Always consider the source

One of the most satisfying aspects of group therapy is in helping such shy avoiders re-orient themselves towards affiliation. The challenge is usually getting them to attend. I have had patients who hid in their vehicles in the car park for the length of the session but, with further encouragement …

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Is he so domineering you feel suffocated?

The bland, secular overtones of the term contribute to a limited capacity for personal improvement and help to stigmatise any negative emotion. While it is social anxiety that is most closely related to shame, I want to examine how a culture allergic to negative emotions overlaps with other aspects of …

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No more wearables

They explored the subject from the perspectives of anthropology, biology, moral philosophy, psychology, and theology, drawing on their own research and examining the evidence that an attitude of gratitude creates blessings. In his article, Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier, Dr Robert Emmons, a professor …

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Who are we reaching?

Yet it would be naive to act as if emotions were just an individual affair, disconnected from the complexities of social conditions, outer relationships, and situational contexts. Perhaps the true power of parts work is that it helps us see what's alive in others more clearly as a result of …

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Being Appreciated

The main difference between humans and most other primates is that we have a far more developed neocortex than they do. Ever wonder why dogs have much more expressive personalities and even something resembling a sense of humor when compared to cats? This is due, in part, to dogs having …

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Channel Pain into a Cause

I did exactly what she told me to . It is my forty-eigth birthday today, my mother Lucy's seventy-second: I'm exactly two-thirds of the way to her and closing. The fatal neurological calendar that Lewis and I cooked up should extend its scope beyond the diagnostic moment: indicate the age at …

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Focus on What You Did Right Today

The value of this type of therapy was testified to by a study led by Dr Marian Tanofsky Kraff at the Uniformed Services University of the Health Sciences and the National Institutes of Health. The researchers worked with overweight girls, who reported that they binged and lost control over their …

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I know better now

In beating two world-class sides, Barcelona and Bayern Munich, on their way to the Final, he knew the imperative of the underdog was maximizing every ounce of potential from each player. In wars, it isn't the side with the most soldiers that wins, rather the side that uses its soldiers …

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Greet the day with hope and comfort too

Over two years he was told that he's a miracle by a cathedral of medics and therapists. But gratitude doesn't last; The shortfall, the denial and lack of awareness of it in him, and the denial and hyper-awareness in the rest of the family, meant that things would fall apart …

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The things you've forgotten, that took you away

For some people, hearing and listening to inner voices has proved to be positive and motivating. Competitive athletes often talk aloud to themselves to get psyched up for a game, and it is not uncommon for someone to sort through mundane tasks--like what needs to be bought at the supermarket …

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The snow comes tumbling from the sky

And there are times when frustration or loneliness or fatigue still lead me to the chocolate in the cupboard. I make a choice. Most of the time, I choose to acknowledge what I am feeling and allow myself to go ahead and feel whatever is bothering me. Every pastor is …

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You get the blessing from above

If you can become aware of this or any other repetitive negative voice (or any pattern of negative or disabling thoughts regularly running in the background of your mind), you may find its effect diminishing as your ability to be in the right mind easily and naturally increases. Moreover, over …

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Did you get it down in your soul?

There were no exceptions, no second chances, no getting clean at forty or finding new love at sixty. You have only one shot, and it's downhill from there. To reinforce that message, hourglasses were common in these staircases. The socially constructed nuances--the unspoken rules--associated with the socio-economic class in which …

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I begin to realise

More generally, as someone in Level 3 he will simply be more likely to avoid ending up in a suboptimal or disastrous mind and more likely to end up in the right mind. This is because he is aware of both having different selves in the first place and the …

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Experience the long cold wintry years

Take some quiet moments to intuitively sense where the person's heart is hurting or closed. It was a deal-clincher for me. Caroline North McIlvanney's copy-editing and attention to detail was nothing short of genius and her helpful suggestions greatly appreciated. I would also like to thank Josh Benn, Patsy Irwin …

