When our earliest human ancestors left the trees and moved to the open grasslands of the savanna, they adopted an upright stance. Possessing already this powerful visual system, they could see far into the distance (giraffes and elephants might stand taller, but their eyes are on the sides, giving them …

We have only a partial picture of the field and so our powers are limited. In the second phase, through much practice and immersion, we see into the inside of the machinery, how things connect with one another, and thus gain a more comprehensive understanding of the subject. With this …

Breathing naturally will help you feel refreshed, balanced, and content. Shifting Standards. gaslighting tactic (see below), this is another way for the narcissist to maintain control over the victim. By moving the goalposts in this way, the narcissist seeks to confuse and humiliate their victim, often to the point of …

In abusive relationships, especially those with a malignant narcissist, it is common for the abuser to completely envelop every aspect of the life of the abused, leading them to neglect their own basic needs and desires to win the favor and affection of their abuser. So, if your principles allow …

Similarly, without essential fatty acids (found in fish oil, flax oil, olive oil, nuts, and seeds) your body can't produce the hormones it needs. Become saturated with this stillness. Let yourself be the stillness that is your center. In the beginner's mind, there are many possibilities. In the beginner's mind …

Overcoming the fear that you might have about your own role as an empath, and gaining a greater sense of confidence and self-worth, will help you continue to embrace what you are capable of doing. When you skip meals, that causes your blood sugar to drop. When you eat something …

Well, yeah, wouldn't you if you were in my place? And I'm not sure which is worse: tellin' her about my crooked dick or havin' to tell her old man how I got kicked out of the Army, when he's just like my dad: a retired lifer. Patty grimaced. Oh …

Where you are in your life and still strive to be better and love yourself more. Selfcare plays a big part in personal mastery. Ages six, three, and a year old. She takes care of the children all day. Doing for them all that needs to be done. Feeding, cuddling …

That story, those four unfortunate souls, and my home in the hills shaped who I am today. From their experience, I learned two important lessons. First, don't put all your dreams off until retirement. Our future is never guaranteed, despite our best plans. Second, we should do everything we can …

Emotional mastery is not as hard as it might seem. It is simply a way to help you respond well to any emotion that you may have, whether it is coming from your own experience, or whether you are absorbing another person's feelings because of your highly empathic nature. Emotional …

Elizabeth and her co-worker Tabetha would learn the system first and then teach everyone else. By letting Elizabeth attend the seminar and then listening to what she thought about the idea and everyone discussing it. The feeling that she mattered and everyone involved felt heard that made all the difference …

So, Felicia, we'll be at your place around 5:30 on Friday, then we'll grab a bite to eat and go shopping for the stuff to make the Christmas Eve tamales for Tio Tommy's party. Sound good? Felicia shivered and raised her collar. The arctic cold front left no doubt …

To think of it another way, inadequate sleep may be considered a carcinogen. Heart disease. The less you sleep, the more likely you'll die from a heart attack. It's that simple. If you are an empath, you may be familiar with this--and if you don't know if you are or …

Gratitude is very closely related to our sense of wonder and, very simply, stops us from being dissatisfied. It is impossible to be actively engaged in the act of gratitude and to be thinking negative thoughts at the same time. I (BW) think of gratitude as an ANT repellent. If …

It seems that stress doesn't just hurt you, it adversely impacts the microorganisms living in your intestines. When you're stressed, you may be killing off the beneficial bacteria that you need to keep healthy. Fortunately, stress reduction via meditative practices may improve your intestinal microbiome and boost your overall health …

You are on the starting blocks. The gun has just gone off. What can you see, smell, hear and touch? Perhaps there is a taste in your mouth. If the offended party doesn't speak up regarding this issue, the manipulative habit will not only continue but will have been strengthened …

Mustard is Robin to sulforaphane's Batman. The mustard negates the harmful effect of cooking your broccoli. So, here's the tip. Whenever you enjoy cooked cruciferous veggies (which should be often), be sure to sprinkle some mustard powder on them before eating. About forty muscles located on a person's face can …

Selection of information based on external or internal factors. Does your boyfriend not mind you look disheveled, dressed in any way and without make-up? Bad news. When we're sitting at a table in a restaurant or standing at a bar, leaning over to the other person indicates that we're receptive …

It gets bigger even when there is a lot of light. Any threat to their ego is met with a violent outburst to keep their self-image intact. In this regard, narcissist outburst is a primitive method of protecting and defending themselves against any shame. They, however, can control this behavior …

They talked for thirty minutes. Not, in a wrong way but, in a way that would help their vision and help the planet at the same time. Small pieces that fit together to make the big picture. This is how system thinking works. Mental models are a massive part of …

