Between the Devil and the Deep Blue Sea

What is your history with relationships? Family: Because genetics play a role in the development of BPD, your provider will ask you about your family -- Does anyone in your family have emotional problems of any kind? Have any of your relatives received medication or psychotherapy for emotional disorders? Finances: Some …

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Best Days On Earth

Although she sees something is going on with Carlos, she misinterprets the meaning of his inattentiveness. He was simply absorbed by the stock market, but she assumes he has no interest in her. Carlos sighs, knowing that he has to be very careful or there will be another fight, something …

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Rubber Room

I enjoy being a homebody and am challenging myself to organize my apartment. I'd like to end this by sharing that I've had a couple of health scares, which is to be expected at my age. But I'm in the clear, and I am a pretty healthy senior! In memory …

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A Kernel of Truth

Now you don't believe that I can achieve my annual plan. The sales manager's dissatisfaction and overreaction caused his boss to back down because of fear of further violations. The opportunity for frank discussions about the ever-widening performance gap disappeared. How do you deal with dramatists? Stick to the facts …

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Tell the truth

He speculated that merely glancing at a piece of modern art designed to provoke a sense of unconventionality would unconsciously inspire viewers to become more creative. To test his idea, Forster asked participants to take a standard creativity task (think of as many uses for a brick as possible) while …

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Someone else can do it better

Gracious and generous God, I thank you for the gift of marriage, this continuing process of two becoming one in you. As you work in my marriage, teach me to respect the personhood of my spouse so that ours is a godly union--not an unhealthy enmeshment--that glorifies you. Teach me …

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You're not qualified

I remember that swing very fondly. If they had let me, I would have spent the whole day there, never even stopping to eat. Additionally, I spent hours watching a spider build a web or eat its catch, studying ant anthropology, lining up my extensive Breyer horse collection, passing grains …

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Mood and Social Judgment

So part of the reason we like to be with attractive people is that we know that this will lead others to think better of us. Basking in the Glow of Attractive Others People's impressions of a man were more positive when he was seen in the presence of an …

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Implicit and Explicit Attitudes

An example of a contrary Underlying Assumption is, 'If I don't pass these exams, then I will be a failure. Negative Automatic Thoughts will have a direct effect on your behavior. When you have negative thoughts, this will often result in particular feelings. So, for example, if you start thinking …

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Mass Media Biases

Write Down Your Negative Thoughts Write your negative thoughts down! It can be scary at first because, until now, they've just been buzzing around your head and seeping into your consciousness. But it is an excellent way to expose your negative thoughts. When you have written a few down, take …

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Trending Hopeful

The bar graph plots the percentage of students earning a D or below in course for historical norms, control condition, and affirmation condition. The x-axis of the graph represents African Americans and European Americans for historical norms, control condition, and affirmation condition. The y-axis of the graph represents Percentage of …

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Are there exceptions?

Coping with Stereotyping, Prejudice, and Discrimination Reducing Prejudice History is littered with examples of the physical, psychological, and economic harm that prejudice can cause to people. This harm has often been obvious and severe, as in atrocities such as genocide, enslavement, and colonization. And these atrocities often continue to affect …

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What would happen if you just did?

An unusual example of this affirmation is found in the Babemba tribe in southern Africa. When one of the tribal members has acted irresponsibly, he or she is taken to the center of the village. Everyone in the village stops work and gathers in a large circle around the person …

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What would it mean to you?

Utilizing the neuroscience perspective, Mina Cikara and colleagues (Cikara et al. Because the MPFC is strongly associated with the capacity to see other people as active agents in the world with their own point of view, this study shows us that sexist men are less likely to recognize sexualized females …

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The question why?

People in long-term marriages tend to take each other for granted. The most common of the takens include: You will always be here for me. You will always love me. You will always be able to provide for me. You will always be the same. We will always be together …

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Therapists a la carte

Something better can result from such an attempt. However, the efforts will be more effective if you understand the concrete connections. You can achieve this with a behavioral analysis. Many people think that this is very limited but on closer examination, it becomes clear that the questions about the why …

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Functional analysis

To do this, it is very important to find out the specific characteristics of the mental block. Can you identify with the following points? When you are addressed by someone, the blush rises to your face. If you have to speak in front of other people, you are at a …

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Why Do We Touch Strangers So Much?

