If it's not forthcoming the first time, ask for it again. It's horrible being in a position of needing help, but we've all been there. It feels vulnerable, weak, and hopeless, but asking for help is an act of hope, courage, and strength because it takes us from that disempowered …

My mother was a tense woman, and cleaned in what most would consider a neurotic fashion. I was little, maybe ten, and she'd ask me to clean, or vacuum. She'd inevitably grow frustrated with my attempt at cleaning, and lash out in anger, making me feel wrong for even trying …

It's like when you're out fishing and the big one first hits the line. Sure, there's still a ton of work to do reeling it in, but you know you've got 'im hooked. I've said something you don't like? I'm really sorry, I didn't mean it in quite the way …

Apathy meant that I didn't care enough to put on the smiley mask, and I retreated from everyone. Being alone was more comfortable than being surrounded by the people I was trying to placate or please. Do you know what else ties our personal quirks into one potent package? Giving …

Meditation in the classic sense is therefore rather unsuitable for children who, on the one hand, do not have this ability and, on the other hand, do not even feel the inner need for change and inner peace. But as you have learned earlier in this article, there are many …

They're a fool's game. One of my favorite quotes about predicting the future comes from Isaac Asimov, the sci-fi master known for his robot stories, which I absolutely love. But in his lifetime, Asimov was also known as the great explainer. He wrote far more articles about science fact than …

Friends and family notice a difference in me. Can you tell from this first draft that she is feeling defeated about her ability to create a new habit? Words like finally and phrases like free of stress eating and no longer feel are good hints. I don't wake up feeling …

Many are fun, pleasurable, and most are free or inexpensive. They are not meant to be used once or twice, but are to be regular practices you integrate into your life. Common forms of grounding include: Given what has been occurring in your life I can only imagine what you …

My stepmom went crazy. She shouldn't have been so angry in front of us. More resources like reading material about sex addiction. Questions should be accepted, even welcomed, so the family unit can face the problem in its entirety. A qualified therapist present would make the disclosure much easier. A …

When I'm able to do that, it not only builds team unity and allows others to grow but also--paradoxically--strengthen my role as leader. By granting people the opportunity to claim their stake in the team's success, the leader receives buy-in from the players and staff, and the leader is respected …

But what it can't do is quantify our ever-changing mind-set and emotional state. When he started working with high school football players, Brandon Rager used to think an athlete was dogging it or being soft if he performed poorly on the practice field or had an off day in the …

According to research conducted by the U. Census Bureau, nearly 24 million children in America (1 out of 3) live in homes where the biological father is absent. Furthermore, children with fatherless homes are 2x more likely to drop out of high school, 2x more likely to suffer from obesity …

When you start, make sure it's actually fruitful before growing and expanding your efforts. Here's a section from Tim's article where he uses scripture from the Bible to solidify his quote: In the age of instant, we think success suddenly happens to the lucky few who find their way to …

If you actually care about solving the problem, invest the time and the money and the energy to take care of it. Say no to other things going on in your life. Make this issue a major priority by dedicating your scheduled time to it. Fifth Step: Repeat. Every single …

By inviting them to call me Lindo, I invited them to recognize me for who I am. I invited them to truly know me. To be known, accepted, and loved for who we truly are is what we all want. We all want to be seen, named, and welcomed as …

Spend some time exploring social media from the perspective of self-compassion. Choose to follow accounts that are inspirational and affirming. If you find yourself being pulled down by negative thoughts and feelings while scrolling through social media, recognize that this could be an opportunity for you to practice self-compassion versus …

And yet that's precisely what millions of people are letting their activity trackers and apps do. If you're going to monitor your body, it's a far better idea to collect multiple data points over an extended period of time, like a week or a month, and then share it with …

Had some adult showed compassion as I struggled at modeling school, my trauma might have been lessened. Instead, knowing my parents felt ashamed of me cemented my feelings of failure and inadequacy. I was too humiliated to reach out to my brother or friends, who might have been understanding and …

C113: You find a change in focus, or a change in basic faith as to what can go on from the self outward, or inward, but I mean, depending on the self itself, how it moves, or changes, or thinks. It really revitalizes the whole total experience. S114: For myself …

