Laying Our Authentic Selves Bare

For a moment, experience the sensation of any part of your body that is in contact with the chair or with the floor, and perhaps with any clothes that you are wearing. Take two deep breaths to centre yourself, then close your eyes. From an awareness of your breath, move …

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Eating out - healthiest cuisines

Life's an adventure. Daily routines can take a toll on the team to stay motivated. This is where a leader can encourage and create challenges to improve motivation. Tish noticed that her employees were losing motivation as the month went on. A lot of projects needed to be finished and …

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More effort isn't the answer

Once, you are comfortable with the idea of being around big dogs, your anxiety will reduce, and you will feel at ease around a bigger breed of dogs. Once it gets to the gut, sucralose goes largely unrecognized in the body as food; that's why it has no calories. The …

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The Role of Temperament

Remember, your safe person has heard you take the initiative to ask for the truth. There exists no concrete wall of denial to break through. The more rigorous you are with your own self-examination, the better it goes for you. And the converse is true: the more you minimize your …

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Catch Light to Boost Energy .

Sanskrit has been useful every day of my life, enhancing my teaching, coaching and ordinary living. The real remedy to Clotishness is to put insight into action. That said, it's smart to have a sense of why people act like a Clot in the first place. The unconscious reason is …

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Ramp Up Your Evening Meta-Stat Setting

Aham is a sense or feeling of existence. The goal of drive can be to miss its mark, making it a powerful underlying force to sustain bad behavior and block awareness of anxiety. For instance, when Erica's fiance cancelled their engagement she became what she calls a serial dater. Erica …

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I do my thing and you do your thing

. Unfortunately, it will never reach its intended audience. . People often believe they have no choice or have to do something because some loud part of them insists it's so. In the midst of such racket, quiet intuitive feelings from the center are easily overlooked. But with practice, one can learn …

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Above the horizon

If you have a moment right now, read the poem over several times. Maybe read it aloud once or twice. Can you feel it? But I ask you, who is Thee in the poem--the Thee in whom Emily wishes to moor? Is Emily talking about a parent, or a lover …

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To help you sleep

They also suggested flagging' that she was going to say something important by starting assertively with a phrase such asI have a very good idea-would you like to hear it? ' This case illustrates that you can't change other people's behaviour - you can only change your own, but by changing …

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Balancing the seesaw

we are not in touch with what we really desire, what is deeply satisfying. If we sit down and really think about this, we often discover that what we really want it is not what we usually think we want, or that which we have simply accepted. If we ask …

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Body language

In a series of studies, they found that cardiorespiratory endurance--how fit our heart, lungs, blood, and muscles are--has a positive effect on our brain function, and that better cardiorespiratory fitness is related to better outcomes in people with neurodegenerative disorders. They have also shown that 6 months of exercise training …

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Staying healthy keeps you out of the hospital

The next time you find yourself struggling with uncertainty, revisit these questions to help you think productively about the future, and see if your new perspective has an impact on your emotional state, your assessment of threat, and your beliefs about your ability to cope. Most people find that responding …

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You have the right to ask for help

Thus, if we had an innate mental body image, I would expect that, in a limited number of cases, subjects with standard bodies might have an utterly bizarre body image and not just a modulation of the standard body image (Figure 21). This is not the case. Travelling mindfully on …

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Keep your mind sharp

In some cases, for example, the core has a whole separate house of her own, not just a study in the main house. If a patient already has a safe place, I often suggest that she lift it into the new Safe Place. One patient created a whole amusement park …

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Compare less - appreciate more

Simply plunk down and unwind with some tea or coffee. In the struggle for survival, nearly every form of life has its mimics--right down to some of the most primitive pathogens. By adopting certain critical features of useful hormones or nutrients, these clever bacteria and viruses can gain entry into …

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Agree where you can

But, these are not your life. Just parts of it. You are an expert on one thing in the Universe. YOU. Who else, after all, could you ask if you want to find out what makes you happy? So what does make you happy? The things that you have come …

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Why is meditation important?