Being fully present now includes letting go and disengaging from the limiting beliefs and negative stories we've held onto about our past. Just because you've been a back row person all your life doesn't mean that has to continue. Tony Robbins says, Your biography is not your destiny. Moving to …

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Discover your potential

For this to occur, the devotee must gain perfection in Sila or the principles of human behavior that promote an orderly and peaceful existence in any community. As a yogi or yogini, you must learn to quiet your thoughts (Samadhi) as this is the only way to attain knowledge (Prajna …

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Engaging in impudent behavior

Although research on BIRGing shows that people sometimes gain self-esteem by affiliating with very successful others, other evidence suggests that people could lose self-esteem by comparing themselves with more successful others. How can other people's successes trigger opposite effects? Abe Tesser's (1988) self-evaluation maintenance model proposes that people adjust how …

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The depth of our communication together

I challenged him to think about how he might show up as his powerful and authentic self. In astonishment, he paused and said with clarity, Yes, that is who I want to be. After three short months, applying best practices in executive presence, communications, and mindfulness, Venkat started receiving positive …

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Quit negative self-talk

If you would like to urge the negotiation to favor you, observe use of these times once you can easily talk with none pressure involved unlike when during a meeting setting. Schedule a day for yourself in the next three months. Just one day. You don't always have to do …

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Quit living in the past

In the same sense, don't continue to stagnate with them if you are not seeing any benefit. I know it's difficult, but I believe it would be more effective than an e-mail or even a letter. Insubordinate or Uncooperative Attitude Insubordination and general lack of cooperation and compliance can be …

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Appreciation Is a Fundamental Human Need

Ask them to pepper their interactions with her with the same messages. Sleep is essential for people and crucial for the performance that you achieve during the day. Rest gives you energy and strength to get started in the day. Low sleep quality limits your account and can lead to …

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Define What Meditation Is for You

Even if you have happy thoughts, place them on a leaf and let them fall and float past you. Meditation takes some practice. You may need a few days to do the meditative exercises correctly and without interruption. The relaxing effect does not appear immediately after the start of meditation …

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The Power of No

Record your dreams. For instance, let's say you had a dream that you were flying. You might write about the experience, how it felt, and what it might mean. List what you're grateful for. As an example, you might list off your cat, your family, your singing voice, and your …

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Thank God You're Alive

But it's these ill effects that made you want to cut down in the first place. Therefore, as your desire increases, you start to forget your reasons for cutting down. Small wonder that most attempts to cut down end up with drinkers eventually returning to their previous intake and more …

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Live according to human nature

Sometimes--I hate to admit this; But it is also really important for me to admit that to myself, because it's a sign it's time to get back to my center. I want to be my own center, and to see my partner have her center. Those centers can then intersect …

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Teaching Mirror Work to Children

But, especially if you're a good problem solver or crisis handler like me, the growth comes in areas where you don't see problems or crises. I'm not saying your life is a disaster (if it is, you'd better hurry up and keep reading). But I do think it's easy to …

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Receiving Your Prosperity

I always recommend wearing sandals as little as possible, but if you are adamant on wearing them, please be sure to invest in a good pair with proper support. Also, avoid the thong sandals that are worn between your first and second toe. Thong sandals tend to create imbalances between …

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Loving Your Body, Healing Your Pain

In your plan to control the mind of a private, it's important that you simply look out for the values they uphold. However, it's risky to vow to satisfy something to someone associated with value, and you fail, this might turn against you during a way you never expected. Therefore …

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How to Deal With Resentment

As you practice this pure state of relaxation, you will peacefully and comfortably absorb into your subconscious mind all that we have learned together. As you emerge from this meditation, you'll remember the certainty of your growth and learning. Bring all that you have learned so well into your daily …

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What NOT to Do When Caregiving

I recently met a night owl named Marie, who works full-time and has two young children aged three and five. She has been a night owl since her teens and she told me that she would, given half a chance, stay up until 2 or 3 in the morning and …

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