Respect everyone's time

Posts like Paris, here we come! Yes, you may have the privacy settings activated but how well do you really know everyone on your friends list? Save the vacation photos and the status updates for when you return. Also, avoid talking about your vacation plans in public. It's very possible …

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Get out of your own way

Exterior lights should always be turned on at night. Every door should have a light and preferably a two light bulb fixture in case one blows out. Motion sensor lights provide a bright sudden burst of light when someone walks by and can be effective at scaring away someone who …

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Own what you're doing and why

What could happen if I changed my thinking? What would I tell my friend [think of a specific person] if this happened to them? What should I do now? Questions to evaluate automatic thoughts 2 (from the Testing Your Thoughts Worksheet). On the other hand, behavioral methods (if you help …

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Who is working against you?

How did this thought make you feel emotionally? How intense was the emotion then? How intense is the emotion now? What did you do? You will also ask yourself whether the client is likely to have this kind of thought again and be distressed by it. If not, it may …

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Work your network

A good deadbolt will have a throw that is a minimum of one inch in length. The cylinder--the outer casing that holds the locking mechanism--should be beveled and made of case-hardened steel to make it more difficult for a crook to hit or twist the lock off with tools. There …

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Who's stopping you?

What you truly are is continually connected, engaged, united, and complete--without the temporal. People will say they are afraid of certain things. That helps us understand that, for that moment only, they innocently believe that the external, temporary, and material world is the Truth. That fear--which ultimately ends with the …

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Find your way

Laura: Yes! And I feel like I've already given up the dream of raising him in a house with two parents under the same roof. By my decision to divorce, that isn't a reality. He will grow up part-time with someone else and I won't be a part of that …

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Speeded up, agitated, irritable

Even though the fundraisers knew they were only telling their stories as part of a study, they ultimately lived by those stories, as McAdams would put it. By subtly reframing their narrative, they adopted a positive identity that led them, like Emeka, to live more purposefully. In addition to story-editing …

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Do I worry even during happy times?

However, if something does arise, you'll have the framework and tools to deal with it calmly and confidently, working like a team to bring baby into the world calmly and in the best way possible. I should also mention that if you're planning a home birth, birth partners you'll also …

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May I feel safe and at ease

You will have to actively birth it. I don't know why, but I imagined it would be jelly-like in texture and sort of flop out. I can confirm, having now seen many placentas, including my own, that this is not the case. It's actually quite chunky and firm. If you …

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A sense of being homeless, lost, detached

Or perhaps you have gone straight to your local maternity hospital and arranged a articleing appointment directly. Either way, it's important to realise that you are not limited to your nearest hospital. You can in fact shop around' and, if you want a hospital or birth-centre birth, choose the one …

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Do I feel that no one understands me?

Using these principles and techniques, the power and effect of deconstructive interference from, for example, ancestral, early life or cultural programming can be greatly diminished. Skinner, wanted to avenge the death of behaviorism after Noam Chomsky's review largely destroyed it a decade prior. Skinner, who was at war with Chomsky …

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Unconditional Happiness

They act as a driving force in the positive direction and move you forward. They provide an internal and mindful view of how you are useful, beneficial, and desirable as a healer. They lay the foundation for you to root, rebound, and rise as the healer you now know you …

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I'm starting with what I've got

She used every opportunity to tell Abigail how stupid and worthless she was. Depressed and beaten down after years of abuse, Abigail found it hard to hold down a job. Without a job, she had no hope of gaining her independence. Abigail told me that her grandmother was a churchgoing …

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Whose approval is required?

