I always clean my plate no matter what

He had struggled intermittently with ideation of suicide for at least ten years and chose the least violent, least dramatic means that he could conceive. As a result, many of us live in a constant state of stress about our financial and professional futures--which means feeling a ton of anxiety …

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Afraid of not having enough

And the person who does not value and care for it, time hardly stands on the side of that person. Slowly, my views about my world began to turn around. No longer certain I was going to end up a cat lady in a studio apartment in Manhattan, new ideas …

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The Physiology of Anger

I am washed. I am made anew, and it is my deepest desire to help others get clean too. Listen to the words and take action from there. So how can I help? That's a good question, she answered. How can you help? Dad says you help big companies and …

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About The Author

Smartphones are designed to look streamlined and cool and, above all, effortless to use. The designers don't want you to think about the tens of thousands of hours it took people to make it. If you like music better and find it easier, then you should definitely use the music …

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What if toys had feelings?

I am trying my best, but the people, the government, and the situation do not allow me to be successful in life. These kinds of people eventually blame their fate by saying I cannot be successful because I have bad luck. Being this type of person is you cannot use …

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Calmness, restfulness, knowledge of Truth

Your job may not be one of your satisfying life-long activities. As I write this article, I'm still working at my consulting job and waking up at 4:30 am, at the latest, every day. That's Monday through Friday devoted to that job. For some people, it would be quite …

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Using NLP to Manipulate the Mind

Sugar then circulates in the blood and increases risk for forming plaque in the heart. We have studies that show the benefits of adding cinnamon to foods to decrease blood sugars. When diabetic patients were given one gram, three grams, or six grams of cinnamon, all groups showed improvement in …

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Let Ur Fingers Do the Talking

Other boundaries you may make are ones such as: Nonnegotiable Boundaries It is also common to have what are referred to as nonnegotiable boundaries. This is a boundary involving something you must have or something you can't tolerate in order to stay in a relationship. They are relationship deal breakers …

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Self-control

Phytonutrients are also antioxidants. You may recall that oxidation occurs with prolonged distress and triggers free radicals that are cancer promoting and increase inflammation. The antioxidant effect of phytonutrients, then, is to decrease inflammation. Phytonutrients can be broken down into important components, such as carotenoids, flavonoids, resveratrol, and phytoestrogens. The …

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Love is supposed to be judgmental

Reading a article like this should give you inspiration to change. I mean, heck, you made it this far in the article. You're obviously liking it for some reason. This article has likely caused you to think about what you could do to improve your life or show more care …

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Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

It is a combination of time with active recovery practices that has the potential to sustain the relationship. Answering the following questions as honestly as you can will help you recognize your motives and help you decide whether or not you are ready to be sexual with your partner. To …

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Keep your mind silent and watch the ending of all worlds

My grandfather was a true physician, not only because of his knowledge or clinical acumen, but also because he tended to his patients where they lived and worked. He made house calls, even in the middle of the night, for treatments ranging from minor surgery to counseling--he was always ready …

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Wait until they find out

Compartmentalizing starts at a young age. For example, you may listen to your parents argue night after night, but when you go to school the next day you act as if everything is fine; Perhaps your mother told you how worthless you are, or you wonder why your father doesn't …

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Self-conquest

Immerse yourself in the natural world. For example, go to a rainforest and stay long enough that you forget the regular world and you can actually start seeing the rainforest. Go have one of those experiences. I'm an animal guy, so if I'm not hurling myself down mountains at high …

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Keep our memories clear

Well, he basically told me it was about me. He had been telling me I was undersexed. That I just didn't know what a man needed. And I don't seem to enjoy having sex because when we have sex I always end up feeling used or even more alone than …

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What's wrong with me?

My marriage would not be blessed as I had willed it to be. Over the years I would find out about things that were going on. Women would call my house and tell me things about my husband. Or someone at his work would pull me aside and tell me …

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Stay sharp and focused

Here's the deal: most people are apathetic. It's more than just not caring about some kid in Africa. It's an apathy that's deep within our society and accepted by everyone. There's a cognitive dissonance, a conflict within ourselves, that we all suffer from. We keep coming up with great ideas …

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Close the loop

I also stopped using an alarm and started getting up when I awoke, usually between 3:30 and 5:00 a. My wife, Erin, has the opposite chronotype and picks up speed as the day goes. So she goes to bed and wakes up later than I do. That's what …

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Is it growing?

Talking with a professional offers a better understanding of your unique reasons for developing codependent behaviors. Once your codependent behaviors are fully understood, your chances of developing future codependent relationships are lowered, and your chances of having mutually satisfying and healthy relationships rise. Where to Go from Here The need …

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Enlightenment, wisdom, insight, and profound peace

She referred to this behavior as her guilty pleasure. In session, Sandi described spending hours of her day lying in bed, examining with great intensity the social-media profiles of her friends, her friends of friends, and even people she didn't know, all the while binge eating on sugary foods like …

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My Feelings and Hobbies

You are biologically wired to need connection. So of course, rejection is going to hurt. Your natural response might be self-criticism. Try not to go down that path. What I try to do is notice it, label it--Oh, there's that same old story again--and then let it go. REAL BUT …

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I feel my well-being is kept in mind

She is able to observe him for what he is, not simply through a screen of defensive reactions. Doing so, she perceives that he is an interesting person, with bad features, but also good ones, toward whom she feels at times hostile, but toward whom she also feels at times …

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What if they are put off by the way I say hello?

The tension and panic I feel are not unlike the tension of the person who finds that I am doing things which are not myself, which I cannot control. The therapy is likewise similar. If I am aware of, and willing to accept all my sensory experiences, I sense the …

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Pajama Walks

James's upward comparisons left him feeling like his life was inferior in every way. They also made him feel as if he were incapable of making good decisions for himself. When he saw pictures of his friends on social media or read updates, more times than not he was left …

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When do you let others help you?

They are willing to help me in any way. I feel understood and affirmed by them. Based on decades of my clinical experience and training, it's not just having people in our lives that supports our emotional and physical health. In fact, many people who are already in relationships enter …

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Your friend isn't talking much

It is possible that, because psychologists feel secure in regard to their work in diagnosis, and somewhat insecure in the newer field of therapy, they tend to postpone its consideration. As to the third reason, (c), most psychiatrists regard it as extremely unfortunate that the medical student receives so little …

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What if I already was?

I will do that in these specific ways: Keep It Going Life, in Balance You now have the basic training for getting your life under control. The student reacts with some emotion to the experience of being put on his own. A brief statement of this reaction, which would be …

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You must love in order to be loved

Whatever your issues, whether shopping, reactive anger, perfectionism, workaholism, or substance abuse, it's not easy to break conditioned responses. They're wired into you and it takes effort to disrupt the pathways. But science and history show it is possible. I don't want to label all coping behaviors as bad. Andrew's …

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