Another Time

Investigators gradually increased the temperature under the rodents' paws until they moved away. That was each rat's pain threshold, and they made note of it. Next, they ran the experiment with two rats side by side and saw that when both rats were exposed to the heat, it could lower …

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What emotions come?

Megan felt completely blindsided. After their breakup, the two remained friends on social media, and Megan found herself in the habit of compulsively checking in on Scott's life and his new relationship. As a result, Megan was depressed and having difficulty concentrating on tasks at her new job. She was …

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Afraid of not being able to buy what I need

Yes, we instinctively want to protect ourselves, but then we begin to see that being defended--building an emotional moat and walling ourselves up inside--also isn't safe. It's a false refuge, as described by psychologist, author, and meditation instructor Tara Brach. By blocking out vulnerability, we also block out joy and …

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Keeping it regular

Kayla was well on her way. She was building up her sense of self, and she was forming secure and positive relationships both online and off. If you fall into the anxiously or avoidantly attachment categories, don't despair. As I've said, attachment styles can be made to feel more secure …

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Who feels trembly?

As you read through each article of Logged In and Stressed-Out you will learn How to deepen virtual relationships and boost IRL relationships How our attachment style impacts our attachment to devices, technology, and social media How to turn negative feelings resulting from social-media use into opportunities for emotional growth …

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Conflict Resolution and Collaboration

When used exclusively, and during the early stages of the group's development, group-oriented reflections frequently arouse considerable resistance. This may be due to the fact that frequently not all group members perceive the same group dynamics as does the leader. Conveying Acceptance The extent to which the leader can convey …

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What Did You Say to Me?

To increase the frequency of that positive emotion, you need to reorient your thinking and train yourself to focus on times when you feel the spark of being fully invested in or lit up by something. Scan for Interest and Engagement Start with your positive intention. Say to yourself, I …

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Disagree and commit

Even those of us who don't think of ourselves as traumatized go through times where our brain pattern mimics a trauma response: our prefrontal cortex goes offline and we get caught in the grip of reactivity. Fortunately, you don't have to stay stuck in these conditioned responses. You can rewire …

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Doing this is fun, and we can't lose

I'd like us to dump the outdated notion that penises and vaginas define gender. Even if you're cisgender, do you really want your gender identity to be reduced to what's between your legs? Let's also dump reliance on suits, skirts, ties, makeup, or voice to determine gender identity. They're just …

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Guilt and Worries

If you find yourself getting sleepy well before your bedtime, get up and do something: call a friend, fold the laundry, do the dishes. This means no TV, computer, or radio while you're trying to fall asleep. These activities stimulate your brain and body and make falling asleep that much …

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Build Arguments Together

Thus, to ask the child whether he cares to come back would be a mockery, unless the referring agent is actually willing for the child to discontinue therapy. Within this framework of compulsion, a nondirective approach is still possible. When the child asks, the therapist can state that he himself …

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I love to sleep and to wake up

What goes on just after you take up residence on the Sticky Triangle? Awareness can allow you to take a time-out, breathe, and catch yourself so you don't go there. This is where your belief that there is enough in the universe is severely challenged. Be kind to yourself, then …

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No time to turn at Beauty's glance

How about the feng shui of the offices; Are you making money while playing your role in this organization and its drama? What about the feng shui of your office and your living space; How well preserved is your role in this drama? Each person influences the play. Over time …

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Yes, I do want my baby to go to sleep

The findings of these studies will be briefly reviewed, organized in terms of the test utilized. Since the Rorschach is one of the most widely used personality tests today, the results in terms of the Rorschach may be presented first. Muench (140), in the first attempt to measure objectively the …

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Driver's Ed

You think you're bad because you ----. In each of these responses the attitude as well as the phrasing is such as to indicate that it is the client's evaluation of the situation which is being accepted. Little by little the client finds that it is not only possible but satisfying …

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Master Your Emotions

He also discovers that even as a map, his map has contained serious errors. Therapy gives him the protected opportunity to come down from the high level abstraction of his map and to explore the territory of primary experience. By the time that he is constructing a new map, with …

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Science Fair and Super Homework

Before making a decision, will it provide details based on what it suspects the decision-maker may want to review? Does it have a related research report or polling results, for example? Is the data going to be considered credible? Is it possible to consult the company or a staff member …

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Keep Clippin' Along

If you can look at all the horrid possibilities of life with such a clear gaze, maybe I can too? It's not as if my experience were so remote from you that it doesn't affect you at all. It can't be too remote, because you seem to understand it so …

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We grieve jobs

Then I'll talk about ways to bounce back and move on from situations that have been dragging you down for a while. I'll show you how to deal with uncertainty and ambiguity gracefully and skillfully. And finally I'll cover some advice on the best way to handle a situation where …

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Food glorious food

She looked for Jesus in the dark--and she found him in the darkness experienced by other people. She found his presence in suffering. Even while in a store, they can use their phones to search for better prices or alternatives before purchasing. Some say they called friends to check on …

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I am generous with older people

Usually, these people love and know perfectly how to communicate, how to make new friends and how to be the center of attention. You will not hear gossip and rumors from them, but rather you can expect genuine interest and real help. Positive people know what pain and unhappiness is …

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Lack Of Self-Esteem

THEY DIDN'T TAKE ANTIDEPRESSANTS Since the days of bloodletting and mental asylums, our interventions for depression have advanced significantly. Though we still have a lot to learn about the complex inner workings of the brain, we do have access to treatments for depression that can result in relief for most …

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Mark of approval

Candy and I continue to take seemingly small steps forward that represent massive breakthroughs for her. During some sessions I touch her brainstem, where her reptilian brain lives; It is incredible to witness her body language begin to shift as Candy becomes more relaxed in and at one with her …

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Tips for When I Feel Sad

Their main aim is to ensure that they have marketed different products successfully and they may be manipulative so that people may purchase each of the products that they are selling. In such an instance, the manipulative individual will expect you to answer each of their questions immediately. They will …

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What codependent behaviors did you have?

It will continue to live on within us until we address it by completing our self-protective responses. That is, in a nutshell, the biology of healing. The truth of the matter is that there can never be one standard description of or marker for trauma, because everyone experiences it differently …

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The art of losing

On Sunday, bring tulips to your weekly visit to Mom's house. On Monday, dress your child in a purple shirt for Purple Day at her preschool. On Tuesday, bring your raincoat to the dry cleaners so it's ready for your business trip at the end of the week. Angela Lee …

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The mind's original nature is like space

You put the extra fuses in the toolbox next to the electrical tape. The conference room in your new office building is on the third floor, adjacent to the office supply closet. Your hotel room number is 315 at the conference you're attending. As with everything else, the ability to …

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Leave Me Alone: Mild Depression

That really depends upon your needs. Most people use this memory tool to remember a list of a hundred words. While that may seem long, once you remember the consonant sounds for each number, it's easy. Pushing back against the negativity bias As we've seen, there is an evolutionary advantage …

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Eliminate What Makes You Miserable

I admit to having violated this rule before (again, I was not born with quick nunchi; I thought I was making an important feminist statement with my uncovered head; Nunchi Abroad Rule #2: No one is obligated to translate everything for you unless they have specifically been hired to do …

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What regrets are you hanging on to?

The major difference is primarily in the degree of severity. When examining the major characteristics of each disorder side-by-side and seeing that they are so closely related, the similarities become quite evident--but only after a person has been trained to see them. I once conducted an in-service training for teachers …

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