The Psychology Behind Empaths

I am now blessed to say that twenty-five years into my journey, I can go days without hearing whispers of revulsion when I look in the mirror. Sometimes I go weeks between thoughts of needing to lose weight and I rarely feel guilty for eating foods that our culture deems …

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What's the Buzz All About?

And yet, just because your parents want it for you, you give in. It's the same thing with intimate relationships, which play a big role on the path to our freedom. When a girlfriend, boyfriend, partner, or spouse expects certain things from us, we often give in. We do things …

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I don't like for things to change

That is something you have charge of. Do any of the following describe the major problem in your life? It is an uncomfortable thing when you feel like you are being singled out. You will look at other people not currently being treated this way by this person and think …

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Borderline Identity: Unstable and Fragile

Observe your energy change. In this way, you can always restore yourself to neutrality, to an internal balance where you then have access to the flow of external energy as well. Bold acts of courage, personally and politically, require a commitment to acting wisely and well. You don't just hold …

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How to help without breaking a sweat

Why are you willing to suffer and yet you can't stand it when others feel even the smallest disappointment? Do you have only a few or a great many caretaking behaviors? This research aimed to compare individuals with alcohol use disorder (AUD) and safe interoceptive sensitivity and accuracy controls. METHODS …

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Making Peace With Where You Are

Does the number on the scales determine what and how much you can eat for the rest of the day? If so, get rid. When your hands are shaking or you feel butterflies in your tummy, deep breathing will help you calm down. It's always best to breathe in through …

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Put Yourself First

I have to suffer for what I want, and nothing is supposed to come easy. Third and finally, the Mayfields articulated meaning-making language, which explains why a task is important and the overall impact and benefits that the task is integral to. So all the narcissist has to do is …

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How the Stoic Philosophy Works

Focusing on the goal only makes you painfully aware of how you haven't reached it yet. But when you focus on processes, every day that you can stick to your new habit is a cause for celebration. You've probably made the mistake of trying to explain and use logic with …

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Stop the Pain Drain

You cannot focus on the grand finale alone. This is a simple idea: focus on process rather than outcome. Narcissists have an extremely high need for everything to be perfect. They believe they should be perfect, you should be perfect, events should happen exactly as expected, and life should play …

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Foolish Assumptions

We talked about it too much, even constantly. If you're in a chronically anxious (read, dysfunctional) system, your boss or supervisor will probably do what anxious people automatically do. When stress hits, she might angrily confront someone or go for the quick fix. She might give in to the impulse …

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Get Regular Exercise

It takes but doesn't give. As for my father, he took the news with surprisingly good humor. Perhaps--although I might have been wrong--I detected a tad of relief in his voice. Be it chicken schmaltz or cat pee, it is reassuring to know that some things never change. Your Anxious …

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If I took responsibility for my actions, moment by moment

With new genetic-testing methods, such as chromosomal microarray and exome sequencing, it is increasingly possible to identify genetic variations associated with a broad range of diagnoses, including autism-spectrum conditions, schizophrenia and learning disabilities. It's about not giving your primitive, fearful mind the chance to undermine your more conscious, rational goals …

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Turn off worry and cope on the spot

You can choose to get into the root of what is causing your problems, to resolve those root problems, and to begin experiencing greater happiness inside of yourself. Plus, they are single and she's been married for eight years. But still, Jane tells me she feels ripped off and preoccupied …

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Have a big mind perspective

The pathway to building a loving and trusting relationship with your body is similar to a mental health journey; But following a diet will never lead to long-term body love and acceptance. If you're on board with the anti-diet movement but are struggling to accept the size of your body …

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The safety of self-hatred

You need to let them know that is the type of sandwich you are thinking of as opposed to just making one at home and that you have an active interest in going out to get it. Otherwise, they might think you are just having a passing thought about it …

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Manipulation Techniques

Instead of this, try thinking of what could go right. Get dressed up nicely and imagine them complimenting your outfit. Maybe they will like your sense of humor. One of the secrets to decluttering your thoughts is to not have so many of them. You might be thinking right now …

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Little known ways to help

At least initially. There was a dip in the general mood right after the changes got implemented--we're talking about simulations still. It didn't matter how the board approached the simulated policy changes, how encouraging and helpful they were with the nonprofits implementing the performance-based policy, the dip kept surfacing. The …

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Fill Up Emptiness with Food or Drink

The peritoneum is an enormous (potential) space in your abdomen. Practically all keyhole surgery on the abdomen is done in this space. In liver disease, the peritoneum fills up with fluid - this is called ascites. Ascites is an extreme example of Liver Qi and Blood stagnation. It only occurs when …

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Tuning Up Your Vibration

Patients with jaundice often become so yellow that it would be comical if not so tragic, whereas the sallowness created by pancreas deficiency is subtle. These are people who do not have an overactive spleen creating excess bilirubin, but instead an underactive pancreas allowing accumulation of toxins and hence fluid …

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Why There Is No Such Thing As A Bad Day

If any further proof is needed, then it is that extra spleens are sometimes found within the pancreas, for this is the line which it grows out from! Linking spleen and pancreas is not just a matter of convenience; In Chinese medicine they are Spleen Yin and Spleen Yang. They …

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You Must Learn

Concentrating those life-giving and even life-extending benefits into grape seed extract makes French grape seed extract (FGSE) a potent tool that should be part of every household's medicine cabinet. That's true whether you are suffering from one of the many diseases of aging or if, like all of us, you …

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Talk of the Town

Cara article, a Black, queer activist and healer who is currently director of the Audre Lorde Project,* defined collective resilience as: Being able to transform inside of perhaps the worst conditions, but still on a cellular level being able to respond to intervene or transform what has been done to …

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Don't Let Go

This is a universal, submissive greeting. Gestures usually represent the state of the person, making the gesture. Relaxed hands indicate self-confidence and self-confidence, while clasped indicators may be interpreted as signs of stress or anger. If a person is twisting their hands, it means you are feeling nervous and anxious …

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A Dual Process View of Prejudice

Every single one is different, she told me. Her favorite scenario goes like this, though: The dying person is in a quiet room, lights dimmed, perhaps with one relative. The group enters respectfully and quietly, sings, and leaves. It's as simple and beautiful as that. There's no fuss. No demands …

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Prejudice Isn't Always Easily Controlled

Am I being oversensitive? Am I misinterpreting everything? Probably I am, but that's the legacy of trauma. Right now, all I can do is survive. The stress of the newness of this, the perceived threat to my life of abandonment or rejection--outside my window of tolerance, way up high in …

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The Prejudiced Personality

In contrast, hard-to-get women might appear to be a conquest but were often unfriendly, cold, and had a tendency to humiliate you in front of your friends. As a result of the interviews, the researchers speculated that the best strategy would be to give a potential date the impression that …

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What Causes Collective Action?

It also rules and is ruled by the hypothalamus, which governs all the hormonal activity in the body. The triple warmer meridian has the ability to take energy from every other meridian in the body, except the heart meridian. The problem is that triple warmer has not evolved as quickly …

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Planning to Be Objective

Beauty and Brains If we go back to the Flat Disc, we remember that it has two sides. The Angmiotic side of the Flat Disc is lined with ectoderm, the outer skin'. <a href='https://www.openlearning.com/u/whaleyear7/blog/OverTheCourseOfThePreliminaryStudy'>This</a> will envelop the other side to …

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Power Changes People

Do this twice since it is a crucial area of stress. From your eyebrows, drop down to your nose and tense it making sure to release the tension after a few seconds. Now go to the jaw region and do the same. Imagine all your tension accumulated at the jaw …

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