Perhaps you can pool resources to find a low-cost sitter through your local college or university. Or fear? But I can also see the awe. Around the corners of people's eyes and mouths, you can read the calm joy of knowing what to say, of knowing they can participate fully …

As happens with so many young mothers, Michelle's life was one long round of obligations, demands, tasks, and deadlines. So when do you stop? Well, that's what my children were asking. So this is a project every summer. I'm the only one doing it because everyone else thinks I'm a …

The first step is to learn what a closed question feels like, and when it is useful. Closed questions have one or two answers at the most: This one or that one? They are very useful when trying to encourage someone to make a task-based choice, like getting dressed or …

This can be a virtuous circle of increasing rapport and empathy or a downward spiral of fewer and fewer productive behaviours. This process occurs quickly, often outside our conscious control. However, if we pause to think, we can choose our response. Knowing about the styles is a shortcut to appreciating …

But at least we haven't given up. We've had a taste of rowing in Eden. I have heard stories of people (E. M. Forster is himself a great example) who have waited into their forties, fifties, or sixties to find a container, to find the reparative attachment experience. Why am …

Are you prepared to approach the information, suggestions, and exercises in this article with an open mind? Is it possible you'll benefit from trying the strategies to help you manage anxiety? In your notearticle, write down your answers to these questions: What would you like to tell yourself about paying …

If you have just got rid of some novels to the thrift (charity) store, think about buying an e-reader or join your local library. If working in your living room is a necessity, consider a slimline desk with narrow drawers and a pull-out shelf for your laptop. Losing a storage …

Cognitive learning is about how we think and assess a situation. It may include labeling certain situations as "dangerous" instead of "anxietyprovoking" or "uncomfortable." It also can prime our development of beliefs that not only is our world dangerous, but that our capacity to respond to that danger is inadequate …

For them, a good relationship is one where people leave each other alone. Unfortunately, that's not the whole picture. Life would be much simpler if you only had to deal with only the "I cans." Have you ever heard voices that say the exact opposite and talk you out of …

We sometimes hear about near-death experiences from the news or even from someone we know and trust. These mysterious and powerful experiences usually involve a person being pronounced clinically dead for a few minutes but who is then brought back to life. It is fascinating, and for many of us …

In this case, return to normalcy or homeostasis is linked to getting rid of the stressor--namely, eliminating the lack of approval. Anxiety, on the other hand, is akin to suffering a pinched nerve in the brain's fear-threat system. The pain is real enough, but it's the result of something happening …

How is meditation benefiting you? Make a list of benefits. If you have never practiced meditation before, when do you plan to get started? Are you ready to go to the next level of meditation? If so, what do you plan to practice? Wilton would have a stressful day at …

They asked people with different backgrounds to accurately predict the British economy ten years into the future. Who won? A group of sanitation workers tied for first place with a panel of four chairman of multinational firms.48 Once again, the amount of knowledge we have in a certain area …

Given a choice, would you choose differently? Do you even know what you would choose if you had an option? Are you in touch with this authentic self? Do you "get" what "it" is, or is this just a bunch of psychological talk? Wouldn't it be tragic if a very …

Don't tolerate being absent, late, and not keeping commitments. Don't tolerate dishonorable, disrespectful, and disgraceful behavior. Don't tolerate having a victim mindset. Don't tolerate losing because you didn't strategize, prepare, and make an effort. Don't tolerate excuses, stories, and blame for why a goal wasn't reached and a target wasn't …

They were told that the work that year would be challenging and the pace would be rapid, in keeping with their special gifts. Across the hall, by contrast, the Yellow Birds were told that they would have to work extra hard to keep up with their assignments; that they were …

When the second timer goes off, pause for a moment and ask yourself, "Which situation tasted better?" This is a great way to get a taste of your own medicine (pun intended). By only partially attending to your present experience, you only give yourself a partial opportunity to emotionally benefit …

New information that's consistent with our existing beliefs is quickly accepted at face value. On the other hand, information that contradicts our beliefs is often ignored or critically scrutinized and discounted.4 For example, a team of psychologists had people read summaries of two studies relating to the effectiveness of …

Each neuron has a primary axon, which sends out information to many other neurons, and tens of thousands of branches, called dendrites, which receive information from other neurons. Neurons make contact with one another at points called synapses, and every neuron has from one to ten thousand synapses. As a …

statistics, 60 percent of depression sufferers between the ages of twelve and seventeen fail to get any form of treatment. Of those who do get treatment, only 19 percent receive both psychotherapy and medication. For the rest, almost all receive counseling alone, with only 2 percent receiving some form of …