A type A personality

When our earliest human ancestors left the trees and moved to the open grasslands of the savanna, they adopted an upright stance. Possessing already this powerful visual system, they could see far into the distance (giraffes and elephants might stand taller, but their eyes are on the sides, giving them …

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Not using all the benefits to which you're entitled

We have only a partial picture of the field and so our powers are limited. In the second phase, through much practice and immersion, we see into the inside of the machinery, how things connect with one another, and thus gain a more comprehensive understanding of the subject. With this …

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Feeling like your life is a treadmill: not going anywhere

In abusive relationships, especially those with a malignant narcissist, it is common for the abuser to completely envelop every aspect of the life of the abused, leading them to neglect their own basic needs and desires to win the favor and affection of their abuser. So, if your principles allow …

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Open loops

Similarly, without essential fatty acids (found in fish oil, flax oil, olive oil, nuts, and seeds) your body can't produce the hormones it needs. Become saturated with this stillness. Let yourself be the stillness that is your center. In the beginner's mind, there are many possibilities. In the beginner's mind …

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Sitting down all day

Elizabeth and her co-worker Tabetha would learn the system first and then teach everyone else. By letting Elizabeth attend the seminar and then listening to what she thought about the idea and everyone discussing it. The feeling that she mattered and everyone involved felt heard that made all the difference …

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Poor meal scheduling

So, Felicia, we'll be at your place around 5:30 on Friday, then we'll grab a bite to eat and go shopping for the stuff to make the Christmas Eve tamales for Tio Tommy's party. Sound good? Felicia shivered and raised her collar. The arctic cold front left no doubt …

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Consuming too many calories

Gratitude is very closely related to our sense of wonder and, very simply, stops us from being dissatisfied. It is impossible to be actively engaged in the act of gratitude and to be thinking negative thoughts at the same time. I (BW) think of gratitude as an ANT repellent. If …

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Learning to Recognize Your Own Critical Voice

It seems that stress doesn't just hurt you, it adversely impacts the microorganisms living in your intestines. When you're stressed, you may be killing off the beneficial bacteria that you need to keep healthy. Fortunately, stress reduction via meditative practices may improve your intestinal microbiome and boost your overall health …

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Detaching from our expectations

You are on the starting blocks. The gun has just gone off. What can you see, smell, hear and touch? Perhaps there is a taste in your mouth. If the offended party doesn't speak up regarding this issue, the manipulative habit will not only continue but will have been strengthened …

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Seeing the perfection in imperfection

Mustard is Robin to sulforaphane's Batman. The mustard negates the harmful effect of cooking your broccoli. So, here's the tip. Whenever you enjoy cooked cruciferous veggies (which should be often), be sure to sprinkle some mustard powder on them before eating. About forty muscles located on a person's face can …

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Mindful eating

Selection of information based on external or internal factors. Does your boyfriend not mind you look disheveled, dressed in any way and without make-up? Bad news. When we're sitting at a table in a restaurant or standing at a bar, leaning over to the other person indicates that we're receptive …

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Weight loss fundamentals

It gets bigger even when there is a lot of light. Any threat to their ego is met with a violent outburst to keep their self-image intact. In this regard, narcissist outburst is a primitive method of protecting and defending themselves against any shame. They, however, can control this behavior …

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Probiotics and your microbiome

They talked for thirty minutes. Not, in a wrong way but, in a way that would help their vision and help the planet at the same time. Small pieces that fit together to make the big picture. This is how system thinking works. Mental models are a massive part of …

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Everything is getting mobilized

Perhaps you can pool resources to find a low-cost sitter through your local college or university. Or fear? But I can also see the awe. Around the corners of people's eyes and mouths, you can read the calm joy of knowing what to say, of knowing they can participate fully …

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What did you do that worked well today?

