Manipulation Techniques

While I think boxing and business are two of the best teachers a fella can have, aiming to improve at anything, be it writing, hunting, shooting, or parenting, will require the development of discipline. Boxing, especially, forced upon me the appreciation of inconvenience. That is, especially in boxing, I had …

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Half-Birthdays and Minor Holidays

But nothing about that night ended up being normal. We were at a magicians' conference, a sort of underground gathering of those fascinated by the art of magic and illusion. His name was Bill, or Reverend Baker, as everyone called him, and he was one of my magic mentors. In …

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Of throwing up

In each little group, people tended to look alike, talk alike, and have the same values and beliefs. It felt safe. Choices were made as a family about marriage partners, work, and property. Separation times like these also give you sanity breaks. But the best of all worlds are those …

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A Quick Review

A Lot of people think when you're dating that means you're seeing or spending time with multiple partners. Kind of weighing your options of the selected partners or prospects that you may have. This may lead to a courtship threw process of elimination by trimming the fat and finding the …

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Overnight Success

The first six months of Jace living with us was more difficult than I expected, mostly because I wasted time trying to fight against what God wanted to do within me. He wanted to open my eyes to my true self by tearing down another false identity I had created …

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FEELINGS AND MY BODY

And my intention is to become better every day. So if you judge me based on my past actions, you're judging someone else. Today, you're a new person. People think life is static. And that you are what you are. If we feel awkward, unworthy, unattractive, or unwell; This tendency …

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When you let go of everything

I also tried to create the image of the perfect helpmate during those first months of marriage. I cooked and cleaned the house for Jonathan, just like a good wife was supposed to do. My dad always appreciated a hot meal as soon as he arrived home from work, so …

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Things to Identify

Because Jonathan loved me so much he patiently agreed to wait a year and a half to get married so I would be 19 and entering my senior year in college. Prolonging our engagement was one of the dumbest decisions I have ever made for several reasons. First, it made …

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I'd stay here if I had my choice

Do you feel guilty for hurting someone as a result of your anger? Do you resent the person or the situation that has made you feel angry? You may also get advice that can really help you. Stay active doing something. Exercising is good for our emotions as well as …

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Is it difficult for me to hear no from others?

Self-Encouragement The narcissist continually spent time telling you what you didn't do right, and it's likely that those messages are still playing in your mind. The second stage is a cognitive restructuring used to recognize, question, and modify mental disturbances and negative attitudes that cause compulsive internet use and affect …

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I choose to accept these flaws

When anxiety and shame land with a big thud on any one issue, we can be sure we are ignoring others. I responded to Lori with some hard questions: What talents and abilities does she want to develop over the next few years? You push yourself further and further down …

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Use Flexible Coping Strategies

Excuse-making is the most temporary and fruitless method to feel better. Rather than repair faults and flaws from the ground up, an excuse is more like a Band-Aid that just obscures flaws and does little to fix them. You end up taking up the slack, whether it's doing all the …

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Having Hallucinations

The ship began to be crushed and started to sink, making it uninhabitable. The order to abandon ship was given, and the entire crew began to salvage as many supplies as they could. Although we can take advantage of neuroplasticity throughout the life span, he emphasized that it is optimal …

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Why you need to help

Another example is so-called screen time. At times, it seems as if today's society has us in front of a screen at all hours of the day. Narcissists don't have boundaries, and you find it very hard to set boundaries. Narcissists and caretakers both dislike negativity. The narcissist, however, blames …

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I Hear It's All in the Ear

When the same man is confronted by a set of strong policemen, it's so easy for him to control his uncontrollable anger. He does it effortlessly. A study of a nationally representative sample of more than a thousand kids aged two to eight found significant deficits in self-regulation, impulse control …

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Breathe a Sign of Relief

The Royal Society for Public Health has shown that social media can impact our sleep, worsen anxiety and depression, instil worries about body image and heighten our fear of missing out. In our context, this is satisfying both the limbic system and the prefrontal cortex simultaneously. It's simpler than it …

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Help like there is no tomorrow

What is the purpose of anger, if not for violence? In such cases, you simply need to back off a bit and then take a few days off. You can also go for a vacation to refresh your mood. Become a Responsible Consumer This is another of the very important …

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Use Your Strengths

For all its roots in the fallible business of perception, our species' ability to construct the most exquisitely florid and fiendish systems of belief is truly awe-inspiring. The Believing Brain What do you believe in? Manchester United FC? Innate human decency? Our beliefs are as varied as we are. They …

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Can you hear the early-warning signal?