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Trust what I say and do what you're told

Two of these students would become famous later in their own right: Pathabhi Jois and his wife's older brother, B. According to Krishnamacharya's children in the Breath of the Gods7, the young men and boys were taught a vigorous style of yoga to enhance their speed and strength. Feel yourself …

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Like a river when we said hello

School drop-off was no longer an issue. Alex was now happy going to school and teacher reports indicated that he had started partaking in many everyday class activities, which he had not done before. The shifts and changes I'd seen in Alex and his play in the therapy room were …

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When there was darkness all around instead

Olga, his wife, recalled that he suddenly sat up in bed and announced that he was dying. The doctor was called, gave an injection of camphor and ordered champagne. It was traditional for doctors to give champagne to a dying medical colleague. Chekov took a glass, smiled and drained it …

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The street only knew your name

Ever so easily invite yourself to simply notice what's on your mind--right here and right now. Ever so gently inviting yourself to simply notice what's on your mind--right here and right now. Instead of judging the thoughts, clinging to them, reacting to them, or becoming one with them, you can …

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You are shining bright

Case presentations abound with once-in-a-lifetime ailments. Worms in the brain. Neuropathy of the clitoral nerve causing nonstop orgasms. It's what keeps work interesting. I once went to a case presentation by a geriatrician colleague which excited me but at the same time made my heart sink. A man in his …

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Let me go down to the water

Old people suffering heart attacks often have no pain in the chest. The elderly present atypically and mostly with the geriatric giants', namely falls, confusion, incontinence and gradual decline. <a href='http://www.aatravel.co.nz/main/url-redirect.php?&listingId=15453&clientId=4465&url=http://fastrubbish.co.uk/'>A</a …

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I'm standing in the darkness

That's normal. What's not normal is to let your mind go out of control. And after many other useless thinking episodes, I decided to change. I didn't have one big epiphany or super dramatic moment that forced me to change. Life is not a Hollywood drama. People that I know …

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I didn't know you stayed up so late

There was a period in the first half of the twentieth century when the birth rate was high with most of the children surviving. This is called demographic transition and it partly explains the rise in the number of elderly in developed societies. A fall in the birth rate during …

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Just more hard work and bad company

Where are you? I waved with an exaggerated, ecstatic grin and eyebrows so optimistically stretched they almost left my face. Is this really happening? Or was I having some delusional fantasy? This is why when I teach, I try to get students to just listen to their breathing while in …

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It's a love keeps getting stronger every day

That night, after the patient did eventually stop drawing breath, was the night I decided I was going to specialize in geriatric medicine, dealing with the oldest and frailest of society. There would be lots of death, for sure, but these deaths would be coming at the end of a …

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You gotta look up and say

It's an easy way to start exercising your subconscious brain. Doing so will allow you to later take SVT to a deeper level with specific concerns or conditions that you want to transform. Now it's time for you and your own subconscious brain to heal your past so you can …

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I will find my sanctuary in the Lord

Instead, schedule a separate time during the day to do so. If your intent is to use a particular app on your phone, avoid checking other apps. Please note, the better you become at planning, the sharper your focus will become. This is because planning is nothing more than intent …

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Let's enjoy it while we can

They told me about a man who could go into a trance in a shielded room, and send his mind out into the world. They mentioned experiments where he could look into locked rooms, peer into locked safes, and read secret documents half way around the world. The scientists telling …

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Lost dreams and found dreams

Create window seats with cupboards beneath them and choose console tables that have shelves underneath, too. Cube-shaped seating and occasional tables with lift-off tops are good for toy storage (Ikea is usually pretty good for these). If your living space doubles as an office space, check out The Dormy House …

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The boatman singing far across the water

Coming off a weekend that included a roaring good time at his fifth birthday paleontology party, our little professor showed up to group complete in field hat, with excavation gear and the fossils he'd discovered during our birthday dig. Although selective mutism has been a problem for him when anxiety …

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