Make time for rapport today

In short, you have the power to be your best self--no virus or pandemic will ever take that away.Many others are stuck at that same point. And other people are just not sure. Perhaps what happened just shouldn't be forgiven. Perhaps that person just does not deserve to be …

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Filter out fondness

She constantly inspired in the early outbreak and motivated me, both professionally and personally. Despite these hardships, there we were, still alive and on set, covering the pandemic for a show seen across the country by millions of people. But now, it wasn't only Amy suffering with breast cancer or …

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Another obstacle to reconciliation

While it can feel unnerving when new information changes the recommended guidance or standard of care, it's important to realize that this is how good medicine can and does work. Whenever you hear surprising health news where the medical guidance or messaging has changed, ask yourself if it's based on …

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Giving up accommodation for Lent

I have a medical condition in which my brain does not adequately filter my thoughts and experiences, and I react inappropriately to things that I know make no sense. But if I change the way I react to the false message, I can make my brain work better, which will …

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The closeness approach

Many regular exercisers who worked out outside or played sports before the outbreak have been able to maintain those habits, with modifications. But for the most part, data shows that many who were regular exercisers in pre-coronavirus times are now exercising less--or not at all. The reasons that many of …

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Cultivate permission

You won't learn that how you feel on day one differs from how you feel on day one thousand. WHAT CAN DITCHERS DO INSTEAD? On the phone that day, I asked Mike to close his eyes. Imagine you're at a fork in the road, I said. There are two paths …

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Avoid personal responsibility for reconciliation

Adjust your input to your output. If you're still eating like you're walking to work every morning or going to the gym after the office every night, it's time to rethink your consumption habits. If you're moving or exercising less because of the pandemic, you should also be eating less …

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Is oppression worth the effort?

However, medication is only a waterwings approach to OCD therapy; At UCLA, medication is used only to help people help themselves. But the underlying principle is: The more behavior therapy you do and the more you apply the Four-Step Method the less medication you'll need. This is especially true over …

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Standing up for approval

Successful relationships are those in which both partners are willing to give unconditional support. In case you need a reminder of what unconditional support is all about, here it is: I love you regardless of what you need to do, where you need to go, or who you need to …

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Make time for bargaining today

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. The weight-loss industry is full of quick fixes, scams, and cures, all of which prey on people's desperation and frustration. Despite what you may see on social media, however, very few of these fixes are actually effective, and they …

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Standing up for alliance

Now grab your pen and paper and make two columns--one for your healthy habits and the other for the not-so-healthy ones--and write each of your daily habits in one column or the other. Don't judge yourself--we all have issues (me included), but if we don't identify them, we can't address …

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Repair your pity

To the energy you call God, all time is now and all people are one. Therefore, God welcomes the same inclusive philosophy today that God welcomed in the past and God welcomes in the future. If you want others to think like you, love like you, act like you, vote …

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Repair your accommodation

I guilt tripped my son last week. Then cruelty, and I said the same thing. I've definitely had moments in my parenting where I haven't been the kindest. Well, yes, I've definitely led with my ego before in my life, and I could count on one hand and in under …

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Awareness makes compromise possible

He's looking for a friendly smile and a happy heart. He's looking for the God in everyone. His need for this kind of friendship never ends, even if he takes a detour now and then. But detours are informative, too. How long he gets fooled on a detour depends on …

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Awareness makes congruity possible

I convinced her to invest in beautiful new headshots. Once she got the pictures back, she finally felt ready to start. She downloaded the apps, received positive reinforcement about her pics, and went on a date the next week. You certainly don't need to splurge on professional photography. Some flattering …

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The insight approach

Economists often refer to the opportunity cost of decisions--the price you pay when you choose one option over another. If you're facing two mutually exclusive choices, Option A and Option B, your opportunity cost is what you give up from Option A if you choose Option B, and vice versa …

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Giving up resignation for Lent

Well, sit tight, because in our trauma story, your body fat plays the same starring role, even if the medical community is still playing catch-up to this idea. As Marc David explained, If you have a headache, there's probably a thousand reasons why. It could be stress-related, it could be …

