ways for …

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Overscheduling your children

If your child's car broke down and she called to ask you to give her a ride, your first pragmatic question would be Where are you? Without knowing where she is, after all, how could you possibly go get her? You could, of course, spend time berating her about how …

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Not contributing to the greater good

In order to connect more deeply with all the healing elements within and around you, you may want to stop walking from time to time and simply breathe. The more you make yourself available to these elements, the more you are refreshed and healed. Sometimes it feels like we are …

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Wasting time on nonproductive activities

As we saw in article 2, our sympathetic nervous system rules during the day, gearing us up for challenging and perhaps stressful activities. Say, May I accept things as they are. May I remain undisturbed by changing events. Rhythmic breathing will give you energy, help you relax, and enhance concentration …

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Being a pessimist

Certain emotions can be scary because they are a way for you to announce to yourself that what you are feeling is important, that it matters and that it could change everything. You leave the office feeling frustrated and confused. Like Sasha, Celeste, and Margarita, you know that something's wrong …

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Faulty circadian rhythms

You merely list the value of your assets on one side of a piece of paper and the total of what you owe, or liabilities, on the other side. Then, by subtracting your liabilities from your assets you come up with the number which constitutes your financial net worth. Now …

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A Chakra-Based Technique

When I sell it I can even make more profit! And it's true. Everybody benefits from the increase in capital. The company gets to sell two bottles at a time, Johnny saves a trip and some costs, and he can keep some of the savings or pass them on to …

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The Quintessential Safe Place

If you snore, get tested and treated. You didn't think I was going to let you off the hook with exercise, did you? In addition to a healthy diet and proper sleep, regular exercise is one of the best things you can do for your health. Another well-known gesture is …

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When the Critical Voice Is in Charge

This is money you'll use to buy, fix, manufacture, or sell. The key is to engage in commerce, even if only on a part-time basis. I believe that everyone in this country should engage in some form of capitalism. Here, we believe that capital belongs in the hands of the …

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The Effects of Trauma

Will you stop procrastinating entirely? Probably not. Can you reduce the instances of procrastination in your life? Most certainly. Not surprisingly, hearing the metronome by itself didn't make the dogs salivate. Then he began the learning process, which he calls conditioning. He played the metronome just before the dogs were …

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Letting go of judgement

And no matter who you are, there are three self-imposed limitations you have to contend with. Let me tell you about them. The first limitation is procrastination. Procrastination is especially dangerous because of its accumulating nature: When we put off doing some minor task, it doesn't seem to be all …

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