Note that each of these thoughts is a particular type of desolation (to use Saint Ignatius' term), because each one makes it more difficult to draw near to God or to cooperate with his grace. These thoughts make it harder to pursue meaningful, intimate, and virtuous responses to our problems …

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It's ok to ask for time

The person who catastrophizes lives in a perpetual state of "But what if? What if?" When feelings are not dealt with, they become bottled up and create a blockage, both personally and interpersonally. This, in turn, isolates you from yourself and your world. The fastest and surest way to become …

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Stand up for what you believe

My first experience with brain freeze was on my first test in college. It was a chemistry test, the first test in my life that I had any doubt about. I wrote my name on the answer sheet, looked at the questions, didn't have a clue, and froze. My brain …

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Having to take charge

Do you let others know how you are feeling on the inside? Do you ever look for something you have done wrong, thinking that there must be something? If so, give an example. Do you ever feel like you are putting one over on others who are impressed with you …

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Acknowledging the problem

I just finished reading about this guy!" These two men are close in age, good athletes, intelligent, and have frustrated parents who are sometimes critical and tired of supporting them. Both men have difficulty with bosses, with holding a job, and with finding a field that works for them. This …

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Becoming the authority of your life

No matter how simple our tasks may initially appear, many, if not all of our tasks require thoughtful action; and it's for that reason many people find procrastination to be a never-ending burden. I usually had a variety of tasks that I simultaneously procrastinated on. Typically, it wasn't that I …

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Working the room

Become involved in order to show them your winning spirit (you don't just care about your needs being met, but the needs of everyone around you.) If that doesn't get you loyal followers, nothing will! Eyewitness testimony is also powerful because eyewitnesses are often very confident in their identifications. As …

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Start from a position of strength

When her friends say, "You look great!", Elisa never knows what to say. She feels hurt and frustrated that they do not see the pain she is in, yet she is tired of explaining how she feels. Also, some of Elisa's friends ask a lot of personal questions about Elisa's …

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Floating away from reality

There is nothing wrong with wanting to do things well or be a good worker, student, parent, partner or friend. Set yourself realistically high but not impossibly perfectionist standards. Remember that everyone is equal, regardless of ability. It is possible for someone to have greater talents or skills than you …

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Embarrassment can be good

If not, be prepared to move on and spend less time with them. Negativity can be deeply ingrained. Many people get into a vicious cycle of low expectations and low achievement, which begets an inner void. In a sense, there is no bottom to their emptiness, and so trying to …

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Repair your relationship house

They are after all working at the extreme. (Is it any wonder the military on long tours find it difficult?) Like being an astronaut on the International Space Station, there is always a way. A small plant is nature after all. Be creative. Look how creative your mind has been …

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Practice coping thoughts every day

And I also know that hardening my heart and approaching all relationships with skepticism and distrust is not in my nature, nor do I ever want to live that closed-off kind of life. Additionally, if I hadn't worked on tapping into my deep beauty and inner worth and, most importantly …

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Standing up for the other in their absence

We get stuck in the "if only" syndrome. If only I had more money, then I would be happy. If only I could find somebody who really loved me; if only I could lose twenty pounds; if only I had a color TV, a hot tub, and curly hair; and …

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Being carried along by the tides of circumstance

We knew we couldn't make it illegal to be either against the [Vietnam] war or black, but by getting the public to associate the hippies with marijuana and blacks with heroin, and then criminalizing both heavily, we could disrupt those communities . We could arrest their leaders, raid their homes, break …

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Are you able to show your emotions?

Are you beginning to see yourself as someone who has the grit to persevere and the hope to keep trying? Brainstorm three ways you can give your time to the people you care about and how that time can be used productively to create closer relationships. Anyone who has experienced …

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Develop common responses to criticism

Well, you have to want change too, and you have to put in effort to make that happen. If you do that, then you can change anything about yourself, and you can effect positive change in other people. When they see how you change, it changes how people perceive you …

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