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Make time for greed today

Yet, life still happened, and they may have fallen short in ways they never intended or expected. Maybe they carried their own traumas, had more stress than they could handle, or lacked the resiliency to manage what life threw at them. For whatever reason, maybe your caregivers weren't able to …

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Common responses to partiality

If you'd love a dog but can't commit 24/7, have a look at www. It connects dog owners with local dog lovers to share the care of a dog. There are also opportunities for volunteers to care for animals at your local rspca. Watch out for wildlife. If you …

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The piety approach

That may not always be the case. That, too, can be liberating. Tomas described such a situation a year or more after our first meetings. I think we have made unexpected progress. I find myself much more often surprised by her and of course that's a delight in a long-term …

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Common responses to affiliation

Why is there such interest, such a buzz, around mindfulness? Too often, life zips by. There's no time to experience what's happening now, because you're busy thinking about what needs doing tomorrow or you're caught up with thoughts about what did or didn't happen yesterday; But thinking is not the …

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Is zeal worth the effort?

Cut the pipe: Using a hacksaw, cut 14 pieces of 2-foot lengths and 12 pieces of 1-foot lengths. Build the ladders: Assemble the pipe lengths and joint connectors, starting with the leg supports and working up. For ease of assembly and transport, do not glue the joints together. Use the …

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Is it time to see piety yet?

Those changes that have occurred in the brain, they never entirely go away. All those circuits that learned that a certain drug means pleasure or relief, all that bulking up of the stress system, that's still there. They might be diminished, toned down, or dormant, but as adaptive as the …

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Coping with difference

Show your wife; REPLACE A BUSTED DOOR Replace a dated or busted interior door with this step-by-step guide from James Carey, cohost of the home-improvement radio show On the House. WHAT YOU'LL NEED A prebored door (that has the same dimensions as the old one), nail punch, hammer, pliers, towel …

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Avoid personal responsibility for emotion

I almost always felt shut out from the others of them and was often truly lonely. When you feel relatively 'at one' with yourself you are most likely to be able to welcome solitude: feeling, to quote Winnicott, calm, restful, relaxed and one with people and things when no excitement …

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Filter out compassion

Endorphins are neurotransmitters that, among other things, suppress pain and induce euphoria, usually at times of great physical stress. It's when your brain realises your body is experiencing significant physical stress and hardship and so pumps you full of endorphins to take the pain away, make you feel good, and …

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Sacrificing Ourselves

Folks will want to grab a beer (or pass their last one) during the break between acts. So buy your beer when the band announces its last song; Work the Edges If you arrive later and try to blitz up the middle, you'll hit a blockade. Crowds tend to be …

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What will acting on adjudication provide?

And to move beyond a narrow view of intimacy or closeness to embrace a whole life that is enhanced by connection. We probably also share a hope that at least some of our connections will be loving. But, as you have already discovered, your connections with others can only be …

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Of sleeping on the couch

Nor is he doomed by those events. Experiences of childhood, especially of the pre-verbal period of infancy, are felt at a level of intensity which as an adult you will never recapture and which you are likely to deny simply because your memories do not make those experiences consciously available …

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School Bus Magic

Why exactly would talking therapy combined with antidepressants work better than either alone? Aren't they completely different approaches? Well, one possibility is that antidepressants may ensure the affected neurons regrow their lost connections, but cognitive behavioural therapies, which are all about making you think and mentally process stuff in helpful …

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What moments do you wish you could change?

Rebecca is a young woman who came close to ceasing to live her own life, provoking an emotional crisis which seriously threatened her physical as well as her emotional existence. She was twenty-two when I talked to her, and the events she describes had taken place two or three years …

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FEELINGS AND MY LIFE

And of course, single guys wind up in jail much more often. Help You Beat Cancer In a Norwegian study, divorced and never-married male cancer patients had 11 and 16 percent higher mortality rates, respectively, than married men. Help You Live Longer A UCLA study found that people in generally …

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Heal Your Emotional Past

Nobody has open-heart surgery 'just in case'. When we're talking about physical problems, it can be straightforward: a virus, a tumour, a deformity, a rupture caused by injury, a broken bone, and so on. These are all things we can detect and/or observe directly, thereby confirming that an individual's …

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