Everything's pulsing. This is as true of individual cells as it is of large vertebrate mammals. True stillness and immobility only enter our bodies when we die. The posture of meditation is able to reconcile this apparent contradiction between stillness and motion through adding the element of resilience to the …

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Desiring to accomplish/achieve

Take turns to speak and practise active listening. This demonstrates respect and builds trust. Feeling heard is vital to reducing fears and anxiety. Look for small ways to be more social, like saying hello and engaging in eye contact (when culturally appropriate) and asking questions about the other person. Nurture …

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Self-efficacious

aka implicit bias This kind of theory has helped me to understand why I was beaten and harassed all throughout my school years. I didn't fit gender norms, and therefore I couldn't be safely categorized (decades later, I still can't seem to categorize my gender identity myself). Faced with someone …

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Able to influence the future

Getting the measure of social pain How does rejection make you feel? Whether experienced directly in person or online, social rejection triggers a massive threat response in the brain, as demonstrated by neuroscientists Eisenberger and Lieberman in their classic Cyberball experiment using fMRI to examine the impact of social exclusion …

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Confident in my abilities

If you've ever found yourself desperate for inspiration or struggling to stay on task, nature can help. Working in front of a computer screen for any length of time quickly exhausts the brain, increasing stress and contributing to a sense of time passing too quickly. This is where taking a …

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Flip the Switch and just do it

What role does music play in your life? Are you a not-so-secret singer in the shower, an air guitar player extraordinaire or someone who likes to sing along to all your favourite songs safe in the soundproof vault of your car? Which feel-good tracks do you choose to sand blast …

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Tapping into your known and unknown reserves

They are examples of the practice acting as a nice, clean mirror in which we can see the result of our deep conditioning. Seeing more clearly, we can pause, unblend, and get curious about the drama unfolding before our closed eyes. If we can put some daylight between us and …

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Not seein' the wood for the trees

But as Whitman said, we're not just one thing: We're multitudes. Recent research confirms this observation. Scholars of core constructs originally thought that each of us has an innate slate of traits--we're introverted or extroverted, passive or assertive, open or closed. But thinking on this topic has evolved over time …

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A lie is more deadly than sin

Whatever the cause of the lifequake, the first aftershock is that the devastation can feel deadly in its impact, which appears to be a backhanded way to help us find a new way to live. An Autobiographical Occasion I believe it was Helena Rubinstein that said, There are no ugly …

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I'm in the here and now, and I'm meditating

Slow down and enjoy the process. Set goals for a season and plan on making sure it'll be an abundant harvest. Look ahead and plan ahead so you can offset the stress that comes from unreasonable expectations of yourself. But, like all of us, Mike learned even more about athlete …

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This is the love of the one magician

This is something that doesn't sneak up on you if you're aware of your body, but we've all been there--on the side of the court (or trail), panting and waiting to recover. Long-distance runners, swimmers, soccer players, and pretty much all elite athletes know that the key to avoiding getting …

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Suffering long time angels enraptured by Blake

I had a daily battle with myself and I forced myself to eat healthy snacks that I didn't enjoy. If I did succumb to my chocolate craving I would feel very guilty and often have a blow out that evening. If I feel like cheesecake, I will go to a …

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The streets are so dark

To make a living, you had to spend a lot of time on the road, he said, which put stress on his family. One day he took a load to Georgia. I had already told the company, I need to be home for my daughter's birthday this weekend. <a href …

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They knock at the door and ring at the bell

Novices in some of the reviewed studies would qualify as experts in others. Without clear agreement about how to define and/or classify expertise objectively in sport, the future of the field is bleak because a question mark hangs over the validity and generalizability of research findings on expert novice …

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Fill me up from your loving cup

They are not top down; They reflect, I believe, the truth about how people are actually responding to this period of unprecedented change. Which brings me to my moon shot dream, the ultimate cultural windmill I'd like to tilt against. I'd like to redefine what life transitions mean. As long …

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To help me from another lifetime

Martha Stewart's website lists a bevy of homekeeping checklists and tips (www. So does the magazine Real Simple (www. It doesn't matter which system you choose to follow. Just be sure to choose one, because after you have taken the time to teach your Asperkid useful activities of practical life …

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You were a creature all in rapture

Siobhan: Alex, like other children and teenagers, did not have the words to describe his thoughts and feelings, or his perceptions of his internal and external world. His play brought him to a deeper level than his verbal skills would allow. Play enables complex thoughts, feelings, ideas and perceptions to …

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Listening for that sound

With Dad it was less of a question of how he died than how he stayed alive for so long. When we are babies our world is tiny. We eat, drink, piss and shit. A few faces appear, and these faces do things to us. When we are uncomfortable we …

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