They just seem completely bogged down by their environmental situations sometimes. Mr J: Miss E, it seems that in all our discussions you seem to feel pressed to manipulate the counseling situation. You really resist the point of view that so many of us have that the client really has …

But in this instance, Jan was coming up against a very real internal struggle between serving her family and serving herself. More often than not, she would skip the run and feel the consequences of doing so, perhaps in the form of bad food choices, restlessness in her desk chair …

The health care mandate Do No Harm also goes by the wayside when considering short people. The idea that height is important for all things, from finding love to earning higher paychecks,7 to succeeding in life and being taken seriously, is well documented in the scientific literature. It didn't …

As long as people feel that others are paying little attention to what they say, they are likely either to keep pressing their point or to withdraw with the feeling that their contributions are not valuable or not welcome. How do groups acquire the practice of attending carefully to each …

But then it probably got harder to maintain. Most likely, you found yourself thinking about food all the time. You started to feel desperate, and even foods that never appealed to you before were suddenly calling out to you. What diet plans don't tell you is that biology lies behind …

Any child of mine should do well in school/be popular. The Social Domain encompasses the world of relationships, intimate partners, children, in-laws, siblings, extended family members, friends, and social acquaintances. Common social icebergs include: It's my job to make sure people are happy. Although we have much to learn …

It acts behind the scenes, so, for example, if you feel discomfort with the temperature, you may put on a sweatshirt or strip down. Pleasure, pain, and distress are important aspects of the regulatory system as they motivate us to act in ways that support homeostasis and survival. The distress …

That is, how successfully a group adjusts to an internal disruptive force depends upon its employing direct and appropriate methods of attack on the problem. This principle has its counterpart in individual behavior. A person finds himself in a conflict-producing situation which upsets his own equilibrium. He becomes tense and …

There is apparently an optimum amount of therapist participation. Telschow devised a measure of discord in groups and showed that the amount of discord is a function of the amount of participation on the part of the therapist. The therapist is not a passive member of the group; If he …

The Payoff: Control over emotional outbursts and a deeper seat of calm Have you ever experienced a really big emotional outburst, from which you walked away wondering, Where did that come from? If you answered yes, you're in good company. Almost everyone has at one time or another. The greater …

It can also show up in an array of behaviors and disorders that help us adapt to difficult situations but don't serve us well in more favorable circumstances, including hypervigilance, heightened anxiety and suspicion, attention deficit disorder, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, substance abuse, and eating disorders. It …

Then it remained low until the eighth session, when it rose steadily until the end of therapy. Testing Limits maintained a constant level until the ninth contact, when it began a steady decline. Aggressive Statements reached a peak in the fourth contact, a slump in the fifth, and a second …

If you've ever felt too anxious or too frustrated to think clearly or handle a situation calmly, you know what we're talking about. We may not be able to solve whatever is going on with your kids, or at work, but we can help you get the emotion regulation you …

Eventually she began to go to the different banks to help her connect them to the government to help further support the community. This time she was the one returning the favor to the people. She became very successful and did many great things for her community. Everyone was proud …

And that changes everything. In just 14 days, we'll teach you a new way to respond and, in turn, a new way to live. It's nearly impossible to avoid traffic jams, demanding bosses, willful teenagers, financial pressures, health glitches, and other challenges that make up the multistranded stress web of …

In her mind, her body had failed her and no longer deserved any respect or consideration. This disconnected relationship is quite common with chronic pain and is one of the most important things to heal in order to begin the process of recovery. Lying on the table was uncomfortable for …

By consciously working with your breath and becoming aware of how you breathe, you can influence the parasympathetic nervous system and change your HRV. This alters brain wave activities, and changes the chemical structure and even the neural structure of your brain. When you have pain and stress, your breathing …

A simple I don't know allows you to resonate with your detour. You didn't know how. Instead you took a detour. Now tell yourself all the things that you imagine will happen out there. By moving around and speaking out loud, you release some of the pent-up energy so it …

We all feel some sort of a lie. But some of us are merely living a life that works better. It's a skill worth studying and perfecting to be able to forget those things that aren't extremely important, but in their current version, do interrupt and destroy your present chances …

Heading upstream without a paddle is a common phrase for a good reason. It is a very real experience for many people and is often revealed in very public statements, repeated with a lot of energy and a sense of satisfaction or even righteousness. Commitment is simply bringing together and …