Midwife Brittany-Lyne Carriere says, I don't regularly weigh my pregnant clients because I know it can be triggering. It also does not offer me a lot of insight to their wellbeing. Weight isn't a good indicator of a healthy pregnancy. I rather discuss their relationship with food and movement if …

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I choose to accept the way I am

For example, let's say you got in an argument with your spouse and something they said triggered an emotional hijacking within you, associated with the emotion of anger. If you were to think about what they said at a later time, you might feel that emotional hijacking all over again …

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The Anxiety Mystery

It is a completely unproductive investment of time. It creates clutter in your mind that does have to be there. However, we all do it. When you go through the things you are worried, you will likely find that most of these things are either beyond or control, impossible to …

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Am I too much?

This includes meaningful relationships and being kind to family members, strangers, animals and even plants. Meditation and chanting. Any positive action that doesn't generate a palpable reward feeds the soul. Theosophists believe that the soul is connected to the body by an invisible chord attached at the umbilicus. This chord …

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Common Boundary Myths

How can we trust our model if we add all the broad estimates of variables that are not so easy to measure? This indeed is a tricky question for system dynamics modelers and decision-makers alike. When we talk about finances or business, a miscalculation of a few percentiles can lead …

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Doing a Chore

Sometimes unusual experiences or emotions strongly felt by the mother during pregnancy can be clues to a child's pattern of illness. We reviewed the formulas and snacks that they gave her, along with the juices and water she got throughout the day. I prescribed an herbal formula, which was administered …

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What's the Deal with Your Kneel?

The Liver of Western medicine and Chinese medicine are thus not that different; Whilst Western medicine sees the liver primarily as an organ of poison detoxification, protein and clotting formation and assisting in digestion, Chinese medicine sees it as an organ of detoxification of Wind, smooth flow of Blood and …

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Pressure Points to Take the Ache Out

How and if the electromagnetic structure of the pericardium protects our heart and allows us to love our life and stay out of emotional mischief is a mystery, but it is getting awfully close to the meaning of life. Whilst the pericardium can be seen to shield the heart from …

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Relax your body and mind

People born with pericardial defects do carry a higher risk of heart disease, showing that its role as heart protector is accurate. The function of protection is similar to the Chinese medicinal function of the Pericardium, except that in Chinese medicine it also prevents entry of pathogenic energy. The Pericardium …

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Examples of misunderstandings due to personal situation

For instance, in a heart attack, Western medicine would open the coronary artery (clear Phlegm), treat the diabetes (reduce Dampness) and advise to stop smoking (reduce Heat). In Chinese medicine it would involve. It is worth pointing out at this point that, even though Western medicine now has the best …

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With a Little Help From My Friends

A primary school teacher who allowed me extra time in class is another example. And then there was my very special nurse, who gave up her own personal time to talk or sing to me. INSPIRATION FROM GOOD DEEDS DONE BY OTHERS I have been inspired by different people and …

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Deep in the Woods

It is probably worse to lose your large intestine and have chronic diarrhoea, or your small intestine and suffer bodily wasting, than to lose your stomach. When the Chinese described the Stomach as the origin of fluids they cannot mean the stomach of Western medicine - either that or they are …

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Smoke Gets In Your Eyes

Along the other road, there's work toward racial justice, which involves looking at how larger structures pertain to one another and locating ourselves in that bigger picture. Walking this path offers greater recognition of our own and other people's dignity and worth. It also calls all of us into claiming …

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As If It Always Happens

I am easily startled by things. I find that when I'm not in control, things really bother me. I hardly ever feel a sense of calm, relaxation, or peace. I believe that losing is not an option and winning is correlated to effort; I walk around a lot, and taking …

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Everything's Tuesday

INCREASING ENERGY I had a friend with a stutter and he always needed a long time to express himself. One day, while we were in a group together, he had to explain something in detail, and I knew that it would take some time. I went into G4 and said …

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