The first step is to learn what a closed question feels like, and when it is useful. Closed questions have one or two answers at the most: This one or that one? They are very useful when trying to encourage someone to make a task-based choice, like getting dressed or …

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The new personal cost-benefit analysis

This can be a virtuous circle of increasing rapport and empathy or a downward spiral of fewer and fewer productive behaviours. This process occurs quickly, often outside our conscious control. However, if we pause to think, we can choose our response. Knowing about the styles is a shortcut to appreciating …

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Your sleep environment

But at least we haven't given up. We've had a taste of rowing in Eden. I have heard stories of people (E. M. Forster is himself a great example) who have waited into their forties, fifties, or sixties to find a container, to find the reparative attachment experience. Why am …

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It is usually best to take a direct approach

Are you prepared to approach the information, suggestions, and exercises in this article with an open mind? Is it possible you'll benefit from trying the strategies to help you manage anxiety? In your notearticle, write down your answers to these questions: What would you like to tell yourself about paying …

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Take a stand when you fall

Cognitive learning is about how we think and assess a situation. It may include labeling certain situations as "dangerous" instead of "anxietyprovoking" or "uncomfortable." It also can prime our development of beliefs that not only is our world dangerous, but that our capacity to respond to that danger is inadequate …

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Creativity and follow through

For them, a good relationship is one where people leave each other alone. Unfortunately, that's not the whole picture. Life would be much simpler if you only had to deal with only the "I cans." Have you ever heard voices that say the exact opposite and talk you out of …

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Pick a good time

We sometimes hear about near-death experiences from the news or even from someone we know and trust. These mysterious and powerful experiences usually involve a person being pronounced clinically dead for a few minutes but who is then brought back to life. It is fascinating, and for many of us …

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Dealing with disappointments and setbacks

In this case, return to normalcy or homeostasis is linked to getting rid of the stressor--namely, eliminating the lack of approval. Anxiety, on the other hand, is akin to suffering a pinched nerve in the brain's fear-threat system. The pain is real enough, but it's the result of something happening …

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Practice coping thoughts every day

How is meditation benefiting you? Make a list of benefits. If you have never practiced meditation before, when do you plan to get started? Are you ready to go to the next level of meditation? If so, what do you plan to practice? Wilton would have a stressful day at …

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Learning new skills

They asked people with different backgrounds to accurately predict the British economy ten years into the future. Who won? A group of sanitation workers tied for first place with a panel of four chairman of multinational firms.48 Once again, the amount of knowledge we have in a certain area …

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Continuing your forward motion

Don't tolerate being absent, late, and not keeping commitments. Don't tolerate dishonorable, disrespectful, and disgraceful behavior. Don't tolerate having a victim mindset. Don't tolerate losing because you didn't strategize, prepare, and make an effort. Don't tolerate excuses, stories, and blame for why a goal wasn't reached and a target wasn't …

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Tips for having difficulty following through

They were told that the work that year would be challenging and the pace would be rapid, in keeping with their special gifts. Across the hall, by contrast, the Yellow Birds were told that they would have to work extra hard to keep up with their assignments; that they were …

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Do you say what you feel?

When the second timer goes off, pause for a moment and ask yourself, "Which situation tasted better?" This is a great way to get a taste of your own medicine (pun intended). By only partially attending to your present experience, you only give yourself a partial opportunity to emotionally benefit …

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Find like minded people

New information that's consistent with our existing beliefs is quickly accepted at face value. On the other hand, information that contradicts our beliefs is often ignored or critically scrutinized and discounted.4 For example, a team of psychologists had people read summaries of two studies relating to the effectiveness of …

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Impressing your family

Each neuron has a primary axon, which sends out information to many other neurons, and tens of thousands of branches, called dendrites, which receive information from other neurons. Neurons make contact with one another at points called synapses, and every neuron has from one to ten thousand synapses. As a …

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Building your self-esteem and confidence

statistics, 60 percent of depression sufferers between the ages of twelve and seventeen fail to get any form of treatment. Of those who do get treatment, only 19 percent receive both psychotherapy and medication. For the rest, almost all receive counseling alone, with only 2 percent receiving some form of …

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